Re: Dad refuses to give up rights

[moocowheff]

Don't write stuff you can't defend...it can sure come back to bite you.

We advise folks all the time to print out their X's stupid blogs.

lol, me saying that my daughter is a wuss came back to bite me? it's not like i sit there and tell her she's a wuss all the time or anything, I was making a joke.

And thanks for the idea.

 

[Silverplum]

lol, me saying that my daughter is a wuss came back to bite me? it's not like i sit there and tell her she's a wuss all the time or anything, I was making a joke.

And thanks for the idea.

Sorry I tried to give you a hand. That won't happen again.

You sounded pretty cold to me. I could be your magistrate.

 

[moocowheff]

If he is one of the good ones - great. But you are contradicting yourself... which is true "he doesn't lash out for no reason" which sounds like he DOES lash out just for what you consider to be no reason... OR "he DOESNT have anger problems,"

I don't get how it could get any clearer? Example: I used to have a guy that would yell at me whenever they would get frustrated with anything else in their life, just to cool off and have someone to take it out on. That's what I would consider "no reason". He doesn't do that. I'm sorry if I confused you?

The current guy has never yelled at me or my child. Is incredibly calm about everything, and I'm not quite sure even knows how to be angry.

 

[proud_parent]

You were implying that I left without telling him.

Quote anything that I wrote that states any such thing.

I've told his voicemail numerous times. I was actually thinking about writing a letter lastnight.

Good. Make sure you send it.

He goes through the same cell phone company as I do, and it hasn't been affected at all.

Perhaps his phone got submerged. Maybe he was down at the river filling sandbags, and it fell out and floated downstream. I'll go check my backyard and see if it turns up.

And do you really blame for being excited that I had a reason to move in with the guy I'm going to marry?

DING DING DING! We all knew what your real motive for moving was. Thank you for confirming.

I was back on a probation trial period after leaving the company suddenly a few years back. One mistake and I was out. When I called to tell them I was stuck on the interstate, they said "then don't bother coming in again, we'll mail your last paycheck to you".

Then it wasn't a single mistake. You were fired for cause. The flood did not take your livelihood.

You're probably right about this, but it's a better job than the one her father has at the moment.

Not surprising, since job losses in your city alone are 6000-7000. Perhaps he needs to find himself a sugar momma. Does your fiance have any sisters?

At this point I'm teaching her how to count to 20. She's already got it down up to 10.

Mine too. Of course, the best part of her day is when she gets to show Daddy what she's learned.

I suppose I can't prove it to you guys, but I'm hoping that in a court room setting, they'll allow some sort of a drug evaluation. I know it's a danger to my child considering I found some in her diaper bag last summer. Had she gotten a hold of that and put it in her mouth, she would have had that **** in her system, and me being the one with full custody, would have gotten blamed for it, I'm sure, regardless of my system being clean.
And what do you mean "how long has it been since he's made no effort?" He's still making no effort. I called him yesterday around 3 o'clock PM Central time. He hasn't returned my call yet. He's about to get a new voicemail message (since I'm sure he won't answer the phone, as usual) in about ten minutes here.

Why are the amount of material possesions or people I've lost in a natural disaster important? I lost my way of making money, and to me, that's enough for me lose. Don't try and make me look like I'm just playing the victim card here, because that's not my intention. My original intention was to simply find out what state I would be best doing all of this in. You guys have made into a trial about my life.

Perhaps you fail to grasp that you don't necessarily get to decide which state is best to be "doing all of this in". That is called forum shopping. Also, you haven't got the goods to be doing the "all of this" that you are contemplating. And yes, if this does go to court, your behavior will be at issue as well as the father's.

If he ever decides to be a dad, I'll be happy, as long as he cleans up his house, learns to be a parent, and puts down the pipe. That's all I've ever asked of him is to be sober and keep all drugs away from our child when she's around. I don't care what he does when he has no responsibilities, but I would think that he would have enough to brains to at least vacuum the floor before letting a one year old roam around in his weed-infested house.

Your proof of all this is where, again? Floating down toward the Mississippi delta?

 

[moocowheff]

Sorry I tried to give you a hand. That won't happen again.

You sounded pretty cold to me. I could be your magistrate.

I treat others the way they treat me. At least, on the internet I do.

 

[proud_parent]

Don't write stuff you can't defend...it can sure come back to bite you.

We advise folks all the time to print out their X's stupid blogs.

Yep. And if OP's case does come back to this jurisdiction, I for one can tell her that the judges here will be VERY INTERESTED to read them.

 

[Luckiecatt]

I don't get how it could get any clearer? Example: I used to have a guy that would yell at me whenever they would get frustrated with anything else in their life, just to cool off and have someone to take it out on. That's what I would consider "no reason". He doesn't do that. I'm sorry if I confused you?

