Silverplum
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Why not just turn in your paperwork and STATE that the kid is now in the NG? Who is it that wants a copy of his orders?
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Why not just turn in your paperwork and STATE that the kid is now in the NG? Who is it that wants a copy of his orders?
The Clerk Of the Court advised me of everything I would need.I would need the form to request the hearing, and proof that what I want done is justifiable. Just saying he's in the NG won't cut it.
Silverplum
Senior Member
That sucks. (It's not required here in CO, thought maybe you could just state it and move on.)
Potentially Icky: Does your son have a copy of his orders that he could send to you?
That sucks. (It's not required here in CO, thought maybe you could just state it and move on.)
Potentially Icky: Does your son have a copy of his orders that he could send to you?
He does, however as I stated before, I could be getting my kid in the middle of a crappy situation. Making him decide whom he will side with in this isn't cool, and I've already decided to shut that door.
I'm just gonna take the high road on this one. Pay and move along. The money will run out eventually, but I'll still have my dignity.
Silverplum
Senior Member
You are, of course, correct.
This is what I wanna know TOO!
Dad, do MORE research. I'm looking, too.
There wasn't any law advice given.She simply stated what the judge will require to even consider the application.
I can respect that. The court wouldn't accept a petition to orderer support based upon saying "the baby is his". The court needs backing documents.
Just the way it goes.
Yes, I tried. For some reason, my kid isn't coming up on the database.
OK, now I'm trying to think on my feet, here.
What if I moved to have a child support modification, based upon that mom's support obligation has been reduced?
What do you think of the probability of succcess in proceeding this way? It would, in theory, force the issue of mom's current obligation is zero.
Or am I just grabbing air, here?
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Holy cow!!
Well, the one piece of info for that database I didn't enter was my son's SSN. Without it, it would spitout a message stating that there were multiple persons with the same info I was entering.
I have never claimed my son as a dependent on taxes, so I thought I was out of luck tracing down his SSN anywhere in my records. My HR Dept at my employer was able to help me,however.
My records for my health insurance contain his SSN, and because I signed the application, that also authorizes the use of the info for my purposes at any time.
So, all of the info is in place, and I have verifiable proof of my son's service, without forcing my kid to give me ANYTHING.
Praise God!
You guys are awesome! There needs to be a donate button in the header of this place. I gave up twice on this, and you all helped me to push on.
I'll let you all know the outcome.
Well, the one piece of info for that database I didn't enter was my son's SSN. Without it, it would spitout a message stating that there were multiple persons with the same info I was entering.
I have never claimed my son as a dependent on taxes, so I thought I was out of luck tracing down his SSN anywhere in my records. My HR Dept at my employer was able to help me,however.
My records for my health insurance contain his SSN, and because I signed the application, that also authorizes the use of the info for my purposes at any time.
So, all of the info is in place, and I have verifiable proof of my son's service, without forcing my kid to give me ANYTHING.
Praise God!
You guys are awesome! There needs to be a donate button in the header of this place. I gave up twice on this, and you all helped me to push on.
I'll let you all know the outcome.
What happens now?
I have filled out the Application for Termination, and made a copy of the DoD Duty Status report as showing my son is Active in the Army. I sent these documents to the Clerk of the District Court with the money orders for the filing fees and to have the local Sheriff's Dept to deliver the documents to the mother.
1) Will the Judge review the documents at any point before they are delivered to the mother?
I understand that mom has to review the documents once they are delivered, and has 30 days to respond (waiver the support order Termination, contest the Application for Termination, or simply do nothing).
2) If mom simply does nothing, will I get a default judgement in my favor?
If mom contests, there should be a hearing. I understand that I am responsible for contacting the Judge's Bailiff to request a hearing date.
3) Will I have a chance to present all information to prove that support is not being provided to my son by his mother?
4) Is there a chance the Judge will intervene and state my son hasn't reached age 19, and support is still owed? (I understand that this will be the Judge's interpretation of the law.)
