name change

[kmom23]

I know that stealth2 certainly doesn't need 'my' backup support but, oh yes, stealth2 is correct in that [A judge most certainly can.]

I was refering to Connecticut, and the judge that I was working with said that I would not be made to change the last name. I also stated that I knew that every states laws are different. Maybe you should read before you comment. All I was trying to do was tell what happend in my case, to show another side. Not give advice. I am studying to be a paralegal, learning things every day. So that is why I stated where I was from and that is what MY judge told me. Not that was the lay of the land.

 

[stealth2]

I was refering to Connecticut, and the judge that I was working with said that I would not be made to change the last name. I also stated that I knew that every states laws are different. Maybe you should read before you comment. All I was trying to do was tell what happend in my case, to show another side. Not give advice. I am studying to be a paralegal, learning things every day. So that is why I stated where I was from and that is what MY judge told me. Not that was the lay of the land.

YOUR judge said that YOU would not be made to change the name. That is quite different from "No one can make you change it." If Dad presents a good case, even in CT, a judge CAN order that name changed. Stuff that into your high horse, missy. Or provide a legal cite that states it cannot happen.

 

[tinam0308]

I am looking for good advice, and I thank those of you, who have offered that. I never intended to start an argument between you.

 

[Silverplum]

YOUR judge said that YOU would not be made to change the name. That is quite different from "No one can make you change it." If Dad presents a good case, even in CT, a judge CAN order that name changed. Stuff that into your high horse, missy. Or provide a legal cite that states it cannot happen.

Coffee-->>Nose-->>Shirt-->>Monitor....dangit, Stealth!!

 

[amiegaines654]

critterperson: I don't mind if he is added to the birth certificate, infact, I think he has the right to do that. But to completely change her name, she is eight years old, and she doesn't want her name changed. She told me she feels like her whole life is changing, and she doesn't like it. I am encouraging on all important asspects of this, visits, phone calls. thanks for your support!

I believe that the judge will take your daughters feeling into consideration, however the fact that you were willing to have the name changed, and now that support is not being paid, you have changed your mind. That is how it sounds. I don't think that the two issues are connected. When my husband was taken to court for his CS, he wanted his name added to the birth cert. and he wanted to change her name. She did not really want to change her name, so he didn't force it. She is 13. Your daughter will have to tell the judge her feelings, so make sure she is ok with going to court, and stating that for the record. I feel your pain. Hope all goes well for your daughter!!!

 

[tinam0308]

it is not the child support, it's $45.00 a week, I don't think that hurts/helps anyone. It is the visitation cancelling and changing, that I am concerned about. If he wants to change her name so bad,and be a part of her life, then why doesn't he practice his visitation rights, as we agreed to? He isn't showing her a constant concern for her/his relationship. Therefore, that is what makes me believe that the "name change" on his part is an ego trip.

 

[Ron1347]

Ego Trip?...or, 'Get-Even-Tool'?

 

[tinam0308]

get even? for what?

 

[tinam0308]

I really like how you "GUYS" , think you are always getting a raw deal. Yeah, that is what I said, EGO TRIP!

 

[Ron1347]

Is that hostility directed toward 'me'? If so, I was simply 'asking', are you sure that the dad is on an 'ego trip', or are you sure it couldn't be a 'get-even tactic'. Or, perhaps a little of both. I wasn't diss'ing 'you'! I'm not looking to get into an attitudinal war with anyone. Just made an innocent speculation. Not looking to get into an 'insult game'. Not unless I'm forced to. Just trying to be a part of a supportive conversation.

 

[tinam0308]

no it wasn't. however, I do not know what you mean by "get even tractic", there isn't anything to get even for.

 

[Silverplum]

Obtuse, aren'tcha?

 

[djohnson]

Ego Trip?...or, 'Get-Even-Tool'?

As much as I hate to agree with Ron

You need to be very careful in court especially since you already agreed once. It can very easily come off as being petty and doing something to spite him in retaliation. It will bring into question if it's really in the childs best interest, and if it is, then why did you want to change it earlier against her best interests. I'm not saying to just give in, but just handle it carefully. Because of the circumstances, it could go either way.

 

[Ron1347]

I was just wondering if perhaps 'he' may have it in his mind that there is something 'he' feels there might be a need for him to get-even for. I am likely in over my head with this. It happens sometimes. Perhaps I have misunderstood some of what was said. I apoligize if I have drifted off track.

 

[djohnson]

I was thinking more along the lines of getting even for the child support, or getting even for not doing things the way she thinks they should be done. Not that you are, just that depending on how this is done now, he can turn that around on you.