purpledragon
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BCLM, ok. Here is what I think about some things you have said. Sure, we can move to better ourselves and our childrens lives. But we probably have to leave our children behind. I agree on that. we will be lucky to prove that we can do it in court. If we get stuck in a rut, we are stuck there with no hope because we don't want to leave our children.
Second, we are the ones who are the disiplinarians. That kind of makes it bad for the kids, and us. I agree. Those weekends and other days are the "fun days". The Cp is the one who has to make sure the homework is done, and teach responsibility, ect.ect.
Third, even when the NCP's are ordered to pay child support, some of them never do. They lose their licenses, or whatever punishment there is. I have no choice but to support my kids. I have to pay for school activities, clothes, medication, food, gas taking them where they need to go,babysitters, the list goes on and on. It is expensive to raise a kid, especially to a single mom. We need that tax money to get caught up on bills or buy other things for the kids. The cost of the child support we do get if we get it doesn't cover all of that. So don't go there.
Fourth, in my case, the NCP makes alot more money than I do. Every time his (NCP) mother gets mad, I am taken back to court. I have to pay an attourney. That is hard for me. I have to pay out alot more money than I can afford. I have even had to sell personal belongings, (Car) to get money to pay to defend myself and my child.
Fifth, My child was taken from me on 2 different occasions without my permission. I was in the shower and the sitter was here, he took my child. the sitter let him because she was afraid. Then he (NCP) called the police and told them my child was here unattended and he had to take her. and my ex hasn't paid CS in 5 years, still no jail time for him.
Sixth, my child came home with a handprint bruise on her butt. I never spank her, she was only 2 years old. There were witnessess in my home, one being a ss worker borrowing my computer. Nothing happened to them for doing that to her. She still has to go over to that home. I doubt it will happen again, It better never or I will be the one in jail. Everyones case is different. I realize there are vindictive people out there, and that is too bad for the children. But I will protect my child when I know she was being hurt. There was good proof and witnessess, but that wasn't good enough.
Second, we are the ones who are the disiplinarians. That kind of makes it bad for the kids, and us. I agree. Those weekends and other days are the "fun days". The Cp is the one who has to make sure the homework is done, and teach responsibility, ect.ect.
Third, even when the NCP's are ordered to pay child support, some of them never do. They lose their licenses, or whatever punishment there is. I have no choice but to support my kids. I have to pay for school activities, clothes, medication, food, gas taking them where they need to go,babysitters, the list goes on and on. It is expensive to raise a kid, especially to a single mom. We need that tax money to get caught up on bills or buy other things for the kids. The cost of the child support we do get if we get it doesn't cover all of that. So don't go there.
Fourth, in my case, the NCP makes alot more money than I do. Every time his (NCP) mother gets mad, I am taken back to court. I have to pay an attourney. That is hard for me. I have to pay out alot more money than I can afford. I have even had to sell personal belongings, (Car) to get money to pay to defend myself and my child.
Fifth, My child was taken from me on 2 different occasions without my permission. I was in the shower and the sitter was here, he took my child. the sitter let him because she was afraid. Then he (NCP) called the police and told them my child was here unattended and he had to take her. and my ex hasn't paid CS in 5 years, still no jail time for him.
Sixth, my child came home with a handprint bruise on her butt. I never spank her, she was only 2 years old. There were witnessess in my home, one being a ss worker borrowing my computer. Nothing happened to them for doing that to her. She still has to go over to that home. I doubt it will happen again, It better never or I will be the one in jail. Everyones case is different. I realize there are vindictive people out there, and that is too bad for the children. But I will protect my child when I know she was being hurt. There was good proof and witnessess, but that wasn't good enough.
) while sis is at Dad's. He's been trying to call his sister since Saturday, as he promised he would. Saturday he got the answering machine, yesterday 4 no answers at all and one busy - and I got an email from Dad 5 minutes after he tried to call and got no answer. so I told son to try again as I just got email (the content of which made it clear they were home) - no answer again. My son exploded. Told me that it is WRONG of Dad to not answer the phone when we call up there, and now he understands better why I get so frustrated trying to call them there (as an fyi - I never call on w/e visits - only longer ones. This was my son calling his sister, and I told him to just say hi from me). So there was a positive side to the issue, as I make a point of never saying anything negative about their Dad to them.