What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NC
I am giving the state my child is residing in since this is where the situation is taking place. I am trying to be calm as I write this. To make a long story short, in 2004 I was living in California and a gang was trying to recruit my son. He went to NC to live with his dad. However that is basically irrelevant other than letting you know it was voluntary on my part because at the time it was in his best interest.
My son is now 14 1/2. Last weds. night my son called me crying. His right testicle was swollen and he was in pain. He said that he showed it to his dad and his dad talked to grandpa and they decided it was growing pains and that he was being a wimp. I talked to my current husband and told my son that if his dad would take him to an urgent care to have it checked out, we would pay the co-pay. His dad said that they should wait until morning and that my son should go ummmm do what teenage boys do that they think nobody knows about with his hand if you get my meaning. Thursday morning once again my son called me and said he was in so much pain he could barely walk and was staying home from school. Once again I urged him to have his dad or step mom take him to get medical attention. I was told dad was at work and he could not disturb his step mom because she worked late the night before and was tired. Later that afternoon he called me and said the testicle was now 4 times the size of the other one, once again I said to get to a doc, but he said dad wanted to wait until monday to see how it was doing then. Friday morning he called again. I told him to call the doc himself and set up an appointment, when he had it my current husband called in and paid for the visit by credit card. Finally my ex took our son to the dr.
My son was diagnosed with a contorted testicle and emergency surgery was done. They ended up having to take his testicle. The dr had said there is a 99% chance of saving the testicle if it is operated on within the first 6 hours, a 50% chance within the first 24 hours and 0% chance after that. I am furious that my narcissistic ex was LAUGHING at my son while his testicle was being strangled and that he would not listen and get my son medical attention. My son is in high-school and does not want to move, but I am afraid of what will happen the next time he needs medical attention. My know-it-all ex already cost our son a valuable body part. I have just hung up the phone with my ex who told me that unless my current husband pays for the post op check, my son will not be going. I no longer care if my son wishes to stay in NC, I want custody NOW!!! Is there any recourse? A friend told me that if it happened here CPS would have been called in for medical neglect. My son told all 4 docs he saw on friday about how his dad just laughed at him.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I am giving the state my child is residing in since this is where the situation is taking place. I am trying to be calm as I write this. To make a long story short, in 2004 I was living in California and a gang was trying to recruit my son. He went to NC to live with his dad. However that is basically irrelevant other than letting you know it was voluntary on my part because at the time it was in his best interest.
My son is now 14 1/2. Last weds. night my son called me crying. His right testicle was swollen and he was in pain. He said that he showed it to his dad and his dad talked to grandpa and they decided it was growing pains and that he was being a wimp. I talked to my current husband and told my son that if his dad would take him to an urgent care to have it checked out, we would pay the co-pay. His dad said that they should wait until morning and that my son should go ummmm do what teenage boys do that they think nobody knows about with his hand if you get my meaning. Thursday morning once again my son called me and said he was in so much pain he could barely walk and was staying home from school. Once again I urged him to have his dad or step mom take him to get medical attention. I was told dad was at work and he could not disturb his step mom because she worked late the night before and was tired. Later that afternoon he called me and said the testicle was now 4 times the size of the other one, once again I said to get to a doc, but he said dad wanted to wait until monday to see how it was doing then. Friday morning he called again. I told him to call the doc himself and set up an appointment, when he had it my current husband called in and paid for the visit by credit card. Finally my ex took our son to the dr.
My son was diagnosed with a contorted testicle and emergency surgery was done. They ended up having to take his testicle. The dr had said there is a 99% chance of saving the testicle if it is operated on within the first 6 hours, a 50% chance within the first 24 hours and 0% chance after that. I am furious that my narcissistic ex was LAUGHING at my son while his testicle was being strangled and that he would not listen and get my son medical attention. My son is in high-school and does not want to move, but I am afraid of what will happen the next time he needs medical attention. My know-it-all ex already cost our son a valuable body part. I have just hung up the phone with my ex who told me that unless my current husband pays for the post op check, my son will not be going. I no longer care if my son wishes to stay in NC, I want custody NOW!!! Is there any recourse? A friend told me that if it happened here CPS would have been called in for medical neglect. My son told all 4 docs he saw on friday about how his dad just laughed at him.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
