What happens if parents disagree over a developmental evaluation?

[TheGeekess]

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Seems like OP could gleam some advice from funnybabyboy200

It's something to think about.

I still stand by what I posted.

 

[Humusluvr]

I still stand by what I posted.

me too. I would just like to point out that any poster can offer advice, based on their personal experience. funny's advice may help the OP in getting what she needs.

 

[TheGeekess]

me too. I would just like to point out that any poster can offer advice, based on their personal experience. funny's advice may help the OP in getting what she needs.

Or, more than likely, send OP (who hasn't posted in a while, by the by) down a rabbit hole.

But whatevah.

 

[Humusluvr]

I don't know if you had the eval or not, however, I looked at the thread from May in regards to CPS. I am unsure if the case is still open.

However, if it is, they may be able to assist you in mandating developmental therapy for your son. In Pennsylvania, if a child is determined to be delayed by Early Intervention & CYS is involved, EI is mandatory, no longer an option to the parents. My son is involved in EI, and they have been a God send. He had a 25% cognitive delay, and he has made leaps & bounds since August of 2011.

It doesn't hurt the OP to have more info, than less. She can always look herself. More likely than not, finding out your own options is better than just blindly trusting the internet.

 

[SESmama]

I believe EI is under NCLB so it would apply. Maybe not the exact same way in every state but until NCLB is repealed then it stands.

Http://www2.ed.gov/programs/earlyintervention/

 

[InfantCustody]

New question, same topic.

Little IC has been evaluated by speech and occupational therapists and will be starting therapy as soon as the insurance authorizations come through and they can work him in on the schedule. Around the first week of June.

How does scheduling work? Little IC's dad and I switched to a set schedule so little IC can get into preschool in the fall and acutally attend on a regular basis as we are an hour apart.. He has him every Wed/Th overnight and every other week-end from Friday at 5 until Sunday at 12 noon. He will attend preschool 10 minutes from my home, on M/W each week.

If I schedule little IC's appointments on Mon/Tues/Wed, those are the days he is working and he says I am limiting his ability to attend the appoinments. If I schedule them on his days, then I have no right to schedule things on his time.

He doesn't agree with the evaluations or the treatments, but hasn't told me not to go forward with it and has not initiated any court action to block it so at this point I plan to go forward. This is a well respected facility and they have given little IC a lot of time to "catch up" on his own, but it just isn't happening. He is coming up on 2 and speaks less than 10 words and is having a lot of sensory issues, some of which have been present since he was an infant. Anyway...just a little background.

I am assuming it would be better to schedule the appointments on my time, notify him of the dates and times (he will be given a regular time each week, probably a Tuesday morning) and then it is up to him if he wants to attend? I know I can't and shouldn't schedule things on his time, so that seems like the lesser of two evils, yes?

Thanks...

BTW: In Little IC's 21 months of life, he has attended 3 MD appointments. All 3 were while we were in pending litigation for court. Not one before, not one after, for what that is worth.

 

[I'mTheFather]

Little IC has been evaluated by speech and occupational therapists and will be starting therapy as soon as the insurance authorizations come through and they can work him in on the schedule. Around the first week of June.

How does scheduling work? Little IC's dad and I switched to a set schedule so little IC can get into preschool in the fall and acutally attend on a regular basis as we are an hour apart.. He has him every Wed/Th overnight and every other week-end from Friday at 5 until Sunday at 12 noon. He will attend preschool 10 minutes from my home, on M/W each week.

If I schedule little IC's appointments on Mon/Tues/Wed, those are the days he is working and he says I am limiting his ability to attend the appoinments. If I schedule them on his days, then I have no right to schedule things on his time.

He doesn't agree with the evaluations or the treatments, but hasn't told me not to go forward with it and has not initiated any court action to block it so at this point I plan to go forward. This is a well respected facility and they have given little IC a lot of time to "catch up" on his own, but it just isn't happening. He is coming up on 2 and speaks less than 10 words and is having a lot of sensory issues, some of which have been present since he was an infant. Anyway...just a little background.

I am assuming it would be better to schedule the appointments on my time, notify him of the dates and times (he will be given a regular time each week, probably a Tuesday morning) and then it is up to him if he wants to attend? I know I can't and shouldn't schedule things on his time, so that seems like the lesser of two evils, yes?

Thanks...

BTW: In Little IC's 21 months of life, he has attended 3 MD appointments. All 3 were while we were in pending litigation for court. Not one before, not one after, for what that is worth.

So, have you asked dad when he would like the appointments to be made? He may want some of them to be on his time.

 

[InfantCustody]

Yes, I have asked. He does not answer me, because all in all he doesn't want the appointments to be made at all. Since that isn't an option, I have to choose the best of the routes.

 

[I'mTheFather]

Send him a letter with the available days for appointments, and ask him for his preference by such and such date. If he doesn't reply, then make the appointments you prefer.

 

[InfantCustody]

Unfortunately, she doesn't have a set of openings I can let him choose from. I tell her the days of the week I can make it and she tells us what time we will be there. I have asked him what days he would like me to do (given the "my time/work days" issue) and he won't answer me. I guess I will just schedule the appointment for my days and let him work it out if he wants to. I can let him know what time I will take him on my days, but alas I can't make him take him on his days.

Ugh...

 

[ecmst12]

Schedule the appointments during your time, let him know when they are, and leave it at that.

Consider keeping up with his well child checks and immunizations (he should have had more than 3 visits in the past 2 years).

 

[MichaCA]

Schedule the appointments during your time, let him know when they are, and leave it at that.

Consider keeping up with his well child checks and immunizations (he should have had more than 3 visits in the past 2 years).

I think she meant the DAD has only made 3 of childs med appts.

When you communicate to dad the times (do you email?) clarify you would like his involvment at any appointment and if he wishes to work out appts on 'his time', you support that too (he'll just need to work that out with the agency). That shows you willingness to 'work with' dad (even though its obvious he does not want to work with the situation at all) should he up and complain at a future court date.

 

[Isis1]

Unfortunately, she doesn't have a set of openings I can let him choose from. I tell her the days of the week I can make it and she tells us what time we will be there. I have asked him what days he would like me to do (given the "my time/work days" issue) and he won't answer me. I guess I will just schedule the appointment for my days and let him work it out if he wants to. I can let him know what time I will take him on my days, but alas I can't make him take him on his days.

Ugh...

i know exactly what you mean. all the occupational therapist, speech therapist and behavioral therapist work in the same manner. make them on your time. plain and simple.

as for him not responding, i still use this method:

ex, i am arranging such and such appointment on such and such date. unless i hear differently from you, i will be moving forward.

and just leave it at that.

 

[ecmst12]

I think she meant the DAD has only made 3 of childs med appts.

Stupid pronouns...

 

[InfantCustody]

Thank you. I will notify him as you suggested.

Sorry, yes I did mean his dad has only attended 3 of little ICs appointments, ever. Little IC has been many, many times and is current on all immunizations. His dad just never bothers to attend unless we have pending litigation.

Thank you all again. I appreciate your feedback.