NCP picking up at school

[xKellyx]

What is the name of your state?AL

Today is my ex's birthday, Happy Birthday! Anyway he gets her an hour earlier today because of that fact and gets to keep my daughter the whole weekend since its his weekend anyway. I told him he would have to pick her up at school at 5:00 p.m. since I will be just getting off work. I told the school that only he can be the one to pick her up and that it had to be around 5:00, not 3 or 4 or earlier. Normally I have it set with the school that my aunt or I am the only ones allowed to pick her up. Can I get in trouble for doing this? It's not like he would have a reason to pick her up normally anyway with our visitation schedule. If he goes to pick her up earlier, and the school doesn't let him from what I've told them, can I get into trouble for that?

 

[stealth2]

Is school proper in session from 3-5? If not, what's the big deal with him getting her out of afterschool care?

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state?AL

Today is my ex's birthday, Happy Birthday! Anyway he gets her an hour earlier today because of that fact and gets to keep my daughter the whole weekend since its his weekend anyway. I told him he would have to pick her up at school at 5:00 p.m. since I will be just getting off work. I told the school that only he can be the one to pick her up and that it had to be around 5:00, not 3 or 4 or earlier. Normally I have it set with the school that my aunt or I am the only ones allowed to pick her up. Can I get in trouble for doing this? It's not like he would have a reason to pick her up normally anyway with our visitation schedule. If he goes to pick her up earlier, and the school doesn't let him from what I've told them, can I get into trouble for that?

If the order says that he gets her at 5, then you can't get in trouble for specifying 5. However, its likely to really tick dad off if he does go earlier.

Like Stealth said, what's the big deal with him picking her up earlier if school is already done for the day?

 

[jslopez711]

What is the name of your state?AL

Today is my ex's birthday, Happy Birthday! Anyway he gets her an hour earlier today because of that fact and gets to keep my daughter the whole weekend since its his weekend anyway. I told him he would have to pick her up at school at 5:00 p.m. since I will be just getting off work. I told the school that only he can be the one to pick her up and that it had to be around 5:00, not 3 or 4 or earlier. Normally I have it set with the school that my aunt or I am the only ones allowed to pick her up. Can I get in trouble for doing this? It's not like he would have a reason to pick her up normally anyway with our visitation schedule. If he goes to pick her up earlier, and the school doesn't let him from what I've told them, can I get into trouble for that?

What is the big deal here? Are you being petty?

 

[xKellyx]

My daughter is almost 3, she is in daycare, but its like a school with books and everything. They even teach her sign language. The daycare is open till 5:30. We are currently in a court battle for custody and I don't feel like I should give him anymore time than is ordered in case he tries to turn it around on me saying that I don't want her or something.

 

[jslopez711]

My daughter is almost 3, she is in daycare, but its like a school with books and everything. They even teach her sign language. The daycare is open till 5:30. We are currently in a court battle for custody and I don't feel like I should give him anymore time than is ordered in case he tries to turn it around on me saying that I don't want her or something.

I would love to be a fly on the wall when you try to explain this to the judge. Daycare in NOT REQUIRED...

 

[LdiJ]

My daughter is almost 3, she is in daycare, but its like a school with books and everything. They even teach her sign language. The daycare is open till 5:30. We are currently in a court battle for custody and I don't feel like I should give him anymore time than is ordered in case he tries to turn it around on me saying that I don't want her or something.

I can understand sticking strictly to the court orders when you are in the middle of a custody battle. Sometimes that is the wiser thing to do. Since dad is likely to stick to them strictly as well, its probably nothing to worry about.

 

[xKellyx]

I would love to be a fly on the wall when you try to explain this to the judge. Daycare in NOT REQUIRED...

It's required for me to have a job and support her, I won't be so "petty" when court is over with. Not to mention the fact the less time he has with her the better, he has a problem with changing diapers. It will be better once she is fully potty trained.

 

[LdiJ]

I would love to be a fly on the wall when you try to explain this to the judge. Daycare in NOT REQUIRED...

