Step-Parent Adoption California

[Silverplum]

He has tried to pursue visitation but with him working 50+ hours a week, he cant just fly to california to see her since his ex said thats the only way he would ever see her. She has now said he wouldnt see her even if he did go to california. She wont let him have a relationship with his child and her new husband wont allow him to call their home. She is 3 years old and he hasnt seen her in almost 5 months. So you all can judge the situation however you want to but this isnt some easy decision that he has chosen to do. I would honesyly appreciate professional legal advice and not just opinions. Thank you.

Golly, I'm not from California or Oregon, and I just never bothered to learn anything not specifically related to my ownself.

Such a shame.

 

[mistoffolees]

He has tried to pursue visitation but with him working 50+ hours a week, he cant just fly to california to see her since his ex said thats the only way he would ever see her. She has now said he wouldnt see her even if he did go to california. She wont let him have a relationship with his child and her new husband wont allow him to call their home. She is 3 years old and he hasnt seen her in almost 5 months. So you all can judge the situation however you want to but this isnt some easy decision that he has chosen to do. I would honesyly appreciate professional legal advice and not just opinions. Thank you.

Those are petty rationalizations.

I work well over 50 hours per week and have plenty of time with my daughter. Even if I lived far away, airplanes go on weekends. Most people get vacations, too.

She won't let him have a relationship with the child? That's what courts are for. If he really had any interest, he could get and enforce a visitation order that would work with his schedule. Actually, if he had any interest, he would have objected when Mom first moved the child out of state.

 

[LdiJ]

Those are petty rationalizations.

I work well over 50 hours per week and have plenty of time with my daughter. Even if I lived far away, airplanes go on weekends. Most people get vacations, too.

She won't let him have a relationship with the child? That's what courts are for. If he really had any interest, he could get and enforce a visitation order that would work with his schedule. Actually, if he had any interest, he would have objected when Mom first moved the child out of state.

And if mom left the state he lives in less than 6 months ago, he could file for visitation in HIS state and mom would have to come to his state for court, not the other way around.

However, if he really does not have an emotional bond with the child and feels that its in the child's best interest to allow mom's husband to adopt the child, then mom should be getting an adoption attorney who would also draw up the paperwork for him to terminate his parental rights as part of the adoption case. A court isn't going to permit him to terminate his parental rights unless its part of an adoption case.

 

[Ohiogal]

He has tried to pursue visitation but with him working 50+ hours a week, he cant just fly to california to see her since his ex said thats the only way he would ever see her. She has now said he wouldnt see her even if he did go to california. She wont let him have a relationship with his child and her new husband wont allow him to call their home. She is 3 years old and he hasnt seen her in almost 5 months. So you all can judge the situation however you want to but this isnt some easy decision that he has chosen to do. I would honesyly appreciate professional legal advice and not just opinions. Thank you.

Cool. So he just throws her out with the garbage because other things are more important to him. At least the child will be better off without him. Apparently it is easy for him because anything else would be too damn hard -- such as seeing her during his vacations during the year or what not> Got it. Just wrap her up and throw her in the trash. Congrats.

Legal advice: he needs an attorney in CA. I say that only because any child would be better off without this man as a parent.

 

[panda79]

Wow, I am so excited to hear another unnecessary opinion. Very helpful, not. He doesnt get paid vacations and since he spends 600 a month for cs he said he cant afford to take time off of work with it being unpaid, and then afford plane tickets. This whole free advice forum hasnt proven to be too helpful. It seems more like a "Tell us your problem and we'll try to be as rude and not helpful as we possibly can." Unless you know the situation thoroughly and know every detail, or have anything useful/worthwhile to say about what you would.recommend to do, then try to keep your opinions and feelings to yourself.

 

[CourtClerk]

Well honey, I live in WA.

I live in CA...

and guess who MY employer happens to be????

Come one... I'll give you one good guess.

 

[CourtClerk]

Question:

Would dad be willing to terminate his parental rights, but not terminate his parental obligations?

Everyone knows where I'm going with this.....

 

[panda79]

Hmm... Maybe this site? I'm not stupid just because I dont know every single state's legal system by heart. I am also positive that I joined this website for legal advice, not to hear rude opinions from people and learn who employs you. I dont to be rude but I just really thought that we would be able to get some help on here and so far most people just want to be rude. It isn.t very professional of any senior members on here to treat people like that.

 

[panda79]

Is it even possible to do that? Everything that we have read or heard on the internet or from anyone says that when you terminate parental rights the parental obligations go along with that. So where are you going with that exactly?....

 

[Ohiogal]

Is it even possible to do that? Everything that we have read or heard on the internet or from anyone says that when you terminate parental rights the parental obligations go along with that. So where are you going with that exactly?....

For the stupid: he NEVer has to exericse his visitation but would still financially support HIS CHILD because he gives a damn about her.

Oh yeah, he doesn't give a damn. My mistake.

 

[panda79]

wow, you have once again proven to be unhelpful, unknowledgable, and rude. You clearly know this situation better than anyone ACTUALLY involved. No, wait.... You don't know anything about my fiance or his daughter or his ex or me or her new husband or anything pertaining to this situation, so unless you are going to claim to be a psychic next, then just stop even trying to give any advice to anyone.

 

[Ohiogal]

wow, you have once again proven to be unhelpful, unknowledgable, and rude. You clearly know this situation better than anyone ACTUALLY involved. No, wait.... You don't know anything about my fiance or his daughter or his ex or me or her new husband or anything pertaining to this situation, so unless you are going to claim to be a psychic next, then just stop even trying to give any advice to anyone.

I know he considers his child as DISPOSABLE which equates to TRASH which equates to him having NO INTEGRITY or RESPONSIBILITY or MATURITY. Congrats. I am sure you both will be very happy together. Make sure you personallY ABORT any pregnancy because I honestly believe any child born to you two idiots would be abused, neglected or need state intervention to survive.

 

[panda79]

Nothing you jusy said was even remotely related to the question we originally asked. Which translates to NOT HELPFUL. He doesnt want to do this. He has no relationship with his daughter and his ex wife wont even let him try to have one. So when she suggested this, it seemed to be best for the child according to the child's MOTHER AND FATHER. The child has a good relationship with her stepfather and calls him dad. So if you think anything else about the situation, just keep it to yourself because you are the most uneducated and unintelligent "lawyer" I have ever encountered. You are clearly no help to me.

 

[Mom_of_Two]

Is it even possible to do that? Everything that we have read or heard on the internet or from anyone says that when you terminate parental rights the parental obligations go along with that. So where are you going with that exactly?....

Where they are going with this, is exactly what I thought when I read this post last night. Dad (term used very loosely in this case) is counting the days until he doesn't have to pay child support anymore...tell me I'm wrong!!

 

[Mom_of_Two]

And, yes, the child is better off without him. So, tell mom to get an attorney in CA to petition for an adoption an the termination of your stellar BF's parental rights. Oh, and if "dad" really wanted to see his kid, then he could of trotted his happy ass to court to establish visitation rights. Stop blaming mom!