I didn't realize you could get a court order for something like that. My husband used to webcam with his daughter sporatically until his ex and him got into an arguement about getting names off of deeds and stuff from when they were together or something of the sort. The ex was mad so she took his privilage of webcaming away.....just like that. Because she was frustrated with him.
To me this is unfair punishment for not just my husband but their daughter as well. That's one of the things his ex has done that make me think she uses their daughter sometimes....I knwo that sounds bad but I don't know how else to phase it.
I will definately tell him about having that put in the order. He would be extatic(spelling?) to be able to webcam with her again. It really improved their relationship.
Thank you for the advice....
While you are at it on a change, you may want to also address the transportation issue and make it CLEAR.
In my original change of domicile, we split the transportation. Dad was supposed to pay for kiddo going up and me on the return. Well, dad would buy "stupid" tickets. He would ignore my return ticket and buy even stupider tickets (view my original posts to see what I mean by this.) I changed my decree so that **I** am in control of the purchases. Most of this could have been avoided if the original decree was clearer.
As for the parenting time, it can be ordered. Just make sure that you can live with what you ask for in reverse. What is ordered for dad as far as webcam access and phones would reverse when kiddo is with dad and mom is now the "visiting" parent.
What I have in place for long-distance parenting time:
One school year, dad gets Thanksgiving and Spring Break. I get all of Christmas break.
The following year, dad gets Christmas Break and I get Thanksgiving & Spring Break.
Dad gets half the summer. I normally give dad more than half the summer, but try to make sure she's home with like three weeks before school starts so that we can do the shopping, visit with older sister, etc.
As far as I concerned, dad can call whenever - but since he works afternoons, it's up to him to call kiddo since we don't know when he is working. She can use my cell phone to call dad any time on the weekends. She can email dad at will (not during school hours.)
Now, I do NOT get the same consideration when kiddo is with dad. But, he was inconsiderate when we were married. I didn't expect him to suddenly turn into a considerate human being when divorced.
On a do over, I would have specified number of times for calls, etc. so that I would be able to get in touch with kiddo when she's with dad.
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