The current guy has never yelled at me or my child. Is incredibly calm about everything, and I'm not quite sure even knows how to be angry.

You are being clearer by giving more information. Can you understand that in the original context the way your referred to others didnt exactly make it seem like he wasnt that way... Open comments could lead to a different meanings for different people....

Going into court you will need to be VERY clear and make sure you are explaining things properly. a misunderstanding in court could be very bad.

 

[proud_parent]

The current guy has never yelled at me or my child. Is incredibly calm about everything, and I'm not quite sure even knows how to be angry.

I'll wager that what you are "not quite sure" about the current guy could fill volumes.

 

[Silverplum]

Yep. And if OP's case does come back to this jurisdiction, I for one can tell her that the judges here will be VERY INTERESTED to read them.

Send 'em on to me, I'll have 'em printed in the Denver Post.

 

[proud_parent]

Send 'em on to me, I'll have 'em printed in the Denver Post.

I've got two accordion files full. I can start a new one for this poster.

 

[moocowheff]

Yep. And if OP's case does come back to this jurisdiction, I for one can tell her that the judges here will be VERY INTERESTED to read them.

Explain to me what I ever did to any of you to make you all hate some random girl that was simply asking for advice.

My blogs have nothing in them that could be used against. I don't do anything illegal and I'm not a bad person, so I don't know what my blogs would hold against me.

 

[proud_parent]

Explain to me what I ever did to any of you to make you all hate some random girl that was simply asking for advice.

"Some random girl" indeed.

If I may deign to speak for the others, we don't hate you. If we bother to think of you at all, it is only with regard to your chances of prevailing in your mission to involuntarily terminate the father's rights.

My blogs have nothing in them that could be used against. I don't do anything illegal and I'm not a bad person, so I don't know what my blogs would hold against me.

Then by all means, carry on. You are obviously a legal scholar with more experience preparing for an Iowa family court case than I. I shan't bother to point you in the direction of relevant statutes or case law. You can do your own research while kiddo watches Dora.

 

[moocowheff]

Perhaps his phone got submerged. Maybe he was down at the river filling sandbags, and it fell out and floated downstream. I'll go check my backyard and see if it turns up.

Or he's too busy partying it up with his friends and getting stoned. We can all make assumptions at this point.

DING DING DING! We all knew what your real motive for moving was. Thank you for confirming.

So was I only supposed to leave if my house, everything I own and all of my family were gone? I was planning on moving in with him in the coming months anyways, this was just an opportunity.

Then it wasn't a single mistake. You were fired for cause. The flood did not take your livelihood.

It was my first time back in YEARS. The last time I worked for this company was before I was pregnant. I was being praised by one manager, and hated by another. You don't know what was going on, stop making accusations, as you DONT KNOW THE WHOLE STORY. Nor do you even deserve to know at this point.

Not surprising, since job losses in your city alone are 6000-7000. Perhaps he needs to find himself a sugar momma. Does your fiance have any sisters?

I've been working consistently since my daughter's been born (well, after the first 6 weeks anyway). I can't say the same about him. And implying that my fiance is my "sugar daddy" is ignorant on your part, since YET AGAIN!!!! You don't know the whole story.

Mine too. Of course, the best part of her day is when she gets to show Daddy what she's learned.

I would love for her to show her daddy how smart she is. He doesn't care, though. At least, not that he's ever shown.

Perhaps you fail to grasp that you don't necessarily get to decide which state is best to be "doing all of this in". That is called forum shopping. Also, you haven't got the goods to be doing the "all of this" that you are contemplating. And yes, if this does go to court, your behavior will be at issue as well as the father's.

What behavior are you referring to? Me wanting to move somewhere that my child will be well taken care of and I can constantly teach her new things? I hope my behavior comes into question, as I've done nothing wrong.

Your proof of all this is where, again? Floating down toward the Mississippi delta?

Let him pee in a cup. Give him a blood test. That should be proof enough. Or do the courts not do that sort of thing when a child's well-being is at risk?

 

[Luckiecatt]

Explain to me what I ever did to any of you to make you all hate some random girl that was simply asking for advice.

My blogs have nothing in them that could be used against. I don't do anything illegal and I'm not a bad person, so I don't know what my blogs would hold against me.

IMO - it could be said that you say the "wuss" comment in front of your daughter or to her. Which could be said is degrading/lowering self esteem and hence lead to an emotional abuse accusation... That is just one example...

 

[moocowheff]

IMO - it could be said that you say the "wuss" comment in front of your daughter or to her. Which could be said is degrading/lowering self esteem and hence lead to an emotional abuse accusation... That is just one example...

It never says that I said that to her. If the law operated on assumptions, that might work, but last I knew you had to have hard evidence of any thing like that. I would never try to make my daughter feel bad about herself.