I am sorry; it sounds like I have pushed your buttons, and I really didn't mean to. We are just trying to make sure daughter is taken care of, and Mom can't seem to do just that (that's why Dad has custody). She would spend every day in the Dr.'s office, if she could. We are just trying to keep daughter from growing up like that.
If Mom does not have the card, or the money, most Dr.'s will not want her business. If daughter is really sick, then there are available options where she can go. (btw, Mom says she doesn't have the gas money to drive to our town (20 miles) to pick up daughter for visitation; local Dr. and hospital are both in her hometown.)
Sorry again.