grandparents rights?

[Just Blue]

If I had known then what I know now, I would have kept them away from her. As it is she has NEVER had unsupervised time with either child. Being away from her has allowed me to get some self confidence and to really see how bad she is. It is so easy for someone on the outside looking in to automatically see something is wrong. It is different, however, when you are raised and conditioned to the way she wants. "You don't know what you're missing if you never had it to begin with." In this case I didn't know I was missing having a loving mom. I thought all moms were this way and that I really was a bad child. It is a hard thing to come back from being constantly put down, told you're stupid, bad, worthless, and awful, as far back as I can remember (age 5-6.) It took me a long time, and now I am doing something about it.

I could spend all day attempting to explain this to you, but in the end, would you ever truly understand? The point is I am trying to make things right now. And I am asking for help. I would just call and talk to someone, but those incredibly bad social skills would pop up again. Typing is much easier for me to get what I need to say out there. I've added a couple questions to the original post if you haven't seen them already.

I have no issues trying to help you to understand me more if you would like, but I really would like some help as well.

Nope. I do get it.

I would not let "special crazy" anywhere near either child or myself. Time to sever the "crazy" "cord".

Good luck to you and all your family.

 

[Ladyback1]

Right now, I am trying to think of things that she might do and prepare myself for them as best as I can.

Ya know? You can "prepare" (aka WORRY) too much, and make yourself crazy?

I really, really, really think that you need to relax a bit on the "preparing". I see your planning the way it comes across here as extremely unhealthy (mentally).

 

[Ninariki]

Ya know? You can "prepare" (aka WORRY) too much, and make yourself crazy?

I really, really, really think that you need to relax a bit on the "preparing". I see your planning the way it comes across here as extremely unhealthy (mentally).

Oh! you surprised me, I didn't know there were mental health professionals running around on here, nice of you to pop in without even half of the whole story....Point made?

I see my planning as protecting myself and my two beautiful kids. Am I not allowed to ask questions in preparation for something that may never happen? I mean let's see here...the definition of prepare... "make (someone) ready or able to do or deal with something." Found by typing into the search bar of google chrome "definition of prepare"

Now, since people apparently keep missing my actual questions.

What sort of things do I need to have to get a restraining order?

What do I do if someone makes a call to CPS and gives them some made-up story? <--Is this something I would need to keep track of, or do they, or both?

p.s. If you want more information on my situation, look up "The Harpy's Child" It is almost like someone wrote my mother's biography. Maybe you will not think of me as "mental" after reading through it a bit.

 

[cbg]

What sort of things do I need to have to get a restraining order?

Proof of actual, imminent harm

 

[Ninariki]

What sort of things do I need to have to get a restraining order?

Proof of actual, imminent harm

I believe someone said in a second thread I made yesterday that WI allows a harassment order as well. What's the difference?

 

[ecmst12]

Well you'd have to actually be being harassed, to start.

 

[Ninariki]

nvm...I'll just look for info myself...

 

[Ladyback1]

Oh! you surprised me, I didn't know there were mental health professionals running around on here, nice of you to pop in without even half of the whole story....Point made?

I see my planning as protecting myself and my two beautiful kids. Am I not allowed to ask questions in preparation for something that may never happen? I mean let's see here...the definition of prepare... "make (someone) ready or able to do or deal with something." Found by typing into the search bar of google chrome "definition of prepare"

Now, since people apparently keep missing my actual questions.

What sort of things do I need to have to get a restraining order?

What do I do if someone makes a call to CPS and gives them some made-up story? <--Is this something I would need to keep track of, or do they, or both?

p.s. If you want more information on my situation, look up "The Harpy's Child" It is almost like someone wrote my mother's biography. Maybe you will not think of me as "mental" after reading through it a bit.

Hey, sweet pea? I was married to a narcissistic bi-polar for 15 years. I know "a special kind of crazy". (oh and he was physically abusive as well...)
I got divorced and moved on. Pulled on my big girl panties and made a better life for me and my children. (you want insight as to what I lived through? Read "Why Does He Do That?")

1) what you need for a restraining order is dependent on the state you're in. I'm not gonna do your research for you. Learn to use google.
2) if someone calls CPS (and it's anonymous), then no one can keep track of who's making the calls. Not you, not CPS. And even if the caller provides their name? You may/may not have a right to know who made the call. For all you know, it could be one of your child's teachers.

Quit focusing on your mother and the "what-ifs". Focus on getting yourself better mentally. Have you discussed with your therapist about your fantasies and fears about what your mother COULD possibly, maybe, might never, do???

 

[ecmst12]

I'm not sure what was insufficient about my answer. You are not being harassed. You are anticipating problems that may never happen. You want to cut your mom out of your life, DO IT. Don't worry about how she will react, just do it. Live your life. What you are doing now is just giving her more control.

 

[Ninariki]

You want to cut your mom out of your life, DO IT. Don't worry about how she will react, just do it. Live your life. What you are doing now is just giving her more control.

THAT was actually rather helpful, thanks, lol.