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n_and

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Do you know what you're talking about? Do you know that 4 classes a week and 15 hours of work add up to 3 days total? Do you know why you are so stupid? Do you have any legal advice to give? Do you have anything intelligent to say?

Maybe you should go to school instead of doing drugs. Maybe my boyfriend makes enough money so that I don't even have to work but I don't like 'free rides'.

Any more comments you'd like to make?
 


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user13180

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awww... poor N-and... can dish it out but cant take the heat
 

jlc614

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n_and already responded to the marriage question and why does having a child outside of marriage make it a mistake. I was sympathizing with your situation to some degree because it was similar to mine but since my child was born without a marriage first I guess that you are implying that my child was a mistake.

Look at your posts...you keep trying to show what a bad father the BF is because of what he did to his first child...you knew that when you got involved with him or shortly there after. You decided to stay with this man and to allow your daughter to attach to him knowing full well that he had already treated his first son the way he has. So you have to accept as much responsibilty for the situation as he does maybe more because you claim to be so smart and the one that isn't a drunk.

I have been in your shoes so I guess according to your last post that makes it okay for me to comment.

By the way when I was with my child's BF I was going to school, owned my own home, and worked a full-time job as well. That does not excuse the fact that I made a stupid choice and have to accept resposibilty for that.

You state that you control your child's life because he is so young. You care for your child because he is so young.....if matter end up in court the court controls the situation not you.
 
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user13180

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Whoa whoa whoa...

First of all a child born out of wedlock is NOT a mistake... ALl i was saying is that she said she had a PLANNED pregnancy.. who plans a pregnancy before they get married?! doesnt seem right.

and i know that i am responsible for having a kid with this man. never denied that. and i have also admitted that i made a mistake when I had him in my life. again, never denied it

and as far as controlling my son and looking out for his best interests.. thats my job as his MOTHER! If a court says i have to do a certain thing, then i have already said I will do what I have to. But until that time comes (IF that time comes) it will stay this way
 
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kbudd

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N_and

I do not want to argue with you. But do me a favor. Write a letter to yourself about all your philosophies of life. Write down how you have everything figured out. In 5 years open that letter and laugh at what you think you know now.

You haven't seen part of the real world. I am not passing any judgement on you at all. You might be a great parent. I just wanted you to feel how it is when people pass judgement on you. Through your replies it hurts.

I do not hold anything against children out of wedlock. And at 21 I said the same thing. Marriage is nothing more than a sheet of paper, until I got married. It is now that I realize how it is much more. It is abstract not concrete.
 

n_and

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Heat? What heat?

If you have something intelligent to say, please state it.
 
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user13180

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I agree. i didnt come on here to judge or put down people. But when you are going to attack me, I'm not going to keep my mouth shut.

everyone has made at leat one mistake... I can guarantee that each and everyone of you has made a handful or two... does that make anyone a bad person.!!??!?!

I had a child with someone who wasnt so good. I am trying to do whats right and best for this child. I'm owning up to my responsibility and learning from my mistakes.

again... ALL I WANTED WAS ADVICE!!!!!!! and from the door, the first few responses I received, were more than just 'advice'...
 

n_and

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Kbudd, I don't wish to argue with you either. However, I do know my 'life plan'. By the time I am done with law school my daughter will be old enough to be in school full time. She will have grown up with a (mostly) stay at home mother. In 5 years, when I am accepting my job in an outstanding firm, I will not laugh, rather, commend myself for the excellence I have achieved.
Perhaps when I'm older, my views on marriage will change. As of now I stand firm.

Good luck to you kbudd, with your cousins' child. As for anything you say hurting me, quite the contrary. People I do not know and that do not know me can not offend me.

user13180, if you have a direct question, ask it. I refuse to bring a small child into your absurd inquiries.
 
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kbudd

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Thanks!

That was a very noble statement, n_and. I thank you for the Luck. Lord knows I need as much as I can.

I do not have any children nor was I married in college, but I could not agree with you more. When I walked across the state when I graduated from college; it is like no other feeling. Now, I am doing well at my job, and life is really good. (I get to talk on forums at work...ha ha). Keep up the good work, and never loose track of your goals.
 
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user13180

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I did ask my question... Im curious why someone attending law school would intend to get pregnant by her BOYFRIEND before finishing school or getting married. Is that how you handle things? You start them and then throw something else in the mix before you complete it?!?! Then it should be for YOUR child that I pray.


I'm not the one in a legal forum because I ruined my child's life.

Sorry to say dear, at least they are going to watch their mom struggle and work . They are going to grow up learning to respect people and themselves and strive to be better at everything in life. They are going to see the mistakes I made and I guarantee they wont make the same.
 
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annefan

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user13180 said:
again... ALL I WANTED WAS ADVICE!!!!!!! and from the door, the first few responses I received, were more than just 'advice'...


Perhaps you should have specified that the 'advice' you were seeking was for emotional support. Hey, I gave you straight up, LEGAL advice, and if you don't like what you read, as I said before, you will find out the hard way. Truly, I do fear for you. Ignorance can be bliss, of course, but lack of common sense and knowledge can be quite detrimental.
 
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Tnik

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N_ Not only do I sence a lack of Morals, but you also lack respect. Which if either is present, it may be wise to have "Just a piece of paper" so that your children will have a father and will grow up knowing the importance of both!

Kbud, Clap, Clap! you sound to be a very head strong and wise person, and had to be taught by someone very special,which is a great thing. Maybe it would be great if N_ could possibly learn a few things from you. Your opion, if soaked in, could be very useful

Listen and Learn!
 

n_and

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Kbudd -
(I get to talk on forums at work...ha ha).

I'm actually at work right now, too. Fun, isn't it?

Keep up the good work, and never loose track of your goals.

Thank you.


"N_ Not only do I sence a lack of Morals, but you also lack respect. Which if either is present, it may be wise to have "Just a piece of paper" so that your children will have a father and will grow up knowing the importance of both!"

My child has a father. My lack of respect has to do with my '0 tolerance' for idiocy. Kindly keep quiet about a matter you know nothing of.
 
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