Odd of custody

[InfantCustody]

Reading this thread I keep hearing the following song go through my head:

Great...now I'm going to have that stuck in my head!

 

[130munch]

* Sigh *

Thanks to those who actually helped.

OhioGAL - you are really quite an angry trip! Not sure what your problem is, but you certainly have some kind of anger issue going on.

 

[stealth2]

Trust me, I'm trying to get him to be more responsible and I'm extremely disappointed at the mistakes he's made - we've had many, many discusstions about the poor choices he's made and what he should do to move forward. Hopefully we are at a point where he is going to do just that.

I'm not trying very hard to not hold his hand throughout all this. I'm not going with him to his attorney's appointment - I said I'd help w/attorney retainer because he's low income, but would not pay it all. I don't intentionally meddle in the situation, I just give my advice when he asks what he should do. I won't be at his court dates - I do understand it's his child, not mine. I just want him to be realistic about sole custody because I am not sure he will get it & I foresee a hugt attorney bill if he keeps insisting upon it - that is the scenario I'm trying to get him to avoid.

I admire people like you who are successful at a young age. To me 26-27 is young, but you are right, maybe not so young.

Again - thank you for the tactful input. Bottom line is that is all I was looking for.

And this is why you need to give him the info how to get here, and then let him get to it. I'm not saying it to be mean, but it is time for your son to step up to the plate and be an adult.

We have 16/17/18 yo young men come here asking how to gain access to their children, how to get custody, what kind of support they'll be looking at. THEY are young. THEY are little more than boys. Your son? Is a man. A grown man. And he needs to be pushed to start acting like it.

 

[Ohiogal]

* Sigh *

Thanks to those who actually helped.

OhioGAL - you are really quite an angry trip! Not sure what your problem is, but you certainly have some kind of anger issue going on.

I am not angry at all. I just find you overstepping, over intrusive and not comprehending anything about the law and how the court will view things. But that is okay -- tell your son that you know best and just to listen to you.

*walks away humming Mommy Knows Best*

 

[130munch]

Did I ever once state "I know best. I am the mother - mother knows best"? NO!

I stated OVER & OVER that my son wants full custody and I'm trying to find out if it's worth the fight & money that he will be paying. I fail to see any logical reason why you cannot comprehend and stick to that issue other than you are just angry at me and want to degrade me as much as you possibly can.

Your incessant need to do just that is really something. But go ahead and do it some more if you really must.

As for being ignorant - all the posters here are ignorant about the law - THAT'S WHY THEY ARE HERE! As for calling someone ignorant in a manner designed to insult them - that's something completely different.

 

[stealth2]

Did I ever once state "I know best. I am the mother - mother knows best"? NO!

I stated OVER & OVER that my son wants full custody and I'm trying to find out if it's worth the fight & money that he will be paying. I fail to see any logical reason why you cannot comprehend and stick to that issue other than you are just angry at me and want to degrade me as much as you possibly can.

Your incessant need to do just that is really something. But go ahead and do it some more if you really must.

As for being ignorant - all the posters here are ignorant about the law - THAT'S WHY THEY ARE HERE! As for calling someone ignorant in a manner designed to insult them - that's something completely different.

Here's the problem. Instead of teaching your son to fish, you are doing the fishing and handing him the cooked product. Stop. Show him the pond, and provide the tackle. Then make him feed himself.

Understand?

 

[majomom1]

Did I ever once state "I know best. I am the mother - mother knows best"? NO!

I stated OVER & OVER that my son wants full custody and I'm trying to find out if it's worth the fight & money that he will be paying. I fail to see any logical reason why you cannot comprehend and stick to that issue other than you are just angry at me and want to degrade me as much as you possibly can.

Your incessant need to do just that is really something. But go ahead and do it some more if you really must.

As for being ignorant - all the posters here are ignorant about the law - THAT'S WHY THEY ARE HERE! As for calling someone ignorant in a manner designed to insult them - that's something completely different.

Excuse me?! That was uncalled for. You don't have the maturity to "ignore" words on an open Internet forum?

 

[Isis1]

Reading this thread I keep hearing the following song go through my head:

Hey!!!!!! That's MY song!!!!!

 

[Ohiogal]

Did I ever once state "I know best. I am the mother - mother knows best"? NO!

I stated OVER & OVER that my son wants full custody and I'm trying to find out if it's worth the fight & money that he will be paying. I fail to see any logical reason why you cannot comprehend and stick to that issue other than you are just angry at me and want to degrade me as much as you possibly can.

Your incessant need to do just that is really something. But go ahead and do it some more if you really must.

As for being ignorant - all the posters here are ignorant about the law - THAT'S WHY THEY ARE HERE! As for calling someone ignorant in a manner designed to insult them - that's something completely different.

Angry at you? wrong. I DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOU! End of story. Hence I am not angry at you. I think you are completely arrogant, overstepping and out of your league but am not angry. I don't care at all about you. You are basically entertainment on Easter.

 

[130munch]

I find you equally arrogant too.

 

[majomom1]

I find you equally arrogant too.

Well, this is exactly what your son will get from the opposing attorney. If he doesn't do the research and have the passion to learn how all of this works, on his own, then his chances of prevailing will be less.

Get it? You are trying to help your son. We get that, but he has to do it and if he does it with the same attitude as you, he could have problems in court. He needs to be able to answer all these questions AND respond in a positive manner, not get mad because the attorney (or Judge) is being arrogant.

Asking for sole custody can be taken as selfish, unreasonable and unwilling to facilitate the relationship with the other parent. It doesn't promote co-parenting which is for the best interest of the child.

 

[cyjeff]

Then allow me to answer your question directly.

The chance of your son getting sole custody with the legal team of the resurrected spirits of Daniel Webster, Clarence Darrow and Jonnie Cocheran is roughly the same as the chance of me sitting next to Elvis on my next transcontinental plane ride.

In other words, none. He may get joint... supervised at first... but sole? Not going to happen unless the judge is on the take and you come to court with a suitcase full of money.

Even then... it's a maybe.

Is that clear enough?

 

[SESmama]

Me like!!!!