What does that have to do with her question? The child's daycare isn't infringing on any of dad's court ordered time.

 

[stealth2]

I think the point is that a court is unlikely to support restricting Dad's time (on a day he's to get the child earlier) due to daycare. Daycare - even one with books and stuff - isn't school, and missing an hour on a Friday is unlikely to cause any irreparable loss in learning. Especially at 3. A judge may well find this sort of thing to be petty.

And the diaper thing is likely to be moot in short order. At 3, the child should be nearing being out of nappies.

 

[xKellyx]

I think the point is that a court is unlikely to support restricting Dad's time (on a day he's to get the child earlier) due to daycare. Daycare - even one with books and stuff - isn't school, and missing an hour on a Friday is unlikely to cause any irreparable loss in learning. Especially at 3. A judge may well find this sort of thing to be petty.

And the diaper thing is likely to be moot in short order. At 3, the child should be nearing being out of nappies.

I was only using 3 or 4 as an example, he could of tried to pick her up right after I dropped her off for all I know, Her father is also one of the reasons she isn't FULLY potty trained, he does not keep with any sort of potty training at his house while she is there. But the school/daycare does.

I wasn't saying I don't want her going earlier with him because she will miss even a full day of learning, I basically want to keep strictly with the CO and I want my daughters diapers changed. Her Father is still getting her at the time that he is supposed to so he isn't losing out any of his time, and I'm not getting into any sort of a mess he might make up.

 

[stealth2]

Okay, so I don't even get why you asked. You have a court order. You're not going to get in trouble for following it.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

You need to grow up and think of your child, the best interest of your child is served by having a meaningful relationship with both parents. You are being petty. Many parents are here asking to get their children's NCP to exercise visitation and you are here with joint custody thinking of ways to deny NCP access to his child. No matter that you have gone your differet ways you have to coparent this child for another 15 years, but you will always be her parents, forever. It's his birthday and he is entitiled to his extra parenting time, not restricted by you. It is daycare, not school. What exactly does the order say?

 

[xKellyx]

You need to grow up and think of your child, the best interest of your child is served by having a meaningful relationship with both parents. You are being petty. Many parents are here asking to get their children's NCP to exercise visitation and you are here with joint custody thinking of ways to deny NCP access to his child. No matter that you have gone your differet ways you have to coparent this child for another 15 years, but you will always be her parents, forever. It's his birthday and he is entitiled to his extra parenting time, not restricted by you. It is daycare, not school. What exactly does the order say?

First of all I have full primary custody, The best interest of my child is that she gets taken care of wherever she is at. I've never denied my ex his time, nor do I wish to, I just don't want him getting anything more than is CO for right now since we are in a custody battle. He is entitled to have her from 5:00 pm to 8:00 pm since its his birthday, but since its also his weekend he would of normally picke her up at 6:00 and kept her till Sunday at 6:00. So nothing is being restricted, he is getting exactly what he asked for the first time we went to court.

Okay, so I don't even get why you asked. You have a court order. You're not going to get in trouble for following it.

Normally I have it set with the school that my aunt or I am the only ones allowed to pick her up. Can I get in trouble for doing this?

That was my main question, I wanted to know if I could get in trouble for not allowing him to be able to pick her up just at anytime.

 

[KWulfken]

One would think that if a father is expressing a desire to spend time with his child, the mother would welcome that as a child needs both his/her mother AND father in their life. An hour here or there will not hurt you, and if you and the father can work through the petty problems, it will help instill in your daughter family values, regardless if you and the father cannot get along to live with eachother. My husband has a child through a prior relationship, and 7 years later, we have finally reached an agreement that court can be an inconvenience, and fighting just causes problems and makes the boy uncomfortable. It would be nice if you can set aside your differences and problems with the father (as my husband's ex is finally starting to do) so your child can have a better, more fulfilled life with the values of yours and his. Remember, you both had that child, and you both care about the child, not just you, even if she is in your physical custody 90% of the time. I'd like to think that if my husband and I split, our child would not suffer because of our differences.