HELP ...living arrangements

[rmet4nzkx]

All the homes I've been inside of in FL seem like they are made out of cardboard, compared to what I'm used to in WI..

Ya, suuuurrrre,
Couldn't be because it's a little bit warmer in the winter, in Fl? Eh?

 

[nextwife]

Ya, suuuurrrre,
Couldn't be because it's a little bit warmer in the winter, in Fl? Eh?

IT's warmer in FL?

 

[stealth2]

All the homes I've been inside of in FL seem like they are made out of cardboard, compared to what I'm used to in WI..

Why do you think they all blow away in hurricanes?

 

[haiku]

Why do you think they all blow away in hurricanes?

now now that would be the homes that come with the wheels still attached,of which for whatever reason, folks in hurricane and tornado land are fond....

but anyways can't believe I am going to say this, as a PROUD yankee, but other than the weirdness of NO cellar, or attic, or second floor even, most of the homes I am familiar with in florida are cement block, pretty darn solid, so whats so bad about a cement floor...

this thread is such a joke, when we have kids who are freakin homeless in this country.......

 

[Ron1347]

We used to live in Florida for a brief time (about a year), and that was more than 20 years ago. We lived in a two-story duplex. The groundfloor floors were all, carpet over cement, block construction. Every home in our wide area (very good neighborhoods) were all built like that. Did we have problems with Palmetto bugs? Oh yes! That's Florida! And we sure didn't live in a dump! If they have proper permits, and their final result meets Code, that's all there is to that! I would think the new addition wouldn't remain only drywall for long, would it? Likely soon to follow plaster? Paint? Wallpaper? Insulation? Heating & Cooling? Etc. I'm sorry but, I wouldn't think your complaints would hold water with any legal substance. But then who am I, but a simple Joe Citizen. Just my own personal take on the sounds of things.

 

[clomicka]

You are a real charm....senior member

OP has been complaining about this issue re her SD for more than 4 months
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=211771 https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=218666 https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=218670
Apparently not liking the answers so repeatedly reposts essentially the same question.

Most 14 yo children would love to have a room built from them. If they have permits, what is your problem? Oh, yes, that your husband has to pay child support and would like to have custody of the child so you don't have to pay child support so you look for excuses. Oh yes, then you would have one up on biomom as well.

You need to face the fact that this is not your child and she has siblings that are not related you or your husband but are related to her. They are a part of her life as is her mom. Her parents have to cooporate together, your constant interference may make you feel better now but in the long run, your interference will backfire on you.

We have paid child support on time with NO problem for more than 14 years... What is YOUR problem??? I am a bio MOM!! I have never asked her to call me Mom, because I am not, but I do treat her and as my own children.

I have run her around more than her bio mom can count. Please spare me your bull crap and everyone else out here. You claim this forum is used for GOOD advise. Well you proved it is NOT.

My contribution as a parent along with my husband has helped my husband get my step daughter into a wonderful magnet school of which we are both proud. She auditioned and is looking forward to going. It is ashame her own bio mother is not supporting her. She is still trying to convince her daughter that she doesn't want to go there when she worked really hard to be accepted.

How about helping people instead of bashing them for using a forum that is designed to help people caught up in a legal system that could care less about what is good for children caught up.

If you had read the previous posts; my step daughter wants to live with us because her mother has now 3 children of whom have 3 fathers and who has to constantly tell friends "made up stories" about why?

So THANKS for your loving comments.

I get enough of this crap from her and don't need your shi! And it will backfire for bio mom not us - we always have done what is right!

 

[rmet4nzkx]

None of this has any relevance at all.

There is nothing wrong with allowing the child to live in a converted garage. There may be more of an issue of a separate enterence than anything else.

Congratulations on you Stepdaughter getting into a Magnet school, if that is what makes your day, it still isn't reason to get custody so you can get child support lowered. Most likely it isn't the school, it's your interference that irritates biomom and everyone else. Did you notice Everyone else? Hint, hint?

You still don't have control over your husband's ex's reproductive history or choice, neither does your SD.

Please quit telling her that her mother doesn't want her or encouraging that belief in herself!

You are so wonderful for trying to increase stress for both your SD and her very pregnant mom.

 

[clomicka]

you are a bitter woman

None of this has any relevance at all.

There is nothing wrong with allowing the child to live in a converted garage. There may be more of an issue of a separate enterence than anything else.

Congratulations on you Stepdaughter getting into a Magnet school, if that is what makes your day, it still isn't reason to get custody so you can get child support lowered. Most likely it isn't the school, it's your interference that irritates biomom and everyone else. Did you notice Everyone else? Hint, hint?

You still don't have control over your husband's ex's reproductive history or choice, neither does your SD.

Please quit telling her that her mother doesn't want her or encouraging that belief in herself!

You are so wonderful for trying to increase stress for both your SD and her very pregnant mom.

Let me ask you...if your child living with their other parent wasn't able to do any extra curricular activities and only shopped, ate out, or followed mom and step dad every day of the week minus time at school. Would you want to do the best to help them. Every day she see's money sent by Dad to her mom being spent on everybody but herself. She has to ask us for clothes not to wear when she is with us; but also at mom's, she has never done anything because her mother refused to pay for her to try activities. Her bio mom doesn't even come to her school for meetings or to her acting plays....

