Grandparent Visitation

[CJane]

Posting Hx folks...

Ahhh. Interesting.

So, OP, while you lived with your SON and his son and "raised" that child, you were also "raising" your daughter's son who is nearly the same age? So the boys have grown up together, in the same household, and you're involved in legal actions for visitation with both of them?

 

[frylover]

And in her "Children's Bill of Rights" thread, she mentions a granddaughter, too. Who is the parent of the granddaughter?

 

[gam]

Maybe her son and her DiL(that she says hates her, cause she still talks to her ex DIL), have kids. Hard to say, cause she did post children, but yet she just goes on and on about the grandson.

I would be pissed if I was her son. He already splits time with the mom of the child. And now grandma comes rolling in and wants to snag the little time he does have. And she clearly is not happy with the time amount she got in mediation, she wants more.

She should be darn glad it was mediation like someone already posted. Doubt she would have gotten what she did with a Judge.

She only watched the child as she put it all day every other Thursday. A whole 16 to 24 hours a month, depending on dad's work hours, and she thinks she is caregiver.

Dad and grandson lived with her for 4 years and if she was caregiver while they lived there, well that is her fault, she should have kicked her son in the butt and made him be caregiver.

Dang my daughter and grandson lived with me for 5 years, now my other daughter and her 2 sons have lived with me for 1 year. I have watched all these kids full time, all living under my roof. Daughter's are caregivers, I am just the sitter and grandma.

Why do grandparents not get this?

 

[LdiJ]

Maybe her son and her DiL(that she says hates her, cause she still talks to her ex DIL), have kids. Hard to say, cause she did post children, but yet she just goes on and on about the grandson.

I would be pissed if I was her son. He already splits time with the mom of the child. And now grandma comes rolling in and wants to snag the little time he does have. And she clearly is not happy with the time amount she got in mediation, she wants more.

She should be darn glad it was mediation like someone already posted. Doubt she would have gotten what she did with a Judge.

She only watched the child as she put it all day every other Thursday. A whole 16 to 24 hours a month, depending on dad's work hours, and she thinks she is caregiver.

Dad and grandson lived with her for 4 years and if she was caregiver while they lived there, well that is her fault, she should have kicked her son in the butt and made him be caregiver.

Dang my daughter and grandson lived with me for 5 years, now my other daughter and her 2 sons have lived with me for 1 year. I have watched all these kids full time, all living under my roof. Daughter's are caregivers, I am just the sitter and grandma.

Why do grandparents not get this?

Because they get attached in the wrong way, and because they develop an inappropriate sense of entitlement. They generally cannot have any more children themselves and their grandchildren are their last chance to raise children.

Its not dissimilar to a stepparent who cannot have children themselves who also develops an inappropriate sense of entitlement.

My daughter and granddaughter have lived with me for almost 5 years, and I remind myself pretty much daily that I am "just the grandma". I don't want to be that kind of grandparent.

 

[stealth2]

I have to say that my parents did help me out a lot when my kids were younger, after I got divorced. My Dad would drop one off at school in the morning, and then watch the younger one until it was time for her to go to afternoon K. They'd have play games and read, watch Animal Planet, have lunch together. My Mom would watch them if I needed to work late or wanted to have an adult evening with friends now and again. And while they certainly spoiled the kids a bit (as grandparents are wont to do...), there was never any question as to who the parent was. And really? That's as it should be.

And if they ever started spouting about their "rights" to my kids? I'd be making us mighty scarce.

 

[frylover]

I have to say that my parents did help me out a lot when my kids were younger, after I got divorced. My Dad would drop one off at school in the morning, and then watch the younger one until it was time for her to go to afternoon K. They'd have play games and read, watch Animal Planet, have lunch together. My Mom would watch them if I needed to work late or wanted to have an adult evening with friends now and again. And while they certainly spoiled the kids a bit (as grandparents are wont to do...), there was never any question as to who the parent was. And really? That's as it should be.

And if they ever started spouting about their "rights" to my kids? I'd be making us mighty scarce.

Sounds like the perfect grandparents! That's how things went with my dad and stepmom. My MIL? Not so much. Once, my BIL told her 'Mama, just stay out it....they're my kids and I know what I'm doing", and she actually replied "Oh yes I DO have the right to have my say...they're MY BLOOD TOO!"

 

[CJane]

Sounds like the perfect grandparents! That's how things went with my dad and stepmom. My MIL? Not so much. Once, my BIL told her 'Mama, just stay out it....they're my kids and I know what I'm doing", and she actually replied "Oh yes I DO have the right to have my say...they're MY BLOOD TOO!"

My mom once said to me "Well, I consider my grandchildren my children too!" And I said "Um, no. You gave birth to 5 of us, WE gave birth to the rest. I did not go through a total of 49 hours of labor so that someone else could think of them as theirs."

 

[stealth2]

I remember the first time my MIL said to my firstborn- "Sweetheart - come to Mommy." Oh no. I don't think so.

 

[Isis1]

I remember the first time my MIL said to my firstborn- "Sweetheart - come to Mommy." Oh no. I don't think so.

I've actually had it out with my husband over his cousin calling our children "her babies". Then I had it out with his coworker for the saying the same thing. She didn't like that. No one has heard from her since! I don't think it's funny one iota!