shockergeek
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? ohio
Today I recieved a letter from my ex wifes lawyer. It says that he is representing her through the administrative review process and that if I am have an attorney represent me they want to know who it is. Also says that my ex informed her lawyer that I had discussed child support with my oldest daughter and that acording to the law it wasnt allowed. Also said my kids are complaining about not having bedrooms and that they want to know what my rectifications are going to be for them not having bedrooms. And then goes on to state that I called his residence and that it was a discrace to his family and it is ill advised to call him at his home for business related questions.
That is what the letter says. Now to give you the background information.
Mt ex and I got a dissolution in Dec 09, and we agreed that I pay the house payment till my youngest child turned 18, and the child support calculation worksheet was done. Basically they ( her and her attorney, which is also her boss) put what numbers they wanted in for the child support calculation.
I was under the understanding these numbers were correct, well they were way off. I wasnt given credit for the amount of health insurance that I pay for and the union dues I pay. Also her income was imputed at $10,900, which I later found out it should be at a min. of min wage 40 hrs a week. If I would have known that this information wasnt correct I wouldnt have signed off on it.
So i petitioned for an administrative review and of course she went ballistic. ODJFS granted the review, and it is set for july 5th. Her response at first was that MY kid would not be able to eat if I have child support reduced. And that she was going to fight it. I said the kids will be fine as I already pay for their home which include the payment, ins, and property taxes and for their insurance, and half the medical bills. Right now I pay $870 a month for the house my kids live in, and $1160 in child support.
My girlfriend and I recently bought a new home. She has 2 daughters ages 14 and 16. I ahve 2 daughters as well ages 5 and 14. The house is a 3 bedroom house, and my ex is claiming that I dont have adequate bedrooms for my daughters on my weekends. My youngest daughter, she comes with me evey weekend but one every month. My oldest daughters only comes when she wants to, but I envite her every weekend. I even tell her even on her moms weekends, that if its ok with her mom she can come visit with me.
And for talking with my oldest daughter, I did talk to her about the amount o support I pay. Only because she came to me and asked how come I dont have any money to go do things with them. Thats when I explained to her that I pay for their house so I can assure that they have a safe and nice plae to live, then the rest is so her mom can get them the thngs they need. She then asked how much I pay, and I told her. I did not tell her how much I pay for health ins for them and that I pay half of the medical bill copays also. I know this may not have been the best decision, but I dont lie to my kids. I figured if she is old enough to ask the question, she is old enough to get the answer. She is 14 yrs old.
The part where I called her attorney/boss at home, I did call him there. I had to go to their office to sign the QDRO form that took them 1 1/2 yrs to draw up, and I informed my ex that I wanted to talk to him as well. She said he wasnt in, I said ok can you call him on his cell and have hi call me. She said I am not bothering him on his day off. Then she sends me a text message stating that his number is in the book and that I can call him there. So I did, since she is an employee of his, and she was at work while I wanted to speak with him. I left him a message, stated my name and asked that he call me back, and left him my number, and said thank you, then hung up. I have all the mssages leading up to where she told me to call him at home, and the message telling me to call him there.
Ok..now for my question.
My daughters sometimes share bedrooms with my girlfriends daughters, and sometimes they sleep on air matresses and the couch. I would love to have bedrooms for them, but there is just no possible way. We couldnt afford a bigger house, much less me afford it on my own. Are these adequate conditions for the children?
Is there anything she can do to stop me from seeing my kids or reduce the amount of time I can spend with them?
Is there anything the courts can do to me for talking with my daughter about the child support?
She also stated that I needed to start paying for half of their school cloths etc. I told her that is what child support is for. She said that she was going to have the papers changed to say that I have to pay half of school cloths, sports, etc. Im pretty sure she cant do that, but not for sure.
Thanks in advanced
Today I recieved a letter from my ex wifes lawyer. It says that he is representing her through the administrative review process and that if I am have an attorney represent me they want to know who it is. Also says that my ex informed her lawyer that I had discussed child support with my oldest daughter and that acording to the law it wasnt allowed. Also said my kids are complaining about not having bedrooms and that they want to know what my rectifications are going to be for them not having bedrooms. And then goes on to state that I called his residence and that it was a discrace to his family and it is ill advised to call him at his home for business related questions.
That is what the letter says. Now to give you the background information.
Mt ex and I got a dissolution in Dec 09, and we agreed that I pay the house payment till my youngest child turned 18, and the child support calculation worksheet was done. Basically they ( her and her attorney, which is also her boss) put what numbers they wanted in for the child support calculation.
I was under the understanding these numbers were correct, well they were way off. I wasnt given credit for the amount of health insurance that I pay for and the union dues I pay. Also her income was imputed at $10,900, which I later found out it should be at a min. of min wage 40 hrs a week. If I would have known that this information wasnt correct I wouldnt have signed off on it.
So i petitioned for an administrative review and of course she went ballistic. ODJFS granted the review, and it is set for july 5th. Her response at first was that MY kid would not be able to eat if I have child support reduced. And that she was going to fight it. I said the kids will be fine as I already pay for their home which include the payment, ins, and property taxes and for their insurance, and half the medical bills. Right now I pay $870 a month for the house my kids live in, and $1160 in child support.
My girlfriend and I recently bought a new home. She has 2 daughters ages 14 and 16. I ahve 2 daughters as well ages 5 and 14. The house is a 3 bedroom house, and my ex is claiming that I dont have adequate bedrooms for my daughters on my weekends. My youngest daughter, she comes with me evey weekend but one every month. My oldest daughters only comes when she wants to, but I envite her every weekend. I even tell her even on her moms weekends, that if its ok with her mom she can come visit with me.
And for talking with my oldest daughter, I did talk to her about the amount o support I pay. Only because she came to me and asked how come I dont have any money to go do things with them. Thats when I explained to her that I pay for their house so I can assure that they have a safe and nice plae to live, then the rest is so her mom can get them the thngs they need. She then asked how much I pay, and I told her. I did not tell her how much I pay for health ins for them and that I pay half of the medical bill copays also. I know this may not have been the best decision, but I dont lie to my kids. I figured if she is old enough to ask the question, she is old enough to get the answer. She is 14 yrs old.
The part where I called her attorney/boss at home, I did call him there. I had to go to their office to sign the QDRO form that took them 1 1/2 yrs to draw up, and I informed my ex that I wanted to talk to him as well. She said he wasnt in, I said ok can you call him on his cell and have hi call me. She said I am not bothering him on his day off. Then she sends me a text message stating that his number is in the book and that I can call him there. So I did, since she is an employee of his, and she was at work while I wanted to speak with him. I left him a message, stated my name and asked that he call me back, and left him my number, and said thank you, then hung up. I have all the mssages leading up to where she told me to call him at home, and the message telling me to call him there.
Ok..now for my question.
My daughters sometimes share bedrooms with my girlfriends daughters, and sometimes they sleep on air matresses and the couch. I would love to have bedrooms for them, but there is just no possible way. We couldnt afford a bigger house, much less me afford it on my own. Are these adequate conditions for the children?
Is there anything she can do to stop me from seeing my kids or reduce the amount of time I can spend with them?
Is there anything the courts can do to me for talking with my daughter about the child support?
She also stated that I needed to start paying for half of their school cloths etc. I told her that is what child support is for. She said that she was going to have the papers changed to say that I have to pay half of school cloths, sports, etc. Im pretty sure she cant do that, but not for sure.
Thanks in advanced