And you defend someone you have no knowledge about...I don't have to tell her anything bad about her mother because she lives it everyday she is there. We listen. Don't you think it's embarrassing to keep explaining to your friends why your mom changes husbands and has siblings belonging to all of them???

Interesting...Stop acting like people's posts on this board are offending you! Very sensitive to other people's matters huh? If the shoe fits; wear it.

 

[abstract99]

Okay I only read the OP here but here is my advice. First are you entirely sure that mom is neglecting the child here? Seems to me that she acknowledged that the child will need a new room. The daughter might think that it is cool. My best advice here would be to wait it out and see what happens. Florida is a pretty mildly temperature state so I don't see a problem with the cold. Heat should not really be a problem but you will have to wait and wee if everything is hooked up right. I don't imagine that they would stick her out there without the room being finished. If it is not done by the due date then the baby can sleep in their room till it is done. you never know, they might be considering this anyways. Sorry if you already addressed these questions.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Let me ask you...if your child living with their other parent wasn't able to do any extra curricular activities and only shopped, ate out, or followed mom and step dad every day of the week minus time at school. Would you want to do the best to help them. Every day she see's money sent by Dad to her mom being spent on everybody but herself. She has to ask us for clothes not to wear when she is with us; but also at mom's, she has never done anything because her mother refused to pay for her to try activities. Her bio mom doesn't even come to her school for meetings or to her acting plays....
My children came from an intact family. I worked fulltime, went to school, earned BA, MA & PhD while employed AND made sure my children had transportation to enrichment activities. I attended as many meets and plays as possible, I even attended wrestling matches. I not only raised my children but others who needed a place to call home and hosted foreign students. Did they get to attend everything their hearts desired, no. One son went to summer camp 1 time, the other went with his class, they both went to bootcamp and served their country with honor.

Early on, we converted a garage into an extra room. I currently live in a house in northern California, with slab floors, some with carpet, some with wood or tile, guess what? I have not turned on my heat at all this winter, I have not even turned on my pilot light this winter! What do you think I thnk about your claims?

And you defend someone you have no knowledge about...I don't have to tell her anything bad about her mother because she lives it everyday she is there. We listen. Don't you think it's embarrassing to keep explaining to your friends why your mom changes husbands and has siblings belonging to all of them???

Interesting...Stop acting like people's posts on this board are offending you! Very sensitive to other people's matters huh? If the shoe fits; wear it.

You are in serious need of counseling. Stay out of this, you are the problem.

 

[LdiJ]

Clomicka..if you want support for SMs..and advice without criticism..PM me. I know some great resources.

I participate on several SM boards....and most of them would eat her for breakfast....for all of the same reasons that she isn't getting good responses here.

 

[LdiJ]

If you had read the previous posts; my step daughter wants to live with us because her mother has now 3 children of whom have 3 fathers and who has to constantly tell friends "made up stories" about why?

In this day and age the public puts no stigma on that...in fact, the PUBLIC doesn't notice. There would be no reason for her friends to even have any curiosity on the subject....in fact no reason whatsoever for her friends to have any idea that more than two fathers were involved...and no reason for the child to feel the need to make up any "stories"...unless you and your husband are making her feel that is necessary.

I am sorry but you and your husband are the problem here as far as I am concerned. I recognize that you and your husband love her and want the best for her...and I applaud you for that. However you are purely and simply practicing alienation.

 

[clomicka]

How is that so...

In this day and age the public puts no stigma on that...in fact, the PUBLIC doesn't notice. There would be no reason for her friends to even have any curiosity on the subject....in fact no reason whatsoever for her friends to have any idea that more than two fathers were involved...and no reason for the child to feel the need to make up any "stories"...unless you and your husband are making her feel that is necessary.

I am sorry but you and your husband are the problem here as far as I am concerned. I recognize that you and your husband love her and want the best for her...and I applaud you for that. However you are purely and simply practicing alienation.

Are you saying she should lie? How don't they know when her brother goes over to his father's house, she goes to our house and they call or go over to her bio mom's house. We don't say anything negative....Read....we listen and she complains....we can NOT change her mother....she feels compelled to talk to someone.

Her friends and us...Her friends knows she is married to another man...some of them even know all three fathers because all her freinds participate with us also.

Please....you are asking a teen to lie...what good advise you have.

Thanks but NO thanks!

 

[clomicka]

You are the bitter women giving gold digger advise on this forum

You are in serious need of counseling. Stay out of this, you are the problem.

I see how you are...expecting the fathers to pay and the child to suffer...

Nice mom you are.

 

[clomicka]

By they way rmet4nzkx...

You are in serious need of counseling. Stay out of this, you are the problem.

Her bio mom is the same mom who allowed her daughter to be molested by her friend's husband and then had her then boyfriend on the stand tell everyone "that bio mom didn't believe the guy did it". And by the way, the guy was put away.

So stop trying to protect "all mothers" here.... Especially when you have no idea what you are talking about. Bio mom is walking a fine line and is on watch by DCF (Dept children & Families)...

I could write 10 pages of crap...but won't

Please don't contribute your comments anymore..