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Lil Miss Smarty Panties
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I am beginning to blush, my babe-o-licious bosom buddy. 
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CalieBayGirl
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To The Poster
It does not matter what any ones opinion are on the subject. You can file your motion for a small fee WITH the help of the Family Law Facilitator, who can help you with the forms you need.
If your only contact is unreliable, at least you could get that settled. Youdo not need an attorney for this.
It does not matter what any ones opinion are on the subject. You can file your motion for a small fee WITH the help of the Family Law Facilitator, who can help you with the forms you need.
If your only contact is unreliable, at least you could get that settled. Youdo not need an attorney for this.
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DChristian112
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Corbin's Mom-
I agree and disagree with the general idea of a either parent taking a child out of state with out knowledge.
The order between my ex and I states neither parent can take children out of state with out prior acknowledgment. He wants to take the kids to WY. I say " Can I have the city name, maybe an address, and a phone number if I cannot reach you on your cell?"
I want to take the kids to FL. He says "Can I have the city name, possible address, and a phone number I can reach you at if I cannot reach you on your cell?"
We exchange all pertinent information, and voilà', it is all OK.
However, I would not worry if it was only 90 minutes or so away. (I briefly read all the posts- so if you state the distance, I apologize for not reading).
If you are really that concerned, modify the order, but remember, it works both ways.
If me or my ex take children further than 50 mile vicinity of our homes, we notify each other. It is common courtesy.
When our children get older, and they are away at sleepovers, and he calls, I will tell him where they are, and I will call kids and tell them "Can you take a minute to call your dad?"
He is allowed to call at my mom's if she is babysitting. He can call our childcare provider as well to chat. I have no problems with that.
Good Luck to you God's Blessings!
I agree and disagree with the general idea of a either parent taking a child out of state with out knowledge.
The order between my ex and I states neither parent can take children out of state with out prior acknowledgment. He wants to take the kids to WY. I say " Can I have the city name, maybe an address, and a phone number if I cannot reach you on your cell?"
I want to take the kids to FL. He says "Can I have the city name, possible address, and a phone number I can reach you at if I cannot reach you on your cell?"
We exchange all pertinent information, and voilà', it is all OK.
However, I would not worry if it was only 90 minutes or so away. (I briefly read all the posts- so if you state the distance, I apologize for not reading).
If you are really that concerned, modify the order, but remember, it works both ways.
If me or my ex take children further than 50 mile vicinity of our homes, we notify each other. It is common courtesy.
When our children get older, and they are away at sleepovers, and he calls, I will tell him where they are, and I will call kids and tell them "Can you take a minute to call your dad?"
He is allowed to call at my mom's if she is babysitting. He can call our childcare provider as well to chat. I have no problems with that.
Good Luck to you God's Blessings!
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theother
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Fifty miles? Heck, I drive fifty miles just to get to work everyday. I've driven fifty miles just to go to dinner with friends or to a show or shopping. I'd be notifying you a lot if I was your ex then.
I think that notifying eachother of things that are out of the norm is courteous, but most of the time you should just let the other parent be a parent and just use their best judgement. I think I saw someone suggest a cellphone for the kid since the dad doesn't answer his. I like that, but I would make sure not to call so much that it interferes with the visitation. It should really just be for important matters.
I don't agree with the poster that used the kidnapping as a reason to fight for notification. While I'm feel for anyone that has a missing child, how would demanding notification of whereabouts help with someone that was determined to kidnap their child? It's not like you are demanding GPS tracking. You are asking for verbal or written notice of travel plans. Okay, I'll tell you that we are going to Vegas, but really we'll be going to Mexico. By the time you knew I had lied, it would be too late. In this day and age, I could be across the country between breakfast and dinner. Notification is no barrier to the determined. The only way notification would help you is if you were dealing with a really honest kidnapper. If you think someone is going to flee, you should probably get a lawyer and look into stronger measures. Besides, I don't think we are talking about someone who is a known flight risk, are we? Just someone who is kinda flaky.
I think that notifying eachother of things that are out of the norm is courteous, but most of the time you should just let the other parent be a parent and just use their best judgement. I think I saw someone suggest a cellphone for the kid since the dad doesn't answer his. I like that, but I would make sure not to call so much that it interferes with the visitation. It should really just be for important matters.
I don't agree with the poster that used the kidnapping as a reason to fight for notification. While I'm feel for anyone that has a missing child, how would demanding notification of whereabouts help with someone that was determined to kidnap their child? It's not like you are demanding GPS tracking. You are asking for verbal or written notice of travel plans. Okay, I'll tell you that we are going to Vegas, but really we'll be going to Mexico. By the time you knew I had lied, it would be too late. In this day and age, I could be across the country between breakfast and dinner. Notification is no barrier to the determined. The only way notification would help you is if you were dealing with a really honest kidnapper. If you think someone is going to flee, you should probably get a lawyer and look into stronger measures. Besides, I don't think we are talking about someone who is a known flight risk, are we? Just someone who is kinda flaky.
