One more question

[stepmom4ever]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? GA

Someone on my last post mentioned that CSE can find out of my husband was really collecting disability or not.....my question is if they find out can he be in deep trouble with the court? I need to know just in case because if so, we have a huge problem on our hands

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? GA

Someone on my last post mentioned that CSE can find out of my husband was really collecting disability or not.....my question is if they find out can he be in deep trouble with the court? I need to know just in case because if so, we have a huge problem on our hands

Yeah. because if he said he was and he isn't, it is a felony called perjury. You got a winner there.

 

[stepmom4ever]

Yeah. because if he said he was and he isn't, it is a felony called perjury. You got a winner there.

Thank you Ohiogal....This is a personal question. Now that I know we may be in trouble, do you think it is a good idea to try and talk to the mother on behalf of my husband because they are fueding big time....I know the past was horrible but I wonder if my husband was to at least be cordial and nice to her, you think she may let it go?

 

[wileybunch]

Thank you Ohiogal....This is a personal question. Now that I know we may be in trouble, do you think it is a good idea to try and talk to the mother on behalf of my husband because they are fueding big time....I know the past was horrible but I wonder if my husband was to at least be cordial and nice to her, you think she may let it go?

Aren't you the one that was hanging around Mom's hospital room while she was laboring/delivering their child? The answer to your question is NO. HELL -- NO. Your presence is not welcome, Mom has made that abundantly clear. And, to insert yourself and put HER on the spot when HE screwed up big time? Why on earth would you ever think that's appropriate.

Not only should you stay out of it between them, your issue and "talk" should be with your HUSBAND.

Seriously, are you for real??

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Thank you Ohiogal....This is a personal question. Now that I know we may be in trouble, do you think it is a good idea to try and talk to the mother on behalf of my husband because they are fueding big time....I know the past was horrible but I wonder if my husband was to at least be cordial and nice to her, you think she may let it go?

What part of "stay out of the middle of it" do you NOT comprehend? Your X has made his bed. It really is time for him to find out that there are logical consequences to bad behaviours.

 

[stepmom4ever]

Aren't you the one that was hanging around Mom's hospital room while she was laboring/delivering their child? The answer to your question is NO. HELL -- NO. Your presence is not welcome, Mom has made that abundantly clear. And, to insert yourself and put HER on the spot when HE screwed up big time? Why on earth would you ever think that's appropriate.

Not only should you stay out of it between them, your issue and "talk" should be with your HUSBAND.

Seriously, are you for real??

Thank you....I will stay out of it...I guess there is nothing I can do at this point. He's in trouble

 

[CJane]

Thank you....I will stay out of it...I guess there is nothing I can do at this point. He's in trouble

He IS in trouble. It's unlikely he'll go to jail RIGHT NOW... but that's where he's headed if he keeps up the games.

YOU need to be planning for how you're going to make ends meet and support the child you have together when his refusal to support his OTHER child catches up to him. Because it will. And when it does, he'll be gone for awhile.

 

[LdiJ]

Aren't you the one that was hanging around Mom's hospital room while she was laboring/delivering their child? The answer to your question is NO. HELL -- NO. Your presence is not welcome, Mom has made that abundantly clear. And, to insert yourself and put HER on the spot when HE screwed up big time? Why on earth would you ever think that's appropriate.

Not only should you stay out of it between them, your issue and "talk" should be with your HUSBAND.

Seriously, are you for real??

I think she is for real. Incredibly young, incredibly naive, incredibly foolish, no backbone, no self esteem, and jealous/territorial as heck, but for real.

I have met young women like her. They thrive on the "drama" and their definition of "standing by their man" until (or if ever) they realize that life is all seriously f'd up, and they contributed to it big time. Then they think that they should just be able to say "sorry" and have it all go away.

I think she is beginning to get what we are saying, but has absolutely no idea how to backpedel the "cheerleading" that she has been giving her husband, so has no real idea how to fix anything. Its also very possible that her husband will turn on her if she stops the "cheerleading", so she is probably confused about that as well.

Her best bet is to get an education so that when she ends up in the same boat as mom 1, that she will be able to take care of her child.

 

[stepmom4ever]

I think she is for real. Incredibly young, incredibly naive, incredibly foolish, no backbone, no self esteem, and jealous/territorial as heck, but for real.

I have met young women like her. They thrive on the "drama" and their definition of "standing by their man" until (or if ever) they realize that life is all seriously f'd up, and they contributed to it big time. Then they think that they should just be able to say "sorry" and have it all go away.

I think she is beginning to get what we are saying, but has absolutely no idea how to backpedel the "cheerleading" that she has been giving her husband, so has no real idea how to fix anything. Its also very possible that her husband will turn on her if she stops the "cheerleading", so she is probably confused about that as well.

Her best bet is to get an education so that when she ends up in the same boat as mom 1, that she will be able to take care of her child.

Wrong..I'm 36 going on 37 and I have a college degree....I'm a leasing agent for the GAP clothing company. My husband is 29....I can hold my own and I have before I met him. I chose to support my husband while he seek his barbar license and then we will open him a barbar shop. I just know that if this thing goes further, he's in trouble. I'm starting to realize that he cant play these games with the mother anymore because obviously she's not allowing him to contol her.....I would always hope for the best in my mariage but if things didnt work out I can support my child alone

 

[CourtClerk]

Wrong..I'm 36 going on 37

Then you're too da*n old to be so stupid.....

 

[escape2paradise]

Then you're too da*n old to be so stupid.....

I second that! OP by this age you should have a clue of what qualities are desirable in a husband!

 

[LdiJ]

Wrong..I'm 36 going on 37 and I have a college degree....I'm a leasing agent for the GAP clothing company. My husband is 29....I can hold my own and I have before I met him. I chose to support my husband while he seek his barbar license and then we will open him a barbar shop. I just know that if this thing goes further, he's in trouble. I'm starting to realize that he cant play these games with the mother anymore because obviously she's not allowing him to contol her.....I would always hope for the best in my mariage but if things didnt work out I can support my child alone

If that is the case, then you shouldn't have needed to come here in the first place. You should have been mature enough to understand what needed to happen, or should have been mature enough to advise your husband on how he should proceed.

 

[CJane]

If that is the case, then you shouldn't have needed to come here in the first place. You should have been mature enough to understand what needed to happen, or should have been mature enough to advise your husband on how he should proceed.

Holy crap. She's older than ME. And more educated.

And yet...

I don't doubt she can support the baby on her own though. She IS afterall, supporting the baby, the husband AND paying the child support for the other child. Divorcing the POS would probably IMPROVE her financial situation.

 

[Nativity]

Are you serious!? No one here is going to ask what a Barbar shop is?


I must be really dumb.

 

[stealth2]

Wrong..I'm 36 going on 37 and I have a college degree....I'm a leasing agent for the GAP clothing company. My husband is 29....I can hold my own and I have before I met him. I chose to support my husband while he seek his barbar license and then we will open him a barbar shop. I just know that if this thing goes further, he's in trouble. I'm starting to realize that he cant play these games with the mother anymore because obviously she's not allowing him to contol her.....I would always hope for the best in my mariage but if things didnt work out I can support my child alone

If the bolded part is true, the bolded and underlined parts scare me. By the time you get to 36, with a college degree and (apparently) a profession - don't you learn to proof and/or spell check what you write?