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Artemis_ofthe_Hunt

Senior Member
OMG Dawn I am so sorry. All I can do is echo everyone else's advice. You need to get exparte orders NOW. I don't think that you should wait to hire an attorney unless you can find one to handle it tommorrow.

The man is SICK.:mad:

Don't forget about new wifey-poo!
 


gr8rn

Senior Member
If I remember correctly, Dawn, you have a blackberry. It is very easy to forward copies of the video to your personal email. Forward it a couple of times so you have multiple copies. Did he send this to you?
 

Just Blue

Senior Member
Dawn...Why would he send you this video of him being so obviously abusive to your child? I don't understand that.:confused::confused:

Yeah...Go and file for a PO.
 

frylover

Senior Member
Dawn...Why would he send you this video of him being so obviously abusive to your child? I don't understand that.:confused::confused:

Yeah...Go and file for a PO.

I just read back over Dawn's posts, and I really think that this man sees absolutely NOTHING wrong with ANYTHING he does or says. I don't know if he has some sort of mental issue, or just a very bad case of stupidity, but I do think he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong.
 

Isis1

Senior Member
I just read back over Dawn's posts, and I really think that this man sees absolutely NOTHING wrong with ANYTHING he does or says. I don't know if he has some sort of mental issue, or just a very bad case of stupidity, but I do think he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong.

As disgusting as it is, there are people out there that really truly believe bullying anyone will fix that person who is not behaving suitable to them.
 
Dawn...Why would he send you this video of him being so obviously abusive to your child? I don't understand that.:confused::confused:

Yeah...Go and file for a PO.

Because he is sick and wants to abuse Dawn, too! His need to be abusive, and the resulting thrill of it, seems to override any rational sense from this man...which is truly scary. She needs to show the police that video today...now!
 

Just Blue

Senior Member
Because he is sick and wants to abuse Dawn, too! His need to be abusive, and the resulting thrill of it, seems to override any rational sense from this man...which is truly scary. She needs to show the police that video today...now!

Yes...I know he is sick. BUT! I am still "surprised" he would give proof to Dawn. Abusers "generally" do not do this.


Dawn...Does ...(gag)..."father" have a BPD?

I do think (agree) that Dawn NEEDS to file for an emergency order to stop visits. NOW.
 

CJane

Senior Member
I think I wouldn't wait til Tuesday. I think I'd hotfoot it right on down to the PD and file a police report. Allow them to watch the video and verify the phone # or email address that it was sent from. Ask them if they need a copy forwarded to them for preservation/to keep with the report that you're filing.

THEN on Tuesday morning, call DCFS. Tell them you're filing a report of abuse against your child by his other parent and that you have received video evidence that they need to see.

THEN take everything to court and file emergency ROs against Dad's whole family AGAIN, that include you and kiddo.

And yes. Absolutely hire an attorney. File to have all contact with Dad suspended pending psychological evaluation of Dad and anyone else in his household.
 
Hi everyone. So sorry it has taken this long to get back and update the situation. I really don't have a lot of time right now, as things have been hectic to say the least. Very eye opening also.

I went to PD that Monday and filed a police report and sent the video to two different officers. They told me it isn't a criminal matter (nothing to be prosecuted) but took the report, no problem.

Tuesday morning I went to the family court and filed for to dad's visits to be suspended. Request was granted. Judge was infuriated. I went to local court and asked for a restraining order for kiddo and that was also granted. Dad hasn't objected to either order. Took everything to DHS and they are supposedly investigating.

On facebook (easier to print out, if needed, than a text) I asked him WHY he would do that and WHY he would send it to me, and asked if he knew that I would take all necessary measures to insure kiddo doesn't have to be around that kind of abuse.

He said he figured I would run to the cops and he really didn't care. The only reason he ever even filed for visits in court was to make his wife and dad happy and what's the point of it now that they can't be around him anyway. He asked if I thought he ever wanted to pay child support on a kid that looks nothing like him with people always asking if he's sure "its" his kid. (He hasn't paid support in a year)
I told him looks have nothing to do with anything, doesn't make son any less his flesh and blood and to treat your own child worse than a dog makes him a piece of crap for not only a "father" but also a human being.

Kiddo has been having a rough time. He was doing a lot better with his separation anxiety before dad pulled this crap. I had him to the point that I could take a shower, take daughter to school, etc.. Now he is back to being attached at my hip. I can't walk two feet away from him without a meltdown. We went to a bday party last weekend and while all the other children were playing and having fun, kiddo clung to my leg and just stared at them with the saddest look on his face.

I obviously can't say for sure why dad would actually send me the video. My best guess is that he wanted out of visitation and rather than just saying so, he wanted the judge to do it for him, that way all he has to tell people is that judge won't let him see kiddo anymore. I really don't know.
 

LdiJ

Senior Member
Hi everyone. So sorry it has taken this long to get back and update the situation. I really don't have a lot of time right now, as things have been hectic to say the least. Very eye opening also.

I went to PD that Monday and filed a police report and sent the video to two different officers. They told me it isn't a criminal matter (nothing to be prosecuted) but took the report, no problem.

Tuesday morning I went to the family court and filed for to dad's visits to be suspended. Request was granted. Judge was infuriated. I went to local court and asked for a restraining order for kiddo and that was also granted. Dad hasn't objected to either order. Took everything to DHS and they are supposedly investigating.

On facebook (easier to print out, if needed, than a text) I asked him WHY he would do that and WHY he would send it to me, and asked if he knew that I would take all necessary measures to insure kiddo doesn't have to be around that kind of abuse.

He said he figured I would run to the cops and he really didn't care. The only reason he ever even filed for visits in court was to make his wife and dad happy and what's the point of it now that they can't be around him anyway. He asked if I thought he ever wanted to pay child support on a kid that looks nothing like him with people always asking if he's sure "its" his kid. (He hasn't paid support in a year)
I told him looks have nothing to do with anything, doesn't make son any less his flesh and blood and to treat your own child worse than a dog makes him a piece of crap for not only a "father" but also a human being.

Kiddo has been having a rough time. He was doing a lot better with his separation anxiety before dad pulled this crap. I had him to the point that I could take a shower, take daughter to school, etc.. Now he is back to being attached at my hip. I can't walk two feet away from him without a meltdown. We went to a bday party last weekend and while all the other children were playing and having fun, kiddo clung to my leg and just stared at them with the saddest look on his face.

I obviously can't say for sure why dad would actually send me the video. My best guess is that he wanted out of visitation and rather than just saying so, he wanted the judge to do it for him, that way all he has to tell people is that judge won't let him see kiddo anymore. I really don't know.

What a low life piece of scum. This is one instance where no father is better than THAT father. Thank god for the judge.
 

TinkerBelleLuvr

Senior Member
If it were me, I would be requiring that HE be required to pay for therapy for your son, besides asking that he be found in contempt for not paying support.

Any future visits should be done in a therapeutic setting for obvious reasons.
 

CourtClerk

Senior Member
I'm wondering after all this WHY you would go on facebook and ask him anything? I mean, really.... come ON now. That was a plain old stupid move, IMO and was asking for nothing but trouble. Just keep poking the bear Dawn...

Women just don't know when to stop.
 
I'm wondering after all this WHY you would go on facebook and ask him anything? I mean, really.... come ON now. That was a plain old stupid move, IMO and was asking for nothing but trouble. Just keep poking the bear Dawn...

Women just don't know when to stop.

You're absolutely right, CC. I should have taken your advice and shown up with ball bat and gasoline in hand.
 

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