5) If the Termination order is granted, how do I recover support paid for the 30-45 days that was paid since the Application was submitted?
Many thanks again, just making sure I fully understand the process.
I have filled out the Application for Termination, and made a copy of the DoD Duty Status report as showing my son is Active in the Army. I sent these documents to the Clerk of the District Court with the money orders for the filing fees and to have the local Sheriff's Dept to deliver the documents to the mother.
1) Will the Judge review the documents at any point before they are delivered to the mother?
I understand that mom has to review the documents once they are delivered, and has 30 days to respond (waiver the support order Termination, contest the Application for Termination, or simply do nothing).
2) If mom simply does nothing, will I get a default judgement in my favor?
If mom contests, there should be a hearing. I understand that I am responsible for contacting the Judge's Bailiff to request a hearing date.
3) Will I have a chance to present all information to prove that support is not being provided to my son by his mother?
4) Is there a chance the Judge will intervene and state my son hasn't reached age 19, and support is still owed? (I understand that this will be the Judge's interpretation of the law.)
5) If the Termination order is granted, how do I recover support paid for the 30-45 days that was paid since the Application was submitted?
Many thanks again, just making sure I fully understand the process.
Latest development
OK. I'm extremely angry right now so bear with my rambling. I'll do my best to not let emotion play.
I received a message from mom via Facebook. (yes, I did say Facebook) She stated that she will not contest the child support termination. I'm not naive enough to believe anything until all the proof has come out. She still has thirty days from Nov. 7 to contest, so she could change her mind.
What I'm so hacked off about, is the same message was sent to my son!
The purpose of keeping this out of plain view of my son was to keep him focused on his task at hand, not problems with mom and dad. He's grown enough to know about things, and is mature enough to draw conclusions on his own. He would ask me or his mom if he truly wanted to know what is going on.
OK. I'm extremely angry right now so bear with my rambling. I'll do my best to not let emotion play.
I received a message from mom via Facebook. (yes, I did say Facebook) She stated that she will not contest the child support termination. I'm not naive enough to believe anything until all the proof has come out. She still has thirty days from Nov. 7 to contest, so she could change her mind.
What I'm so hacked off about, is the same message was sent to my son!
The purpose of keeping this out of plain view of my son was to keep him focused on his task at hand, not problems with mom and dad. He's grown enough to know about things, and is mature enough to draw conclusions on his own. He would ask me or his mom if he truly wanted to know what is going on.
Proserpina
Senior Member
OK. I'm extremely angry right now so bear with my rambling. I'll do my best to not let emotion play.
I received a message from mom via Facebook. (yes, I did say Facebook) She stated that she will not contest the child support termination. I'm not naive enough to believe anything until all the proof has come out. She still has thirty days from Nov. 7 to contest, so she could change her mind.
What I'm so hacked off about, is the same message was sent to my son!
The purpose of keeping this out of plain view of my son was to keep him focused on his task at hand, not problems with mom and dad. He's grown enough to know about things, and is mature enough to draw conclusions on his own. He would ask me or his mom if he truly wanted to know what is going on.
Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do about craptacular parenting.
(And yes, that was craptacular parenting).
Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do about craptacular parenting.
(And yes, that was craptacular parenting).
That was the short version of the message. I won't speak of the rest. Things like implying that I wouldn't have been as good of a dad had she done a support modification when she needed to. WTH!! Assuming that I wouldn't love my son as much because I had to pay more money to mom? I'm more hacked off that it wasn't done! What was my kid deprived of that nobody asked for, or even brought up??
ERRRR
Thanks to all you patient folks for letting me rant, on what should be a fact based forum.The_Non-Mom
Member
Wow.... I am really sorry that Mom has decided to take that approach in responding to you. Have responded to the message? Has your son? I would be mixed between sending her a response requesting that the matter be discussed privately and not responding at all. Being the high-roader that you are, I suspect the latter would be your choice. 