why can't some moms just be nice?

[angel_face16]

Get it off of your chest. Did your husband end their marriage. All of the woman that I know who have problems with their step kids bio-moms say it's because the ex has a stick up her butt because she's upset that she's been replaced. And more often than not the new women makes him happier.

 

[stealth2]

Nope - I filed for divorce. And I only wish my ex's new wife made him happier. But since he's been a PITA since he met her, I can only assume she doesn't. Oh well!

 

[angel_face16]

LMAO

 

[shaneyRRT]

Well I am also a bio mother and I don't mind my husband paying over $400.00 a mo. for one child. However, I don't like the sudden wants from the ex, like at xmas needing braces with only a week notice for $700.00 down. The child support is no biggie. We hardly miss it.
And yea he left her, she jumped on the hood of his truck. Actually I can see it now, seeing as how she acts so crazy all the time. But that is when they were young, and I guess I would want my husband to leave me anyway if I was her. He said he was going to the store and didn't come home for a week. I would have wanted him to stay gone. But like I said, they were young.

 

[vindictive X]

I have to agree with Angel face 16

My husband ended his 10 years of fighting and verbal abuse from her. And because he found me and was happy with me and I accepted their children she has hated me from day one. She had him so brain washed that no one else in the world could take care of him and no one in the world would want him because he has 2 children. Well she was not only wrong but we were so happy that we got married, in the same place they had planned to, reception and all. Didn't do it to piss her off but it did of course. It was just a great place and he really liked it. It wasnt somewhere she had picked but he picked it so I made his dreams come true. And we went to Hawaii somewhere they had discussed. Darn it! But for the past 2 years I have tried everything I possibly could to make this girl realize that I am going no where fast so she should just accept it. NO WAY!

So I agree that more than not the one that ends it their x will be jealous. And the new love oh how i feel for them to have to go through what we have been through.


Ok so today i spoke with her(the X) 5 year old step daughter calls her because she has been with us since Saturday and Mom hasn't called her she wants to know why, well I cant answer this so I give her the phone and tell her the #. They talk for about 5 minutes and they are done, step daughter is asking her mom if she wants to talk to me she starts yelling, I can hear this from about 10 feet away, no when you call mommy you talk to mommy and mommy doesn't want to talk to anyone else except your sister. Step daughter is crying, so I take the phone and ask what the problem is she says nothing click. No good bye to step dauhgter nothing so now I am pissed but nothing I can do but console step daughter and tell her that maybe mommy is having a hard day at work, remind her that I love her. A 5 year old doesn't need this pressure. oh why cant we just get a long. I don't want to bne her friend and hang out just be civil for goodness sakes....

 

[ladynred_32539]

Damn, that must be the problem, me being an exwife and all, I've been doing it all wrong, that must be why he hasn't remarried yet. So, are you saying I should be sitting around watching Jerry Springer, eating bonbons and devising new ways to get back at him? LOLOL. That is too funny. Maybe I am approaching all of this entirely too wrong. Well, I guess I better change my ways then huh?
Still LMAO over this one.

 

[jeanine]

My husband's ex truly takes the cake. She lives at home with her mommy and daddy and their child. We've caught her driving by our house. Somehow she got our unlisted home number and calls it. The hatred she has had for 10 years blows me away. 10 years?! C'mon it's a friggin decade. She has a new boyfriend and we thought she'd focus on him. Nope - still has to be a PITB to us. Any suggestions on how to nicely tell this woman to get a life?

BTW, I'm from NY and not a bitch.

 

[ladynred_32539]

Hey, does your husband and his wife have any children together? If not, then tell her to well, I can't say exactly what I was thinking on saying but, you get the idea.
Ok, bash me all you want guys, but, us women have to have some balls some of the time, and now is HER time. You need to get your balls on and let her know who's boss, tell her you are not threatend by her drive by's and phone calls. Tell her you have call trace or caller ID and you can prove in court it is her. Tell her you have video taped her driving by for no reason and you can use it too. Wow, she almost sounds like a stalker, do you have a stalking law in NY??
Oh, and one more thing, there's nothing wrong with people from NY, my father in law lives there. I love him dearly, some of the time........LOL. No matter where one may be from, that has no bearing on HOW they are. I don't care where your from, no your not being a bitch either. And so what, we are all entitled to that too.

