what will happen now?

[Rushia]

I guess, there's really no sense for me of telling you about my situation. If I was not acknowledge in the past and 'til now. What the sense? I guess I'll let my self go to hell/jail to pay for what I have done. To make everybody happy and satisfied. But it does not mean that I'm guilty. I am still a mother like you guys but in a different circumstances. Go ahead continue to be rude..that's exactly the kind of opinion for people like me need in this world.

You're still a mother??? Give me a break lady. A GOOD mother would support her children. She never would have left them in that situation. The fact that you're more willing to go to jail than pay the support says a lot about you. If that happens, what is the new child supposed to do without it's mother. Oh sorry, I forgot, you left the other ones, why should you care about this one.

 

[nextwife]

Seems that you are one of those women who think that being capable of making babies absolves you of financial responsibilty to support them. That making more babies means you (or your household) should be allowed to walk away from financial duty to those already born kids - as if "he's a MAN, he's the one who should pay. I'm just a little 'ol taken-advantage of female, so how dare anyone think I should actually work to SUPPORT my kids that don't live with me. That's what men should do and I'm the woman who's been wronged."

 

[shashmk]

I have known a manipulator, my ex husband left me standing on the porch with a 1 and 2 year old while he took everything, including the money and left. I scraped what I could together and left. It was SO hard, and I am still struggling, but I finally stopped feeling sorry for myself and got up and found a way. I worked in a daycare where if you work there the daycare for my girls was free and bonus, I still got to be near them. I have now worked my way up..ALONE.....to make three times as much as I did then. And all of this without any child support or governement assistance (not that there is anything wrong with those who REALLY need it and short term). So, my advice, is, get out there and make it happen, no matter what they are STILL your kids and you should do what you can to make sure you help support them. Kids are smart, believe me, one day they will want to se or talk to you, and HOW are you going to tell them you didn't help support them? I hope that did not come across as harsh or rude, because I was not trying to be. I know you must hurt, but we chose to have our kids , so we have to take care of OUR responsibilities. Best of luck to you.
What doesn't kill us, only makes us stronger (boy, I used to HATE when my Mom said that, until I figured out she is right)