HELP ...living arrangements

[clomicka]

What is the name of your state? FL

All,

I have an intelligent 14 year old daughter who’s primary residence, for the moment, is her mom’s house. Her mom has a three bedroom house. There is a room for her, her 10 year old brother and her mom/step-father. Her mom is pregnant and due in June with a half sister. Her mom is ‘building’ a room for my daughter; get this, in the garage. To the best of our knowledge, they are doing the work themselves but seem to have permits. The room was suppose to be finished before the baby is born but will not be due to problems beyond our knowlege.

It suffices to say I don’t want my daughter living in a garage. I pay plenty of support and my daughter deserves better. I doubt the work they are going to do will be professional. It may possibly be unsafe. It may pass codes it may not. Either way I don’t want my daughter living in a half-assed bedroom built in a garage.

What can we do?
Thanks

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? FL

All,

I have an intelligent 14 year old daughter who’s primary residence, for the moment, is her mom’s house. Her mom has a three bedroom house. There is a room for her, her 10 year old brother and her mom/step-father. Her mom is pregnant and due in June with a half sister. Her mom is ‘building’ a room for my daughter; get this, in the garage. To the best of our knowledge, they are doing the work themselves but seem to have permits. The room was suppose to be finished before the baby is born but will not be due to problems beyond our knowlege.

It suffices to say I don’t want my daughter living in a garage. I pay plenty of support and my daughter deserves better. I doubt the work they are going to do will be professional. It may possibly be unsafe. It may pass codes it may not. Either way I don’t want my daughter living in a half-assed bedroom built in a garage.

What can we do?
Thanks

Is it an attached garage? If so, it could end up being a much better and bigger bedroom than the one she has now. Don't make waves until you know the final results. People convert attached garages into exta living space all the time.

 

[stealth2]

And I bet your 14yo is going to think it is the coolest thing ever. This is not something you're going to have any control over.

 

[clomicka]

Thanks but....

If they don't raise the floor or insulate it properly; we have been told by contractor that it won't hold coolness or heat and will loaded with roaches.

This work is not being done by a professional and when we asked opinion of professional in the business they told us it would be infested?

Should we have building inspectors check it?

We pay good money for her to live in a "real room". She just re-painted and did the room she is in; currently. Why should she have to move into a piece or crap?

Sorry for running on...She was picked to live in the garaged because of her brother's father not allowing him to stay in there.

Thanks

 

[stealth2]

Should we have building inspectors check it?

Hello? It's not your house. You have no right to have it inspected nuless a court gives you the right. I can tell you that if my ex hired someone to come in and inspect a portion of my home, I'd throw the guy out on his ear! IF there is a problem once the renovation is done and IF you can prove it, you might have a leg to stand on. But at this point you can do nothing.

 

[Phnx02]

What is the name of your state? FL

All,

I have an intelligent 14 year old daughter who’s primary residence, for the moment, is her mom’s house. Her mom has a three bedroom house. There is a room for her, her 10 year old brother and her mom/step-father. Her mom is pregnant and due in June with a half sister. Her mom is ‘building’ a room for my daughter; get this, in the garage. To the best of our knowledge, they are doing the work themselves but seem to have permits. The room was suppose to be finished before the baby is born but will not be due to problems beyond our knowlege.

It suffices to say I don’t want my daughter living in a garage. I pay plenty of support and my daughter deserves better. I doubt the work they are going to do will be professional. It may possibly be unsafe. It may pass codes it may not. Either way I don’t want my daughter living in a half-assed bedroom built in a garage.

What can we do?
Thanks

I know it sounds weird, but don't make waves until you see the finished result. My girlfreind's husband refinished their garage into a large playroom for the daycare she runs out of the home. It is 100% compliant as any other room in their house with carpeting, outlets, a/c and proper windows and doors for fire escape.

 

[joan marie]

What is the name of your state? FL
It suffices to say I don’t want my daughter living in a garage. I pay plenty of support and my daughter deserves better. I doubt the work they are going to do will be professional. It may possibly be unsafe. It may pass codes it may not. Either way I don’t want my daughter living in a half-assed bedroom built in a garage.
What can we do?
Thanks

I'd venture to guess that at 14 she might like it.

We've heard how you feel but have you asked your daughter? Maybe she is happy about the change? I think as long as it is safe? there not much you can do.

enjoy
joan marie *

 

[rmet4nzkx]

OP has been complaining about this issue re her SD for more than 4 months
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=211771 https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=218666 https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=218670
Apparently not liking the answers so repeatedly reposts essentially the same question.

