name change

[kmom23]

YOUR judge said that YOU would not be made to change the name. That is quite different from "No one can make you change it." If Dad presents a good case, even in CT, a judge CAN order that name changed. Stuff that into your high horse, missy. Or provide a legal cite that states it cannot happen.

I realised I WROTE IT WRONG....THERE IS NO NEED FOR AN ATTITUDE. And as I said..I am learning about it and stated that it was from MY JUDGE and MY case in the last posting. I am not trying to get into a fight. Just try to help a person by giving insite about a case I am familure with, mine! I said something wrong, give me a freaking break. I am a first year student geese, I am sure you NEVER said anything wrong I guess...just a refresher of what I actually wrote. "All I was trying to do was tell what happend in my case, to show another side. Not give advice." And like I said, I worded it wrong.

 

[tinam0308]

honestly, I didn't realize I had a choice. When I started talking to him about the visitations, before we went to court, he (ncp) told me that her name WILL be changed. His sister also told me the same thing. They said, that is just how it is. I know ignorance is no excuse, but I have never had to deal with this sort of issue. I understand "live and learn", but I really didn't know I had a choice. The way the judge let him caring on in court, was/is overwhelming to me. I don't want to speak out, and disrespect the judge. But I guess, that is another thing I will have to learn.

 

[Silverplum]

I realised I WROTE IT WRONG....THERE IS NO NEED FOR AN ATTITUDE. And as I said..I am learning about it and stated that it was from MY JUDGE and MY case in the last posting. I am not trying to get into a fight. Just try to help a person by giving insite about a case I am familure with, mine! I said something wrong, give me a freaking break. I am a first year student geese, I am sure you NEVER said anything wrong I guess...just a refresher of what I actually wrote. "All I was trying to do was tell what happend in my case, to show another side. Not give advice." And like I said, I worded it wrong.

Uhhh...there's no need for an attitude from you, little kmom. YOU are the one who messed up. Be gracious and move on. Did your mother teach you nothing? Were you brought up in a barn?

Oh, and what is a "student geese"? Moving up from duck?

 

[ENASNI]

no

Uhhh...there's no need for an attitude from you, little kmom. YOU are the one who messed up. Be gracious and move on. Did your mother teach you nothing? Were you brought up in a barn?

Oh, and what is a "student geese"? Moving up from duck?

No a Peahen ... as in brain the size of...


(oops that was not very gracious of me... but then I sort of was brought up in a barn... ) Hi Plum

 

[Silverplum]

Hi there, ENASNI! All these farm animals are making me want to break out into song!

Old MacDonald had a farm....sing it, posters!

 

[ENASNI]

otay

aye yi yi yi yi !


Oh thats not the refrain.

Is it Oy OY OY OY VEY!

 

[critterperson]

honestly, I didn't realize I had a choice. When I started talking to him about the visitations, before we went to court, he (ncp) told me that her name WILL be changed. His sister also told me the same thing. They said, that is just how it is. I know ignorance is no excuse, but I have never had to deal with this sort of issue. I understand "live and learn", but I really didn't know I had a choice. The way the judge let him caring on in court, was/is overwhelming to me. I don't want to speak out, and disrespect the judge. But I guess, that is another thing I will have to learn.

Tinam0308,
I have been reading some of the posts to your question, and here is my take on them...........I understand your issue and I agree, but I think others need to realize that----------
We live in the year 2005...............To change a childs last name to the fathers just because he is a male, is rediculous! Think about it....what would be the benefit? Is it a cooler name? Does it look nicer on paper? Any good argument can be won (these would not be good arguments).........................Believe me.... a judge isn't going to change a childs last name because the one asking has a penis....
Think about it.... 100 years ago women could not own property... vote... anything.........I think everyone needs to move ahead and realize that children way back when, use to be property of the father, and therefore took his name.......It is no longer like that and for a judge to change a childs last name based on gender would be violating this Mothers rights as a female with an 8 year old child............I could see if the child were under a year old...MAYBE, they would be able to ADD dads name, but not totally change the childs name.........................
Oh, BTW if he can't afford $45 a week he will never challenge it.... Fighting for a name change takes an attorney, and money............So if you are lucky he won't want to part with either..............................

 

[kmom23]

Uhhh...there's no need for an attitude from you, little kmom. YOU are the one who messed up. Be gracious and move on. Did your mother teach you nothing? Were you brought up in a barn?

Oh, and what is a "student geese"? Moving up from duck?

No again, in a prior blog I wrote I stated that I was a student studying to be a paralegal. So I am a new student just learning the laws. That is why I wasn't on giving advice. Do you not have a life, you come on and pick on people who are just trying to help others. That may make a mistake, and did not quote others. Get a life! The only reason I even came on was because I could relate to what the author was going through. Just wanted to tell what happend with me. And you apparently just took it way out of context. I am going to just ignore you and go on with my life. Good luck to you.
And actually I did not grow up in a barn thank you very much. What does growing up in a barn have to do with anything that I said. Last I heard, "Do you live in a barn" meant you should have shut the door. And my mother has taught me many things. And seeing that you are being childish..I guess the phrase "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me" should be addressed to you. This reminds me of what someone may do to someone in middle school.

 

[kmom23]

I am looking for good advice, and I thank those of you, who have offered that. I never intended to start an argument between you.

I am sorry for the argument!

 

[ENASNI]

I apologize for my singing voice...

 

[Rushia]

I apologize for my singing voice...

I thought it sounded wonderful MOM!!!! Yes sucking up here!!!! Want my new SUV. Love the new sig.

 

[ENASNI]

aw

I thought it sounded wonderful MOM!!!! Yes sucking up here!!!! Want my new SUV. Love the new sig.

Well thank you honey... I am touched. I am saving for the SUV but this dang injury on my leg has taken a toll on my Money situation...

The new sig came to me in a dream...NO KIDDING... I dreamt about this dang forum... and you were in it... I was gonna meet you! and Doc and I think DA judge but then I woke up before I saw his face... dangit!

Gotta take a break off this forum before I really lose it

 

[snostar]

In the beginning of this, I agreed to have her name changed to his. The judge signed the agreement, and we had to do the paper work. The ncp messed up the paper work, and now we are going to court for the judge to handle the name change.

Usually the paper work is done first, then the judge signs it. What was the error on the signed agreement? A judge's decision holds far more weight than that of a signed stipulation.

Oh, and BTW child support has nothing to do with the name change, so expect the judge to disallow any mention of it!

 

[CJane]

it is not the child support, it's $45.00 a week, I don't think that hurts/helps anyone. It is the visitation cancelling and changing, that I am concerned about. If he wants to change her name so bad,and be a part of her life, then why doesn't he practice his visitation rights, as we agreed to? He isn't showing her a constant concern for her/his relationship. Therefore, that is what makes me believe that the "name change" on his part is an ego trip.

The name change is a completely separate issue from the visitation/CS issues. You'll most likely have a very difficult time convincing the judge that you think it's a bad idea NOW, when before you agreed to it. Especially if your only reasoning is that he's not upholding what YOU think his repsonsibilties are.

 

[LdiJ]

To get back to one of your questions...yes, I think you should file a motion against the name change if you previously signed an agreement. The motion should include all of the reasons that you listed earlier why the child's name should not be changed.

It should also include that the child doesn't want her last name changed.