What is the name of your state? Illinois
I have had full custody of my 10 yr old daughter since she was one. Her father has seen her on his scheduled visitations - but is not involved in the least inbetween his visits. As in school affairs, or her out of school activities, etc. She is a wonderful girl.
I do not do drugs, drink or anything like that. I am a good mom, although right now we are living with my parents because I was laid off and am out of work- who my daughter is VERY close to anyway. Plus - all her best friends live right here.
Since my ex got married 6 yrs ago - his wife has been on a mission to make my life hell. They nit-pick everything I do and always give me a hard time. They constantly threaten to take me back to court for custody over things as minor as not letting him have her an extra night (because we have plans). He worked as a paralegal and she just quit working as a legal secretary. So - they always hold that "power" of having lawyer friends over my head. The last time we were in court - he had a buddy represent him and it drove me in debt. They send me letters that sound very "legal and professional" but really they are very condesending and rude.
If I have full custody - do they have any right at all to make comments and create problems? They or I should say the "wife" calls the doctors office when I give them medical receipts to see what the visit was for.....she even gets the billing information. When my daughter had to go to summer school - they hung up on me when I told them and called the principal to see if we could do the work at home instead of in the class - this is AFTER I already talked to the principal myself. It ended up that when he had her for a week - he didn't take her. If I have custody - don't I get to make the decisions? But it seems as though I can't make any decision without them calling and harassing me. The new wife is a very controlling, loud and mean person. (his family even confided in me and told me she's like that to THEM too)
Don't get me wrong - I know he cares for his daughter. But please believe me when I say that his wife really has it out for me - it has NOTHING at all to do with my parenting or lifestyle. It has to do with me having a child of his...I'm the "ex" that he is still involved with. They have 3 kids and I thought for sure that she would ease up on me after becoming a mom and having her hands full - but it didn't. IT's just getting worse....
Is there anyway I could get her back off? She has been doing this since day ONE and I'm really getting fed up with it. It's getting out of hand!!! I'm not a confrontational type of person and I've let her do this to me for 6 years! Even when I talk to my ex on the phone - she is there screaming in the background - sometimes she won't even put him on the phone. Also - there are times SHE calls and leaves msgs on my answering machine about things. I don't want to talk to her at ALL - she is very very mean. I want to only deal with my ex and have her stay out of it. She's no longer allowed to pick up my daughter - I did win on that one. She use to come over and scream & yell or she would have her hand on the cell phone looking at her watch and say "you have 20 seconds before our visitation beings, if Stephanie (my daughter) isn't out the door in 20 seconds I am calling the police on you"...- she did that stuff all the time. I FINALLY stood my ground on that one and she's not allowed over. Plus - the neighbors have heard her too! Also - I know she keeps a log of everything I do...and she pumps my daughter pretty hard about for all kinds of information about me. Would the courts view that as malacious of her? I don't keep a log at all.... I know that she has gone so far as to threaten my daughter with a belt in the past to scare her into telling things (just things like, who I'm dating, if I ask what happens at their house, if I still talk to his family, just things like that).
Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.
I have had full custody of my 10 yr old daughter since she was one. Her father has seen her on his scheduled visitations - but is not involved in the least inbetween his visits. As in school affairs, or her out of school activities, etc. She is a wonderful girl.
I do not do drugs, drink or anything like that. I am a good mom, although right now we are living with my parents because I was laid off and am out of work- who my daughter is VERY close to anyway. Plus - all her best friends live right here.
Since my ex got married 6 yrs ago - his wife has been on a mission to make my life hell. They nit-pick everything I do and always give me a hard time. They constantly threaten to take me back to court for custody over things as minor as not letting him have her an extra night (because we have plans). He worked as a paralegal and she just quit working as a legal secretary. So - they always hold that "power" of having lawyer friends over my head. The last time we were in court - he had a buddy represent him and it drove me in debt. They send me letters that sound very "legal and professional" but really they are very condesending and rude.
If I have full custody - do they have any right at all to make comments and create problems? They or I should say the "wife" calls the doctors office when I give them medical receipts to see what the visit was for.....she even gets the billing information. When my daughter had to go to summer school - they hung up on me when I told them and called the principal to see if we could do the work at home instead of in the class - this is AFTER I already talked to the principal myself. It ended up that when he had her for a week - he didn't take her. If I have custody - don't I get to make the decisions? But it seems as though I can't make any decision without them calling and harassing me. The new wife is a very controlling, loud and mean person. (his family even confided in me and told me she's like that to THEM too)
Don't get me wrong - I know he cares for his daughter. But please believe me when I say that his wife really has it out for me - it has NOTHING at all to do with my parenting or lifestyle. It has to do with me having a child of his...I'm the "ex" that he is still involved with. They have 3 kids and I thought for sure that she would ease up on me after becoming a mom and having her hands full - but it didn't. IT's just getting worse....
Is there anyway I could get her back off? She has been doing this since day ONE and I'm really getting fed up with it. It's getting out of hand!!! I'm not a confrontational type of person and I've let her do this to me for 6 years! Even when I talk to my ex on the phone - she is there screaming in the background - sometimes she won't even put him on the phone. Also - there are times SHE calls and leaves msgs on my answering machine about things. I don't want to talk to her at ALL - she is very very mean. I want to only deal with my ex and have her stay out of it. She's no longer allowed to pick up my daughter - I did win on that one. She use to come over and scream & yell or she would have her hand on the cell phone looking at her watch and say "you have 20 seconds before our visitation beings, if Stephanie (my daughter) isn't out the door in 20 seconds I am calling the police on you"...- she did that stuff all the time. I FINALLY stood my ground on that one and she's not allowed over. Plus - the neighbors have heard her too! Also - I know she keeps a log of everything I do...and she pumps my daughter pretty hard about for all kinds of information about me. Would the courts view that as malacious of her? I don't keep a log at all.... I know that she has gone so far as to threaten my daughter with a belt in the past to scare her into telling things (just things like, who I'm dating, if I ask what happens at their house, if I still talk to his family, just things like that).
Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.