Husband wishes to raise child produced by an extra-marital affair

[lilmomma22980]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Mississippi

This past year I left my huisband, and became involved with another man. During the time I was involved with this man, I became pregnant. In the course of the relationship I learned that this man has a mental disorder, violent tendancies, and a drug abuse problem. While I was still pregnant I left him and moved back home to my mothers. Also since leaving him my husband and I have reconciled and he wishes to raise my child as his own. My husbands name is on the birth certificate due to state law requiring that it be that way since we were and are still married. Where the problem comes in is that the other man is using my child to hold on to me, and won't bow out. What are the chances of him obtaining visitation? Or is my husband the presumed father no matter what? (Please also consider this mans history when giving advice) ...Any light that can be shed on this situation is greatly appreciated. Thank you!

 

[howamidoing]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Mississippi

This past year I left my huisband, and became involved with another man. During the time I was involved with this man, I became pregnant. In the course of the relationship I learned that this man has a mental disorder, violent tendancies, and a drug abuse problem. While I was still pregnant I left him and moved back home to my mothers. Also since leaving him my husband and I have reconciled and he wishes to raise my child as his own. My husbands name is on the birth certificate due to state law requiring that it be that way since we were and are still married. Where the problem comes in is that the other man is using my child to hold on to me, and won't bow out. What are the chances of him obtaining visitation? Or is my husband the presumed father no matter what? (Please also consider this mans history when giving advice) ...Any light that can be shed on this situation is greatly appreciated. Thank you!

You should have done some more research before laying down with him, but we all have bad judgement from time to time. If he gets a paternity test and is proven the father then he very well could get some kind of visitation. he is the father right? I am married and have been seperated for 5 years and my child did not have to have my husbands name. The husband could have signed an afidavit saying the child wasnt his. You both put him as the father because you wanted to. I would think that you wouldnt want to falsify records. When I was born, many years ago, the same situation with my mother and father occurred, because she was on welfare. Are you on welfare? She did not put any father on my birth certificate. She refused to MAKE me take a name that wasnt mine.

 

[lilmomma22980]

My husband was not prese at the birth of my duaghter. I explained the situation to the office of birth records at the hospital, and they said no matter bc STATE LAW requires IF you are married then your husbands name is to be placed on the birth certificate. I initially asked that "none" be placed as the father on the certificate. AND no i don't want to falsify records and I presumed that they would neither but it seems that Mississippi legislature doesnt mind it.

 

[howamidoing]

My husband was not prese at the birth of my duaghter. I explained the situation to the office of birth records at the hospital, and they said no matter bc STATE LAW requires IF you are married then your husbands name is to be placed on the birth certificate. I initially asked that "none" be placed as the father on the certificate. AND no i don't want to falsify records and I presumed that they would neither but it seems that Mississippi legislature doesnt mind it.

Well when the dna test comes back I'm sure the rightful name will be placed on there.

 

[lilmomma22980]

All I REALLY want to know is how I am gong to get rid of this violent, billigerent, psycho who doesnt CARE about his baby but uses her as an excuse to try and get me back. I am not really concerned at this point who's name appears on the birth certificate. I just want to know if there is a chance in hell that he can have any visitation.

 

[howamidoing]

Well when the dna test comes back I'm sure the rightful name will be placed on there.

Rule 19--Name of child

(a) Mother married. If the mother was married at the time of conception or birth, or at any time between conception and birth, the surname of the child shall be that of the husband except that an affidavit filed at birth by both listed mother and father may alter this rule.
www.msdh.state.ms.us/phs/rules5.htm
you may want to check out this site...like i said an affidavit COULD have been filed.. I got that above info from there...

 

[howamidoing]

All I REALLY want to know is how I am gong to get rid of this violent, billigerent, psycho who doesnt CARE about his baby but uses her as an excuse to try and get me back. I am not really concerned at this point who's name appears on the birth certificate. I just want to know if there is a chance in hell that he can have any visitation.

If he is the father...then Yes he can get visitation.I answered you already. You cant get rid of him he is the biological father of your daughter.He always will be.

 

[lilmomma22980]

Well ok put it this way there was no affidavit filed and no one informed me that it could be done. i was not in the know and no one was concerned with informing me....but like i said before...i want to be rid of him...he is violent, he beats on his mom, is delusional and also lives in Lousiana(which I am not allowing my baby to cross a state line for fear i will not get her back)...he lcoked me up in his house everyday, humiliated me in front of people, drug me around the front yard when i was pregnant...oh and this is the best part....hung his self bc he did not want to attend a party for fear other guys would be messing with me(which luckily for him his friends were able to cut him down before it was too late)...so now do u get my drift? I dont want him in her life...im not concernd with birth records at the moment only my childs SAFETY...

