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[stepmom4ever]

Well, there's a fine line between love and hate. He sounds extremely emotionally invested in her still. It wasn't all that long ago that they were getting naked together doing the most intimate things 2 people can do. It's not NORMAL for a man to have so many feelings for someone he doesn't give a crap about any more. Think about it. But, you haven't helped this at all. I think you'd like to believe he HATES her, but in reality she has had many reasons to kick HIM to the curb so if he return he HATES her, it's mostly the sheer rejection by her and not wanting to be subject to his nonsense. He should be grateful she's doing a great job taking care of their child and grow up himself.

Well if his feeling for her are true, then there's nothing I can do about that. However, there's no contact between them because they can't be civil with each other. He only want her to call if it's regarding their child but she stated that even if it regards their child she will not call...what is he to do about that? and by the way does pay his support, it's just that when they are feuding, he will pay when he want to for that month..... I hear what everone is saying and I will be careful to watch that it don't happen to me but he's not treating me like , I guess for right now..

 

[TheGeekess]

Well if his feeling for her are true, then there's nothing I can do about that. However, there's no contact between them because they can't be civil with each other. He only want her to call if it's regarding their child but she stated that even if it regards their child she will not call...what is he to do about that? and by the way does pay his support, it's just that when they are feuding, he will pay when he want to for that month..... I hear what everone is saying and I will be careful to watch that it don't happen to me but he's not treating me like , I guess for right now..

That's because you're paying his bills and supporting his arse. You need to let him know that whether or not he and Mom#1 are 'feuding' that his child with her still needs to eat and have diapers. If they can't be civil with each other via voice communications, maybe they need to communicate via email; it'll give them time to cool off before they answer each other.

If I were you, I'd be running to a lawyer PDQ to get out of this marriage. Since you are able to support you, DD and him, don't you think you could do better without him? Bet you could....

 

[tuffbrk]

No. Sorry. 36 going on 37? It is ridiculous to say it, never mind to actually type it. Grammar, sentence structure, spelling, punctuation, never mind the thought process/logic used makes it real hard to swallow that this is a 37 yo person. My son's bday is also on 10-13. He says he is X (age he will be on his bday). And he is 22 yrs younger than the OP! Excuse me, he is 21 going on 22 yrs younger than the OP

As for me, I'm merely a HS graduate & proud of it. I also tell folks that I'm 37 yo when asked. Without any hesitation. Of course, I'm older than that but what woman is honest about their age after 29 yo, anyway? I mean, 29 going on 30.

 

[Rushia]

No. Sorry. 36 going on 37? It is ridiculous to say it, never mind to actually type it. Grammar, sentence structure, spelling, punctuation, never mind the thought process/logic used makes it real hard to swallow that this is a 37 yo person. My son's bday is also on 10-13. He says he is X (age he will be on his bday). And he is 22 yrs younger than the OP! Excuse me, he is 21 going on 22 yrs younger than the OP

As for me, I'm merely a HS graduate & proud of it. I also tell folks that I'm 37 yo when asked. Without any hesitation. Of course, I'm older than that but what woman is honest about their age after 29 yo, anyway? I mean, 29 going on 30.

HEY! I never lie about MY age. I'm 33 (just last Sunday) and proud of it! I EARNED all my gray hairs! My mother also proudly declares that she's 51 to anyone who asks. Of course, I wish she'd lie about it. I look older than I am and she looks younger and lots of people assume that she's my big sister!

 

[LdiJ]

HEY! I never lie about MY age. I'm 33 (just last Sunday) and proud of it! I EARNED all my gray hairs! My mother also proudly declares that she's 51 to anyone who asks. Of course, I wish she'd lie about it. I look older than I am and she looks younger and lots of people assume that she's my big sister!

OMG I am the same age as your mother...LOL...although we may have established that before...

 

[Rushia]

OMG I am the same age as your mother...LOL...although we may have established that before...

That's why I love the ladies in our group, they're all older than me. I get to be the baby for a change!

 

[Bloopy]

HEY! I never lie about MY age. I'm 33 (just last Sunday) and proud of it! I EARNED all my gray hairs! My mother also proudly declares that she's 51 to anyone who asks. Of course, I wish she'd lie about it. I look older than I am and she looks younger and lots of people assume that she's my big sister!

If I ever lie about my age, it will be to lie up.

I'd rather someone think I look a Fabulos Forty, than a rough 25.

End ramble now

 

[stepmom4ever]

That's because you're paying his bills and supporting his arse. You need to let him know that whether or not he and Mom#1 are 'feuding' that his child with her still needs to eat and have diapers. If they can't be civil with each other via voice communications, maybe they need to communicate via email; it'll give them time to cool off before they answer each other.

