Is this a joke?

[tigger22472]

I want to note to you this... that e-mail did NOT help your case or your argument.

Personally I see that e-mail as a mother reaching out to another mother and saying... "I love my son but his happiness is the most important thing to me. I know my actions make it look as if I'm not interested but that definately isn't the case".

Something else I read in that e-mail was that YOU don't see this woman's side of things AT ALL and give her a hard time and are mad at her and let her know each and every chance you get.

Was mom in the military when you divorced? Did she by chance join after which helped contribute to the fact she didn't see her son for a while?

 

[Fatherof4]

First of all I never, ever, ever, ever talk to her personally. What she said about me getting mad and calling her a liar was just something to try to get my wife on her side. We only communicate through e-mail so that every word is recorded. All e-mails to or from her are forwarded to my attorney. I never even argue with her because of what it would mean to my case. Every conversation between her and my wife is recorded.

 

[Fatherof4]

We were both in the military since we graduated high school. She voluntary went on deployment (yes I have proof it was voluntary) and not the whole time. When he was 18 months old she sent him to live with her parents for 8 months because she said she was being transfered. I am tired of her using the military as an excuse for her not being there for her son. I was in the military and I did just fine taking care of him.

 

[Becki C.]

sir, only you know every little detail and it could take a long time to go over every inch of your situation. suffice it to say that you have been given probably as much info to help you as is possible at this point. don't panic. you have an attorney. what has he advised?

i understand why you have not put your ex's name on your son's records at school, put a child leash on him, etc. i am not an attorney and certainly don't want to come off sounding like i know the best road for you to take. i don't. but i can say that as i had sole custody of my child, i didn't list her father on her records either because i was afraid he would take her from school, partly because he threatened to do so. my attorney always told me to "go the extra mile" with the contact, etc. if the ex shows little or no interest, that's the ex's fault, not yours.

but, like tigger said, i see a bio mom saying that her son's happiness is so important to her, that she is leary about rocking the boat for him. maybe that's her way of trying to look good and maybe it's the truth. i don't know for sure because i don't know you or her. i'm only saying that you should do what your attorney advises.

 

[tigger22472]

I'm going to post one last time then I'm leaving this alone because I'm done arguing and trying to get you (the OP) to open your mind a bit and also make sure everything you do is the legal thing.

This is MY take on this whole thing bunched together. You got your son from his grandparents' home as mom left him there due to her job or whatever reason she had... You by your own admission say that you don't have her name on the school and you had him on a 'leash' because you were afraid she would come and get him. So obviously you felt this mother DID care for her child as she would possibly show up and try to take him. Then you post an e-mail that she sent to your wife in which not only myself but at least one other person sees it as a woman who loves her child and would love a relationship with him but in my opinion feels she's lost. She states IN THAT e-mail that you posted here that your son calls your wife MOMMY. Your wife ISN"T his mommy.. he has a mommy and although she lives far away it doesn't make her any less his mommy. I see you being very angry at her for her decisions in life... Those were her choices.. were they right? I don't know... but they aren't for you to judge. You say you don't talk to her personally, only through e-mail but that doesn't mean that you can't 'yell' at her. Divorce is never easy and divorce with children is worse. You add distance and jobs...especially demanding jobs and it makes it seem intolerable unless you have TWO willing adults to work at things and work together.

 

[Fatherof4]

Ok. Thank you.


But just to get the order straight. She sent him to live with her parents in GA for 8 months for no reason. Got a court order to get him returned. She left him with me 3 months later. Deployed (voluntarily) 1 month that.

Thanks for everything. Hope you have a good night.