 

[howamidoing]

Well ok put it this way there was no affidavit filed and no one informed me that it could be done. i was not in the know and no one was concerned with informing me....but like i said before...i want to be rid of him...he is violent, he beats on his mom, is delusional and also lives in Lousiana(which I am not allowing my baby to cross a state line for fear i will not get her back)...he lcoked me up in his house everyday, humiliated me in front of people, drug me around the front yard when i was pregnant...oh and this is the best part....hung his self bc he did not want to attend a party for fear other guys would be messing with me(which luckily for him his friends were able to cut him down before it was too late)...so now do u get my drift? I dont want him in her life...im not concernd with birth records at the moment only my childs SAFETY...

OK put it this way. Until he is the LEGAL father, meaning he has had a dna test and is proved to be the father, he is a legal stranger to this child and has no right to visitation.Yes your husband is the presumed father by virtue of marriage, that does not however mean that the real father cannot contest it and file for a DNA test. You can never be rid of him as I said before, he is the child's father, but until legally proven you do not have to let him see her or take her. You should think about what will happen when this child is much older and wants to see her REAL father, hopefully she wont, if he is as bad as you say. We only have hearsay. I would not worry about it until I got the papers in the mail for visitation as you said before he only wants you.

 

[lilmomma22980]

OK thank you what i needed to know...now we are understanding each other and believe me u can take my word for it hes psychotic and a coke head. If he really cared for her and he wasnt all of those things then i would have no problem with him seeing her. Actually i have been allowing him to come here and visit her just to keep him from trying to escalate the situation but it is becoming a hassle because he keeps trying to be with me not see her.

 

[howamidoing]

OK thank you what i needed to know...now we are understanding each other and believe me u can take my word for it hes psychotic and a coke head. If he really cared for her and he wasnt all of those things then i would have no problem with him seeing her. Actually i have been allowing him to come here and visit her just to keep him from trying to escalate the situation but it is becoming a hassle because he keeps trying to be with me not see her.

I take noones word...thats why I am in the legal field...If he is all those things then you really shouldnt expose her to that if you knowingly let her around someone who is under the influence CPS might not like that and you could be in big trouble.If I were you, when he came over or called for visitation I would tell him to take me to court IF he is how you say he is.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Mississippi

This past year I left my huisband, and became involved with another man. During the time I was involved with this man, I became pregnant.

My response:

Well of course you did. You're in Mississippi, one of the "Dufus" backwoods States. I hope your end of the single-wide trailer has the basketball hoop.

Remember, please do everything you can to keep the stereotype alive!

IAAL

 

[lilmomma22980]

well everyone told me that if i didnt allow him to visit her i might look bad if it did go to court so im glad u told me that. thanks.


and thank you very much i dont live in a trailer and i never have and i come from a middle class family...i made a MISTAKE...ppl in your part of the country make those right? The last time i checked they did...it is human to err, jackass...the thing about it though is that most ppl dont try to correct there mistakes and i am so screw off

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

well everyone told me that if i didnt allow him to visit her i might look bad if it did go to court so im glad u told me that. thanks.


and thank you very much i dont live in a trailer and i never have

MY RESPONSE: Do you actually believe that you need to live in a trailer to actually be trailer trash? You're a hussy. You're a slut. You're a tramp. And, on top of all that? Yes, you are trailer trash.



and i come from a middle class family...i made a MISTAKE...

MY RESPONSE: No you didn't make a mistake. You went to bed with someone you didn't know. That's not a "mistake". That was stupid. And, on top of that? You didn't use any "protection". That's typical of a hussy, a slut, a tramp, and a piece of trailer trash.




ppl in your part of the country make those right? The last time i checked they did...

MY RESPONSE: You have never "checked" anything. You're too stupid to check that concept. You've probably never been out of your own State.



it is human to err, jackass...

MY RESPONSE: So, I guess you're a "jackass", then? Right?




the thing about it though is that most ppl dont try to correct there mistakes and i am so screw off

MY RESPONSE: With a b@stard child, how do you plan to correct your mistake?

Keep the stereotype alive!

IAAL

 

[lilmomma22980]

Um in the dictionary it states that a ******* is a child born out of wedlock...In my original post i stated that i am MARRIED so technically speaking ******* my child is not a ******* thank you very much. YOu must be illiterate and ignorant.