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Illinois Dad
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Lorih, I understand everything you are saying and I hope I didn't offend you with anything I said.
You need to get past wishing things could be different. Wishing that she would just understand. Wishing that other people will do anything. It is what it is. Lori. Nothing you do or say is going to change these people. The issues and problems they have are theirs...and therefore cannot be fixed by you. You need to just let it go.
Ok, the court orders say that obtaining all that school information is his responsibility. Guess what, he doesn't do it and it comes back on you when he doesn't. Take away that argument and when they call to hassle you tell them it's not your problem...you have gone beyond what is required to get them informed and then hang up the phone.
I don't want to be harsh, but it sounds to me like you let this woman and your ex know from the very beginning that you were intimidated, controllable, easily manipulated, and not wanting to make waves. They smelled this weakness and they have pushed all the right buttons ever since to keep you where they want you...meek and intimidated. They can only continue this abusive treatment of you if you continue to allow it.
You need to get past wishing things could be different. Wishing that she would just understand. Wishing that other people will do anything. It is what it is. Lori. Nothing you do or say is going to change these people. The issues and problems they have are theirs...and therefore cannot be fixed by you. You need to just let it go.
Ok, the court orders say that obtaining all that school information is his responsibility. Guess what, he doesn't do it and it comes back on you when he doesn't. Take away that argument and when they call to hassle you tell them it's not your problem...you have gone beyond what is required to get them informed and then hang up the phone.
I don't want to be harsh, but it sounds to me like you let this woman and your ex know from the very beginning that you were intimidated, controllable, easily manipulated, and not wanting to make waves. They smelled this weakness and they have pushed all the right buttons ever since to keep you where they want you...meek and intimidated. They can only continue this abusive treatment of you if you continue to allow it.