I want to move!?

[purpledragon]

If I sounded like I was complaining, I didn't mean to. I love being a mom more than anything, and when he told me to get "rid" of the baby, I didn't even consider doing it. My whole pregnancy I told myself that this would be my baby, but when his mom found out it was a different story. I had no problems with letting them see her anytime, but I didn't deserve to be attacked everytime they came to my home. I think I hijacked this thread...sorry

 

[KCMR]

"Son is home with me this w/e due to a Scout event (Dad told him he could choose Scouts or seeing Dad this month )'

Why not just switch the weekend? Is that a feasible thing or is transportation an issue?

 

[ktarra617]

I had to put my two cents in here because we have lived through this in the last year. my hubby's ex wanted to take off across the country to live with her fiance and my stepchild. My hubby faithfully pays child support never missed a payment. Tries to make it to as many drs appts as he knows about and can make it to. He sees his child as often as the court papers says he can. He does everything he is supposed to do. Pays insurance and half the costs and everything and did that get him one iota of consideration when his ex went to move out of state just because she wanted to?

HELL NO it didn't. She was determined to go and it didn't matter to her if he saw his child or not.

We ended up in court and while she maintained custody, to keep that custody she must maintain the child's residence inside their current county. She cannot leave the county much less the state. Atleast the child can't. Mom can go anywhere she wants to but the child must maintain a residence inside their current county.

I have a pretty dim view of CP's moving for whatever the reason. You chose to have a child and now must respect the other parents right to continuing and frequent contact with their children.

and before you go flaming me here I am also a CP with a deadbeat who doesn't do a damn thing for his kid so I understand that someday the shoe may be on the other foot and I and my family may want to move and I could very well face the same issue with my ex but the way I look at it is if that ever did happen and I was ordered to stay my child will be grown and out of college in a few years and then I can do what I want without having to consult my ex. Small price to pay for having the children live with you in my book.

just my two cents. take it or leave it.

 

[sunfun]

Haiku

I kinda like that. Normal and psycho. What happens when they pull a Jekel and Hyde and refuse to sit in one boat? You'd think with all the boat hopping going on they'd fall in the damn water some time!

 

[haiku]

Re: Haiku

I kinda like that. Normal and psycho. What happens when they pull a Jekel and Hyde and refuse to sit in one boat? You'd think with all the boat hopping going on they'd fall in the damn water some time!

I have my fingers crossed! Damn MY boats DON'T have life preservers? OOPS! LOL

 

[sunfun]

Hey now, don't go rocking that psycho boat on purpose. It'd be a share if it tipped and you didn't have those pesky life jackets.

 

[bugaboo]

p.s. bugaboo, i love you and you know that but stop placing all CP's into one category please! You deal with a true pbfh and i know you dont think all CP's are like this.

"I think about the children...Who gives a rats ass about the child support...Custodial Parents that's who. they could care less if the fathers get to see their child...just so long as they get their money. It's stupid. It's stupid that CP's think they are all mighty god and can control when the dad see's his kids. It's stupid that they put a dollar amount in comparison to a fathers love."

RyRy, I sowwrrryyy. I don't look at ALL Cps like this. Hell, I'm a CP everyother year. I just get SO angry at the CP's out there who are PBFH's...you truely have a deadbeat looser for a father of your child...(I wish cs was only $17.50 for rad...)

I apoligize to you, ryry and to all other "normal" loving cp's out there. I don't apoligize if you come to this board asking how to get your childs father out of your lives.

How's that. You know I love you too...ryry...I'm sorry that I offended you. I can always garuntee that you will tell me how you feel! lol...you've never hesitated to put me in my place if I was wrong...You know what...I listen to you more that I listen to my own mother!!! lmao!!! Thanks for opening my eyes...

 

[CMSC]

awww, bugaboo, i love you too! shhh...don't tell haiku, she will get wierd on us!LOL
I knew you weren't putting me in that category and i know I have done it with the generalized term NCP too!

 

[stealth2]

"Son is home with me this w/e due to a Scout event (Dad told him he could choose Scouts or seeing Dad this month )'

Why not just switch the weekend? Is that a feasible thing or is transportation an issue?

I offered several options - If Dad could see his way clear to come here and attend the event with son, I'd pay half of his total w/e expenses (flight down, hotel for the three of them, meals, etc), or switching the w/e for both kids, or just our son. Dad's response was that son could decide what was more important to him - time with Dad, or his Scout event. Our son had a hard time with that decision - he told me "I want to go and see Dad, but my den's depending on me and I don't want to let them down." In the end he decided that he'd like to go up to his Dad's another w/e, and not let his buddies down. (I told him it wasn't a decision I could make for him, he should discuss with Dad, and I would support what they decide.) Dad said he is tied up every other weekend until the next trip up with either business trips or "family" plans. Okay.

 

[stealth2]

I have a pretty dim view of CP's moving for whatever the reason. You chose to have a child and now must respect the other parents right to continuing and frequent contact with their children.

hehehe how about my twisted ex... When we were going through the D, we lived walking distance from each other. My position was that I would not move from Bumf*ck, NY as long as he lived there so that the kids would be close to their Dad. He told me I could choose - prolonging the custody issues, or take physical custody on the condition I move to NJ (250 miles). Go figure. Then he moved to NH, and complains about how little time he has with the kids. Go figure again.

 

[purpledragon]

oh, now that would be my luck. I wouldn't finish school just so my child could be close to her father, I would get old and be poor with not much of an education. Then HE will decide to move and take his mother with him. Would they make me and my daughter move with them? Maybe we would. LOL Pay backs.