What is the name of your state? OR and AK
I posted some of this stuff on the “divorce board” but I though I would post the custody stuff her to get some feedback. I have an attorney and we have put together papers but at the moment we can’t find my wife and children. All we have is a cell phone which she does answer but only so she can throw insults.
We were married 8 years and she recently left to go to her parents house in Alaska on a “vacation”. The vacation extended to point were I asked her if she was coming back and she told me “no”. Up to that point I was calling and talking to her and our son daily at her parents house.
Even after that, we were on good “speaking” terms. Then her boyfriend got into the picture and she moved in with him and I no longer could contact her. She told me to call and leave a message at her mom’s house and she would get back to me. Every time she would call me back the caller ID was blocked so I didn’t know how to call my son. She wouldn’t let me talk to my son and was just nasty on the phone.
I sent a vehicle and left her on our checking account (until she drained it) so she would have money. I suggested she fill out CS papers so she could get a judgment against me because I wasn’t going to just send her money. I calculated what CS would be and have that in a separate account to cover back CS. She refused to get a judgment because she said she moved and doesn’t want me to know where she is.
She and her BF continue to tell me that they are going to keep moving from State to State to keep me away from my son. Apparently, the new guy wants to be the man of the house and doesn’t feel there is room for me to be my son’s dad. The BF said they are going to have my son's lastname changed to his. I call 3 times a week and ask to speak with my son. Only once has she let him (he’s 5) and that was so he could tell me that he has a new dad now. After that, she hasn’t allowed me to speak with him.
My attorney has hired a PI to track her down and serve papers but I am really worried that she is going to continue this. All I’ve asked for is every other Christmas, every other spring break, 2-months in the summer, and 3 phone calls a week.
I’m worried that she is going to move all over and I won’t be able to afford the travel costs. I have people around me telling me that I should try to get physical custody, try to get to pay for travel, and on and on. It’s too easy to get wrapped up in all the revenge thoughts and I’m trying not to do that.
Does anyone have advice on the best way to move forward with this to limit the chances of her to screw with my parenting?