If I were you, I'd be running to a lawyer PDQ to get out of this marriage. Since you are able to support you, DD and him, don't you think you could do better without him? Bet you could....

we received certified mail stating that she didn't want any phone/personal contact with my husband and anything he need to say should be sent to her certified. She has changed her home and cell on him. I advised him to just send her the certified mail regarding their son

 

[wileybunch]

and by the way does pay his support, it's just that when they are feuding, he will pay when he want to for that month

What a baby! Then he should expect to deal with CSE. And, hope his child's mother is grown up enough for both of them so his child is able to eat and have diapers while he's playing sissy baby games.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

and by the way does pay his support, it's just that when they are feuding, he will pay when he want to for that month.....

In one of the threads, you talk about paying all the bills, including the support money. Might be a stupid question here, but why don't YOU went the check out, on time, to help avoid the drama. You're paying it anyway. And it sure would be cheaper than paying an attorney.

 

[stepmom4ever]

In one of the threads, you talk about paying all the bills, including the support money. Might be a stupid question here, but why don't YOU went the check out, on time, to help avoid the drama. You're paying it anyway. And it sure would be cheaper than paying an attorney.

We have the joint account...so he can write checks on the account when he wants. I don't need to write his support check for him. As funny as this sounds, he's the man of our house and inspite of me paying for everything, I still allow him the control to be head of household.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Sorry, but there are times when it is appropriate to take certain responsibilities away from an UNRESPONSIBLE SCHMUCK.

 

[wnbama]

We have the joint account...so he can write checks on the account when he wants. I don't need to write his support check for him. As funny as this sounds, he's the man of our house and inspite of me paying for everything, I still allow him the control to be head of household.

OMG You are the one making the money and you ALLOW him to handle the money!

Having a joint account also means they can freeze your money or "take" your money out of joint account to pay his CS. If I was you I would get a separate account first thing in the morning!!

 

[wnbama]

You might want to check out the GA laws on delinquent support accounts:


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§ 19-11-30.10. Authority to levy and seize deposit


The IV-D agency shall have the authority to levy and seize a deposit or account in accordance with Code Section 19-11-32.

HISTORY: Code 1981, § 19-11-30.10, enacted by Ga. L. 1997, p. 1613, § 30.

§ 19-11-30.11. Fee on levied accounts


A financial institution may charge an account levied on by the commissioner of human resources a fee, as determined by the commissioner, of not less than $20.00 nor more than $50.00 which shall be deducted from such account prior to remitting funds to the department. The commissioner of human resources requesting bank or account information under Code Section 19-11-30.2 shall not be liable for costs otherwise assessable pursuant to Code Section 7-1-237.

HISTORY: Code 1981, § 19-11-30.11, enacted by Ga. L. 1997, p. 1613, § 30; Ga. L. 2002, p. 1247, § 18.



§ 19-11-32. Process to collect delinquent support accounts; limitation


(a) Notwithstanding other statutory provisions which provide for the execution, attachment, or levy against accounts, the IV-D agency, including its authorized contractors, may utilize the process established in this Code section and Code Sections 19-11-33 through 19-11-39 to collect delinquent support payments, provided that any exemptions or exceptions which specifically apply to enforcement of support obligations pursuant to other statutory provisions shall also apply.

(b) An obligor is subject to the provisions of this Code section and Code Sections 19-11-33 through 19-11-39 if the obligor's support obligation is being enforced by the IV-D agency and if the support payments ordered pursuant to Georgia law or under a comparable statute of a foreign jurisdiction, as certified to the IV-D agency, are delinquent in an amount equal to the support payment for one month.

(c) Any amount forwarded by a financial institution under this Code section and Code Sections 19-11-33 through 19-11-39 shall not exceed the delinquent or accrued amount of support owed by the obligor. Financial institutions subject to administrative levy are defined in paragraph (3) of subsection (a) of Code Section 19-11-30.2.

HISTORY: Code 1981, § 19-11-32, enacted by Ga. L. 1997, p. 1613, § 31.

 

[LdiJ]

OMG You are the one making the money and you ALLOW him to handle the money!

Having a joint account also means they can freeze your money or "take" your money out of joint account to pay his CS. If I was you I would get a separate account first thing in the morning!!

Seriously, anyone who is married to someone who has to pay child support, should never have a joint account with that person, and even having joint assets can be problematic.

I also have a hard time believing that you are for real anymore.