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LMAOOOOOOOO LMSP...that was a good one. Mammabear likes that word "bitter". If someone responds to a post and it's not what she wants to hear...they are "bitter" lol. But the bottom line here is, if it's not written in the decree, then the NCP and the CP can take their child out of state without notifying one another. I think it's sad how some moms THINK they are looking after the best interest of their child. When in fact, they are truly using the child, they claim to love so much against the dad. This story goes deeper than just wanting to be notified when child is taken out of state. This sounds more like revenge against the NCP. Now I would say that sounds..."BITTER" LMFAOOOOOOOO
I would also like to add (if I may) that the OP came into this forum for advice and help, and probably opinions too. IAAL and many others gave her advice...and very good advice. It was up to the OP to take that advice or leave it. So I say this, if you don't like the advice you get...then don't post a question here. This is not a "dear abby" forum, nor is it a "bitter" forum. The ladies who gave the OP their help, are very well informed, and far from "bitter" women. I rest my case lol.
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CalieBayGirl
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I think at this point the poster left. The only thing I see is you VeeG, ranting on her.
Why not wait for her to actually read the thread when she get's to it?
Why not wait for her to actually read the thread when she get's to it?
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CalieBayGirl
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I feel that every one is just throwing out opinions here, and it is really not fair to the poster.VG1013 said:
VG?
When should you know not to post a question? Is this poster seeing your responses befor she posted?
This poster is not responding and every one is throwing in opinions like they had a bat trying for the home run.
Let her read her post when and if she chooses.
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CalieBayGirl
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VG1013 said:
Where in this response did you give advice? You are having a ball at this posters expense, when in fact this is "FREE ADVICE", not let me give you my "FREE OPINION" and laugh at you.
Come on really.
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MammaBear76
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**Gives VG and Callie some Midol**
Settle down girls. . . it only lasts a couple of days. Go get some rest. . it sounds like PMS is kicking your asses!
Callie. . if you weren't so hell bent on just bitching. . you would see that my posts explained what to do. . and even extended info for her to contact me so I could get more in depth with my experience and what I did.
Go mop the floor you BITTER housewife!!! (that's exactly what you sound like!!!)LMAO. . . this is too much. . it's too easy!!
Settle down girls. . . it only lasts a couple of days. Go get some rest. . it sounds like PMS is kicking your asses!
Callie. . if you weren't so hell bent on just bitching. . you would see that my posts explained what to do. . and even extended info for her to contact me so I could get more in depth with my experience and what I did.
Go mop the floor you BITTER housewife!!! (that's exactly what you sound like!!!)LMAO. . . this is too much. . it's too easy!!
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coolmomof4
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usmcfamily said:
No offense usmcfamily - I think she's only wanting to know when he takes child out of state.
Our situation is the other way around for us. Hubby has custody of his son and even though we are not required by the order to do so, we let NCP know ahead of time if we plan to take him out of state and a local number where we can be reached. We ask the same of her and it works out well. We don't interfere with the their time together at all.
coolmomof4
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MammaBear76 said:
MammaBear-
usmcfamily has been on this board for a long time and she is very knowledgable. She's been through it and knows what she's talking about.
She is right when she says unless your order states you are to notify each other when you cross state lines, you don't have to. You *can* attempt to get it added to the order and it could cost ya. I would try to work something out with the father, have it go both ways. You both notify each other, I think having a local contact number is very important in case of an emergency if for no other reason.
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corbinsmom
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Success!!! I took the route I've taken for five years and talked to the NCP first. He saw reason in my request and was happy to comply. He then began giving me even more information than I had asked for! 
So, first course of action should always be to attempt working things out with your ex first. Something I've done from the beginning with some success. Save the courts and lawyers for last ditch efforts.
You've all shared a great deal of opinions. You've called me interfering, bitter, controlling. None of you knows my situation and you've all made assumptions about me based on your own personal experiences. Shame on you!!!
I doubt I will be posting again. I hope you all can work out your issues. My 4-year old son is very well-adjusted and extremely happy and will continue to be so as long as I stay an informed mother!
Bye!!
So, first course of action should always be to attempt working things out with your ex first. Something I've done from the beginning with some success. Save the courts and lawyers for last ditch efforts.
You've all shared a great deal of opinions. You've called me interfering, bitter, controlling. None of you knows my situation and you've all made assumptions about me based on your own personal experiences. Shame on you!!!
I doubt I will be posting again. I hope you all can work out your issues. My 4-year old son is very well-adjusted and extremely happy and will continue to be so as long as I stay an informed mother!
Bye!!
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