Visitation - Weekends

[FJ1200guy]

Forget all the problems between YOU and this chick. How does she treat the kid?

Why, as someone already asked you, can't you switch the weekend?

Kids... sigh.

"My question is this: Does the girlfriend (or even if she becomes his wife) have any visitation rights for our child?"

Nope.

"Do I have to legally turn my child over to her even when the non-custodial father isn't going to be home?"

To her? Nope.

Have fun! Lyle

 

[3kidsmom]

Chatkat??

Have I been rubbing off on you????

To the OP:
This isn't ONLY about your son's father's girlfriend, this is about you wanting to control what happens in his home. They ONLY thing YOU have control over is making sure you abide by the court order and have your son (collectively speaking of course) available for his father's parenting time.

You are in fact tearing your son in half. He IS half you, and half his FATHER. IF you love your son, you will ENCOURAGE and FACILITATE him spending time with his father. (even if Dad's new sweetie is there)

 

[3kidsmom]

FJ....

"Do I have to legally turn my child over to her even when the non-custodial father isn't going to be home?"

To her? Nope."

Sorry, but absent a court order to the contrary, in many states, a parent CAN have a representative pick up and drop off a child for parenting time.

 

[haiku]

well actually, when an ncp exercises visitation, that time period they can do as they like, including give the kiddo to a sitter. Also both parents can usually designate anyone they like to pick up the child. and you can get in trouble for not surrendering the child. (this is common sense-if you know the wife, husband, signifigant other, aunt, uncle, friend, etc...)

And if you were to push it far enough, the other party can have the person, you are not wanting to drop the child with named in the court order, and then there is no questions to argue in court.

now if this is a full weekend trip, as in he is not coming home to sleep at night? I might consider in that case asking for a switch in weekends-so he does not lose time. but hunting season is also not forever.

now if you could prove the ex was NEVER seeing the child you may be able to lower the visitation, but, you really have to step back here, and think about your child. If dad marries this woman, it will hopefully be (think of the child now...)for life. this woman is NOT a stranger to your son. She is part of HIS family now. Eventually you too will move on find happiness again. you should want your son to be happy and secure everywhere he goes. if you can see one positive in this, try to see that your son has the potential of a huge family and friend network to fall back on between you and your ex.

 

[stealth2]

I happen to know first-hand his lack of judgment. Also his choice of him first, everything else second. I've known the man for over 23 years. We were extremely close and the best of friends for many, many years.

>>> Yet you have a child < 10 with him. You apparently knew what he was like before you decided to do so - a court isn't going to be interested in this argument,

She is extremely forward and somewhat difficult to deal with. I can be very easy to deal with; however, I will match the 'tude. She has initiated the bad feelings.

>>> This does nothing to help your child. So she has an attitude - you're an adult. You walk away.

Another question: she calls my son's school and asks questions regarding things about school. She comes to parent/teacher conferences. Does she have the right to do that? Can she call the school and get information on my son, even though she is not his stepmom at present? Or even if she is?

>>> If Dad has designated her as someone who can do this, she likely can.

Can you tell I don't like this woman?

>>> Wasn't too hard to guess. Which very likely rubs off on your son and colors his perceptions.

Unless you can prove that this particular person is not someone with whom your son can be trusted, your ex is permitted to leave him in her care. He can designate her as the person to pick the child up unless it specifies otherwise in your order.

Your son is a minor, and therefore has no real rights. If he told you that he's decided he doesn't like going to school, or that he doesn't like brushing his teeth, would you let him just quit? Of course not. Visitation is no different.

 

[chatkat]

LOL 3km

Was it that obvious...

Maybe you are rubbing off on me, badhead just hit a really sensitive spot.

And please notice 3km that as in other post were we did differ in opinon. I am still protecting the Step-parent / Step-child relationship.

Not trying to be rude about that, just wanted to make that point.

chat

 

[kel4377]

I have to completely agree with chatkat. What happened with you is what I'm going through right now. My husband's ex has caused us enough problems that I don't even want to deal with it anymore, or the daughter. She also accused me of things I didn't do, like beating her when my husband wasn't home. The daughter and I had a great relationship, but it came to the point where I didn't even want to be around her anymore because of what her mother was doing. Badhead, you need to just put aside how you feel and do what's best for your son. Get over the jealousy and accept the fact that this new girlfriend is not only apart of your ex's life, but your son's as well.

 

[FJ1200guy]

My HUMBLE apologies

I accept my correction, apparently you must hand the child over to Dad's g/f.

So until I can find some more info, I'll go with what 3kidsmom, Haiku and Stealth said.

 

[chatkat]

Hmmmmm I wonder

anyone besides me notice that the original poster (badhead) has not responded in a while? I wonder were she went off to??

 

[kel4377]

Hopefully trying to get along with her ex's girlfriend!!!

 

[chatkat]

LOL I hear ya kel, we can only hope.

 

[KCMR]

"By the way, my ex-husband has extremely poor judgment of people..."
That doesn't say much for you does it?

 

[stealth2]

"By the way, my ex-husband has extremely poor judgment of people..."
That doesn't say much for you does it?

Damn - you had to say that while I had a mouth full of coffee, didncha?

 

[chatkat]

Hey stealth, bounty paper-towels will clean that right up...

Too Funny!

 

[sixstringdad]

Damn, I miss all the fun......