Even if they were not able to locate him re the charges doesn't mean that they won't once they do have him located, which he will have to do to establish paternity, and the court will order child support, once the entire reality becomes apparent, he may feel differently about the child.
However I had a neighbor who also got a 14 yo girl pregnant and he was 17 at the time, he with his mother's assistance fought to establish paternity, paid child support and had some limited visitation, he loved his child.
While both children may be immature and the father lacking in responsibility a part of that might be due to his father abandoning him, just as many girls get pregnant because it fills a need in their life, somethimes these children turn into good parents. If the father is insistant on being a father explain to him that the court will make him responsibile for child support so he better get a job now and start demonstrating to the court that he can be a father.
However I had a neighbor who also got a 14 yo girl pregnant and he was 17 at the time, he with his mother's assistance fought to establish paternity, paid child support and had some limited visitation, he loved his child.
While both children may be immature and the father lacking in responsibility a part of that might be due to his father abandoning him, just as many girls get pregnant because it fills a need in their life, somethimes these children turn into good parents. If the father is insistant on being a father explain to him that the court will make him responsibile for child support so he better get a job now and start demonstrating to the court that he can be a father.
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I know my rights as a grandmother are very limited but I did not know: Where does my daughters begin, she will not be sixteen when this baby is born, and if the father who by then will be 19 wanted custody would he have that right if his name is on the certificate? What if he talks my daughter into giving him custody until she is 18, can she make that decision? Does he have to prove himself with a DNA test before a court would allow such a situation to occur? These questions I wanted an educated guess with rationale and that was it. I know it is a horrifying thing to have a 15 year old daughter pregnant, I know she is a child having a child, I know that if he was 2 months older he would be in jail (if they could find him) I like many others here need just a point of direction not a trial by oppinion or petty bickering between members. If anyone has short non opinionated answers to the above questions I thank you ahead of time, anything else can be left alone and dropped there are comments above that I could have shot back at and have choosen to just read on past that looking for the real advice I know it is out there somewhere and I will continue to look for it. Thank you to those who have given me advice even if it was harsh and brutal and scary to read, I know that there is a long road of obstacles ahead.