Thanks, but I have better things to do. If you're too lazy to give us details, you'll find we're far too lazy to bother with dentistry.
Good day.
lazy has nothing to do with it sir/madam. It's about not bashing on the other parent. I've come to realize that when I tell her side it only comes down to "there are two sides what she's gotta say about you?" It get's tiresome.
But if you must know my side of her story here it goes.
I met the mother when I was 18. She was 20. We dated and got engaged. Turns out she only used me to get pregnant. We were happily (or at least i thought) engaged for 6 months before she got pregnant and right after she found out she was she left me for her old boyfriend.
From there I've tried everything to be a part of the child's life. It litterally got to the point where I was living in a burnt down mobile home in drug land (no I have never done drugs). When she was 6 months pregnant I had a mental breakdown and ended up in the psyche ward. While I was there she stole my bank card and completly drained my bank account (about 700 dollars that I had saved for a place to live). While in the psyche ward I lost my job. From there I was transferred to Texas to live with my parents.
I went back to Missouri to try to be a part of the child's life. I was supposed to be staying with one of her relatives. Again I was living on the streets. A week after the baby was born she spread rumors in the area I was living that I was a narc. I was assualted, robbed, and run out of town.
The mother (who's NEVER had a job) lived with her mother (the grandmother of the child.) A moth after the child was born the mother started abusing drugs. This has gone on and off since the child was born. I've tried to keep contact over the phone and have been trying to pay my support as often as I can (even though none of it is spent on the child). Since I was declaired "mentally ill" I have been on SSI and haven't been able to pay my support. The last I heard the mother was living in Oklahoma and the child still lived in Missouri with the grandmother. This was less than a month ago when I started looking to see if I can have the grandmother take over my custodial rights. Which she is more then willing to do.
Now seeing as I can barely (if at all) support myself I don't want to take the chance of something happening to the mother (like an overdose) and ending up with a child that I can't take care of. Not only that but with my illness's I really don't think that I will be capable of raising a child.
I've looked into it. What I want advice on is a transfer of custodial rights. In which case I will have to go to court and explain to a judge why I'm not suitable to have gardianship and why the grandmother is.
What I can't find out is cost, childsupport issues, or where I would I have to file (Missouri or Indiana).
For the record my mental illness's are anxiety, borderline personality disorder, depression, suicidal and aggressive tendencies. I have been on medication for the last year and it has helped a little but I still have major issues with dealing with this and the slightest thing can trigger a negative episode.
All the details are there (as far as I can think of, if there are anymore I'll make sure to add them). Now will someone please answer my questions, or am I just laying out my life story in order just so I can be told that how horrible a person I am because I've gotten that enough.
Edit: I know this will come up. I have talked to protective services about the drug use and the fact that the mother doesn't live with the child. They did nothing. I sent them pictures and they did nothing and even told me they were going to do nothing.