Most 14 yo children would love to have a room built from them. If they have permits, what is your problem? Oh, yes, that your husband has to pay child support and would like to have custody of the child so you don't have to pay child support so you look for excuses. Oh yes, then you would have one up on biomom as well.

You need to face the fact that this is not your child and she has siblings that are not related you or your husband but are related to her. They are a part of her life as is her mom. Her parents have to cooporate together, your constant interference may make you feel better now but in the long run, your interference will backfire on you.

 

[nextwife]

I have seen many magnificent additions utilizing the attached garage. The prior owners of our home had plans done for an expansion, adding a bedroom, using the attached garage, then adding a new garage to the side of that. It would have had skylights, a huge closet, and so on. And our building codes are very strict.

 

[clomicka]

Well I can see this must be a forum for all you mothers with rights

The reason we asked this question in the first place is that our daughter WOULD like to keep the room she currently has and just renovated until Mom decided to bring more kids into a family of which she takes no responsibility to NO-ONE but herself and her new husband. Our daughter hates being there "Period". Her renovated room was done with some things she bought from our monies that she earned her....pretty sad.

So anyways; thank for some of the wonderful negative encouragement you offer Fathers who want a positive relationship and a safe environment for their children. We don't give a rat's butt if her mother has 10 more children as long as our daughter can get a car, go to prom, and get to her after school activities with her magnet school of which we helped her get in because Mom is constantly negative about it.

Would appreciate some positive comments instead of all this bad blood from you all.


Most 14 yo children would love to have a room built from them. If they have permits, what is your problem? Oh, yes, that your husband has to pay child support and would like to have custody of the child so you don't have to pay child support so you look for excuses. Oh yes, then you would have one up on biomom as well.

You need to face the fact that this is not your child and she has siblings that are not related you or your husband but are related to her. They are a part of her life as is her mom. Her parents have to cooporate together, your constant interference may make you feel better now but in the long run, your interference will backfire on you.

 

[clomicka]

More..

By the way this addition is a painted concrete floor with indoor/outdoor carpet and some drywall....would you want to live in it. Oh and a washer and dryer behind the wall making noise and bringing heat into it.

That is the planned hand drawn proposed environment. some thin drywall...

 

[stealth2]

And that is unlikely to be enough to change custody. And you still can't send an inspector.

 

[LdiJ]

By the way this addition is a painted concrete floor with indoor/outdoor carpet and some drywall....would you want to live in it. Oh and a washer and dryer behind the wall making noise and bringing heat into it.

That is the planned hand drawn proposed environment. some thin drywall...

Ok...this is getting me frustrated.

Garage conversions are a common and very normal way to increase living space.

Many homes in many parts of the country have been built on slabs, which is no different than you are describing, and they hold heat and cold just fine. I happen to LIVE in one of those homes. The floors don't have to be raised or insulated. My brother, the custom home builder doesn't agree with your contractor and says you are just hunting for ways to be against this.

Garage conversions are normally bigger rooms than standard bedrooms, which for a teen is usually way cool.

Every room, in every home is separated by drywall. Having the washer and dryer on the other side of the wall isn't going to increase heat by any appreciable amount. My washer and dryer backs up to my bedroom too...it hasn't harmed me any.

They have permits so the work will be inspected and will be up to code...or they will have to do it over again.

If you turn the child against something that would be normally exciting for the child is just plain POOR PARENTING. Your other posts already make it clear that you are practising alienation. You may not be doing it on purpose...but that is exactly what you are doing....and judge's don't care for that.

Your entire complaint is frivolous....and that is how a judge would see it. There is a slight chance it wouldn't be frivolous if they didn't have permits...but they do, so it is.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Cement floors, counters, tables, are all the rage, and slab floors are common, even in Florida. And not doubt she will have some say in the decoration of the new room. She has no say in her mothers reproductive rights. Her mother can have a child with her husband, without her daughter's permission. Does she give you permission every time you and your husband have sex? Do you want her deciding whether or not you have a child, or how you decide who gets what room in your house for a child who is not there all the time? Facts and evidence are what we deal with not mother's or father's rights. Some posters have personal agendas and some want to rant, but the object of this forum is to provide objective advice, advice you don't seem to like. There are many Posters who come here hopeing to get affirmation and like you get upset when they don't get it. Guess what will happen in court? My advice is based on the facts and evidence, I try to be objective. My advice stands.

 

[nextwife]

All the homes I've been inside of in FL seem like they are made out of cardboard, compared to what I'm used to in WI..