 

[jeanine]

Yes, they have a child together. That's why I try to remain civil. But what I wouldn't do just to smack her in the face. It'd be worth the night in jail - but then you don't know what she'd tell the child. So I keep my hands to myself.

NY does have stalking laws but she doesn't do these things consistently. She has a friend in law enforcement who has probably told her what she can get away with. Like you need to trace a call three times in order for the police to get involved. She won't call three times in a row or from the same phone. One time she'll use her cell, another her home phone and so on.

Funny thing is - if a man were pulling this crap on his ex, his little tushie would be cooling in country lock-up...

But I think I went off the topic here completely. I was nice to the ex in the beginning until she went bitch on me. Hey, I tried. She pushed and now what goes around comes around.

 

[ladynred_32539]

Wow, sounds like so much fun. Funny how things can be done in such a manner that they can't be proven. I just hate that! However, if there's a child involved then she does have the right to have your phone number and, know where you live. Unfortunately, there's a law about that somewhere. I still say you should stand up to her, tell her you tried being civil but, she screwed that up by messing around the way she is. Now, you don't want to slap her, even though she may deserve it. You do NOT want that record for yourself, not over HER. You don't deserve that. So, my best advice is to tell her like it is. Your the wife and the step mom, and she needs to deal with it.
Good luck.

 

[angel_face16]

No matter what you say or do to try and make the situation better, the ex won't stop until SHE'S ready to let it go. Can you believe they even have their own forum where they rant and rave like their actions are normal? It's too bad that YOU'RE the one that's trying to make peace for HER child's sake. My husband had a psycho ex (and they didn't even have children) who told BOTH of us that no matter what we said, she wasn't going anywhere. I don't have as much patience as you, I eventually stooped to her level. I sent her a letter telling her that their relationship wasn't nearly as serious as she'd built it up to be in her mind because he'd slept with other women in HER house (no they didn't live together but he had a key to her place). Needless to say, we never heard from her again. Good luck with everything.

 

[stealth2]

Can you believe they even have their own forum where they rant and rave like their actions are normal?

uuuuhhhh you know - stepmoms have 'em, too. And contrary to popular belief, not all of "them" are angels. How about we stop stereotyping *either* side?

 

[CMSC]

Can you believe they even have their own forum where they rant and rave like their actions are normal?

whats wrong with a website to b**** on? I am a member of one and it is wonderful, isn't it fellow SSSS sisters? Tell ya what it is better to go on there with my problems and complaints than it is to gripe at my hubby after his long day at work! Sure makes me a happier person to have a little support while I am ripping someone's head off.

Angel_face, have you ever tried a support group or website membership?

 

[shaneyRRT]

I agree, I am a step and bio mom. I enjoy venting on the web, not to my husband. People should not take things so personal. I know that my husbands ex thinks I wear my jeans to low and I should not be listening to Nelly and that I shop to much, but I don't care what she thinks. Just as she does not care that I think she acts like a 90 yr old woman. I am sure she dogs me out to her friends, family, and I know for a fact that she talks about me to coworkers. Well she is entitled to vent also. As long as it is not infront of the children.

 

[coolmomof4]

Gee, I would love to take a moment and fill you in on MY husband's ex! She also lives with mommy and daddy (Doesn't have custody). She does not have a job, she is 35 and has had one job that lasted about 2 1/2 years, but up and quit because the drive was too much on her health (40 minutes one way down a quiet country road). She 's never paid a penny for support either. When she gave us the news in April that she was getting married (to someone her son didn't know and we didn't even know she was dating anyone!) and moving out of state and further away, we thought it was the answer to prayer! But it got really ugly like she thought she would get to have child for weeks at a time during the school year but it wouldn't be her fault if he had to miss school, you know, that's the way it is and all. But then one of them broke off the engagement, so she is at home with her parents and no job. But now she is saying she wants to move to our town right outside of Atlanta. Ha she can't handle driving down backwoods NC and she wants to move here!?!?

She calls on Wednesdays and Saturdays. On Saturdays we are required to be home, on Wednesdays we aren't but we ALWAYS have him call her back if we're out which we aren't required to do either. Well, last Wed, she called two hours late because she was "cleaning her room and got so involved with it that she forgot" Now today, stepson isn't home and she's called twice in the last 10 minutes leaving mean messages wondering why he is not home for her call!!!!!!!!!!!!

Update, she just had her MOTHER call and leave a message! Can you stant it?