Hi everyone. So sorry it has taken this long to get back and update the situation. I really don't have a lot of time right now, as things have been hectic to say the least. Very eye opening also.
I went to PD that Monday and filed a police report and sent the video to two different officers. They told me it isn't a criminal matter (nothing to be prosecuted) but took the report, no problem.
Tuesday morning I went to the family court and filed for to dad's visits to be suspended. Request was granted. Judge was infuriated. I went to local court and asked for a restraining order for kiddo and that was also granted. Dad hasn't objected to either order. Took everything to DHS and they are supposedly investigating.
On facebook (easier to print out, if needed, than a text) I asked him WHY he would do that and WHY he would send it to me, and asked if he knew that I would take all necessary measures to insure kiddo doesn't have to be around that kind of abuse.
He said he figured I would run to the cops and he really didn't care. The only reason he ever even filed for visits in court was to make his wife and dad happy and what's the point of it now that they can't be around him anyway. He asked if I thought he ever wanted to pay child support on a kid that looks nothing like him with people always asking if he's sure "its" his kid. (He hasn't paid support in a year)
I told him looks have nothing to do with anything, doesn't make son any less his flesh and blood and to treat your own child worse than a dog makes him a piece of crap for not only a "father" but also a human being.
Kiddo has been having a rough time. He was doing a lot better with his separation anxiety before dad pulled this crap. I had him to the point that I could take a shower, take daughter to school, etc.. Now he is back to being attached at my hip. I can't walk two feet away from him without a meltdown. We went to a bday party last weekend and while all the other children were playing and having fun, kiddo clung to my leg and just stared at them with the saddest look on his face.
I obviously can't say for sure why dad would actually send me the video. My best guess is that he wanted out of visitation and rather than just saying so, he wanted the judge to do it for him, that way all he has to tell people is that judge won't let him see kiddo anymore. I really don't know.
