Seperating from Husband

[TheGeekess]

All I'm going to say is that I find it HIGHLY unlikely that Dad will attempt primary custody, or that he'll even put up much of a fight for visitation - unsupervised or otherwise.

Also, SM4E, you'd be best served to just LISTEN to us right now. He will NOT pay you child support. Ever. Count on that and ensure that you can support your child 100% without ANY assistance at all from him EVER.

And realize, too, that since you're not paying his CS any longer, then if he doesn't pay it, he will suffer the consequences.... Or grow up and get himself to work.

 

[Just Blue]

I actually want to commend any member that responds with actual advice to this poster...considering her history and the craptastic, (Per Silverplums wording...I just love her and wish she would post to this post), "advice" she has offered other members of this forum.

You all deserve the ultimate kudos for bothering. Really you do.


Stepmom? You deserve everything and anything that comes your way. You suck. The guy you chose to father your child sucks and unfortunately there are a couple of children that will suffer because both of you are selfish and shortsighted ...people... (can't say the word I want)...

 

[Proserpina]

I actually want to commend any member that responds with actual advice to this poster...considering her history and the craptastic, (Per Silverplums wording...I just love her and wish she would post to this post), "advice" she has offered other members of this forum.

You all deserve the ultimate kudos for bothering. Really you do.


Stepmom? You deserve everything and anything that comes your way. You suck. The guy you chose to father your child sucks and unfortunately there are a couple of children that will suffer because both of you are selfish and shortsighted ...people... (can't say the word I want)...

...does it rhyme with any particular word, lovey?

I suppose I hold out hope that just about anyone can come to their senses (so to speak). Now she's in a position where she can at least try to do some major damage control and prevent - or at least counter - as much trauma as is possible, y'know?

(Then again this could once again be my notorious, ubiquitous and apparently senseless optimism! )

 

[Proserpina]

And let's face it, I think most of us just want to try and offer even the teensiest morsel of hope for those kiddies.

 

[TheGeekess]

And let's face it, I think most of us just want to try and offer even the teensiest morsel of hope for those kiddies.

I predicted several months ago that this would happen.... so either she's trolling or this is for real. Either way.... Somebody someday may use the search function and they'll come across the answers needed.

 

[happybug]

All I'm going to say is that I find it HIGHLY unlikely that Dad will attempt primary custody, or that he'll even put up much of a fight for visitation - unsupervised or otherwise.

Also, SM4E, you'd be best served to just LISTEN to us right now. He will NOT pay you child support. Ever. Count on that and ensure that you can support your child 100% without ANY assistance at all from him EVER.

I agree it is unlikely day will fight for primary on his own. However, if he has a new, young bedwarmer who wants to play perfect family with the child, it would increase the odds.

OP, don't you have 2 children with this man? I am way too tired to search for posts but I seem to recall you feeling superior to the other mother because you had 2 of his children while she only had one.

 

[Ohiogal]

Thank you I will use the links given to me to start......

That is the first thing to do.

He was a stay at home dad because I allowed it.

You allowed it and had no problem with it. Therefore you can't use that against him. He was primary caregiver of the child while you worked. That gives him a reason for custody.

I put up with taking care of him and all expenses.

Men do it all the time. You just got equal rights.

I regret all of this and I wouldn't know where to start with writing Kim a letter......I recall her saying to me that I will loose the most when the truth comes out...I never ubderstood what she meant but now I do..... What would I say to a women that was treated unfairly in the first place? Thanks all of you for your help

I saw some suggestions. That wouldn't be legal answers but this is not a legal situation -- it is one of you eating crow and realizing how horribly wrong YOU were to someone who didn't deserve it.

 

[Isis1]

as much as i want to go HA HA....

bummer Stepmom. the decision to seperate is never fun. and i am really sorry to hear it. must not feel nice to be proven wrong by a bunch of naggy people over the internet that really don't know more then what you post. aahhh.. human nature. it never fails to predict the future.

get some therapy. get yourself prepared. dad will try to put you through the same wringer he put kim through.

 

[stepmom4ever]

as much as i want to go HA HA....

bummer Stepmom. the decision to seperate is never fun. and i am really sorry to hear it. must not feel nice to be proven wrong by a bunch of naggy people over the internet that really don't know more then what you post. aahhh.. human nature. it never fails to predict the future.

get some therapy. get yourself prepared. dad will try to put you through the same wringer he put kim through.

Afraid as I may be , I'm preparing myself...

To Ohiogal, you are correct, I was horrific to someone who didn't deserve it and who on top of that , received bad treatment from my husband as well.... I never wanted to believe it would happen to me but I know now that Karma exsist**************. Thank you all I will check the links out and consult a lawyer

 

[kimberlywrites]

Who's Kim?? Okay, okay, I'll check out the history since y'all aren't telling me anything.

 

[kimberlywrites]

and I only read a few of them.

 

[Isis1]

and I only read a few of them.

you read them sober???

 

[Ohiogal]

you read them sober???

I am getting drunk now. You know at least S4E is not accusing her SS or hubby of sexual molestation. The other morons on here who think THAT is no big deal... well i am taking comfort in S4E's normal problems. These are the minor problems that are not a "big" deal. No offense S4E but read some of the other step threads today and you will understand. If you have questions ask. Until then, I am sending a round of white zin to everyone. I may hit the bottom of the bottle tonight.

 

[Isis1]

I am getting drunk now. You know at least S4E is not accusing her SS or hubby of sexual molestation. The other morons on here who think THAT is no big deal... well i am taking comfort in S4E's normal problems. These are the minor problems that are not a "big" deal. No offense S4E but read some of the other step threads today and you will understand. If you have questions ask. Until then, I am sending a round of white zin to everyone. I may hit the bottom of the bottle tonight.

i'll race you there. it's only wednesday, sad to say.

 

[Proserpina]

i'll race you there. it's only wednesday, sad to say.

I'm joining you both.

I'm about an hour away from leaving to go and babysit adult SD who sliced one wrist on Monday evening (she's fine - physically, at least).