will I get retroactive child support?

[stepmom65]

Do you have a job? Besides being uptight, opioninated and accusatory? Like I said before all attys I spoke with said that I can & will get RETROACTIVE CHILD SUPPORT!!!!!!!

Look Miss Too Sad....the question is....DO YOU HAVE A JOB!!! And I mean more than minimum wage.... Most selfish, sleazy b!tches, looking for cash, cash, cash...in the name of their children, don't have a job.... If you want money from the father, prepare to lose some sleep. His dad will get overnights eventually, whatever the laws are, and there's nothing you can do about who is at his home during the visits....It's just tough sh!t...Keep those legs closed, we don't want you breeding anymore idiots like you....

 

[stepmom65]

HEY!!! GREAT IDEA. I concur. The next time this violent, violent, violent woman starts to put her fist through the wall, put your face in the way.

walls need protection too!!!

I just spilled my coffee everywhere!!! that was way too funny.....hehehe

 

[stealth2]

No guilt here. The BIMBO reference was directed to someone else.

Well, the BIMBO reference was aimed at you. If it walks like a Bimbo and talks like a Bimbo - it likely be a Bimbo!

 

[tigger22472]

Maybe now would be the time to mention that when my husband consulted an attorney over a recent modification order he too was told he would get EVERYTHING he asked for as it was all standard. His parenting plan had I believe 20 issues that as I said are standard now days in divorce decrees and didn't exsist in his, including a move away clause, addressing events, first rights, you name it. He walked away from court only not being required any longer to provide insurance (as it's no longer possible). In fact he asked that they be able to alternate claiming child on taxes (they do have 50/50) instead of it being the way it was(person who gained most got to and then the money went into a trust account). His ex now gets to claim the child every year.
My point is that lawyers have NO clue!! Some of them just tell you things so you'll pay them to represent you and get to say 'oops' later. So, go on ahead a listen to all those lawyers and not listen to the people who have lived through it... obviously you and all of them are correct!

 

[BelizeBreeze]

My point is that lawyers have NO clue!!

Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

 

[somedude]

holy crap!

Do you have a job

You are the LAST one to question anyone's employment. How many times have you responded in the last 24 hours? You are also the LAST person to say someone is wacky or make ANY comments regarding anyone's stability. You feel the need to address every single response you get.

No wonder you're going through the situation you are. You seem very mentally unstable. If your ex could only see what you're spewing on here, he'd question your mental capacity. I'd run as far as possible from you, too. You claim you're a "Super Mom" (ha!). Why are you preventing the child's DAD from being a "Super Dad"? You're being selfish & inconsiderate.

Let me fill you in on the guidelines thing -- they are just that: GUIDELINES! They are not completely etched in stone. If the dad gets a good enough lawyer, s/he could attack each part of the guideline. So, you really need to give the whole "AZ Guidelines" a rest.

Your pettiness is the reason the system is backed up. If Psycho Mom's like yourself would learn to be civil for 5 minutes, then maybe you and your ex could work things out. There are people out there who truly need the system, but because of idiots like you going to the courts for every little thing, those truly in need are waiting months.

Grow up. It's not surprising you're in the situation you're in. Good ahead and respond. Prove me right, psycho.

 

[somedude]

Lmao

The next time this violent, violent, violent woman starts to put her fist through the wall, put your face in the way.

Hey I've busted on you in the past Belize, but I laughed hysterically when I read this.

Best suggestion yet in this thread!!!!

 

[somedude]

Answer the question

Oh, and I suppose you didn't "know" he was married.....

Hey WhoreInAz....you never addressed this question!!

You have the gall to constantly call his wife "violent" and make the claim that men are "cheats and liars", but yet you seemed to 'ignore' this comment.

Well, WHORE, did you know?

By the way, women AND men lie. This is not breaking news. Idiot.

 

[GothicAngel]

Dammm!!!

 

[too sad in az]

Once again: Did she do it to your son?

No. And I'm not going to give her the opportunity to do it. But I suppose you would wait for your child to be hurt. This woman has already allowed her daughter to be molested by her brother and she didn't want to turn him in because she didn't want her family in the system. I know what's best. The woman is off. She would rather protect her deviant brother than her own daughter. My son's father had to call CPS on the child, who lives in NY. I know what I'm talking about!

 

[too sad in az]

Honey, Do you have proof of her violance, other than what you've seen..Any documentation, police reports...without any hard proof, you can not stop your husband from overnights or visits at his home.... So if she is indeed violant in anyway, document it, get witnesses to see the violence first hand with you somehow...

What is up with your spelling? violance violant ?

 

[too sad in az]

Hey WhoreInAz....you never addressed this question!!

You have the gall to constantly call his wife "violent" and make the claim that men are "cheats and liars", but yet you seemed to 'ignore' this comment.

Well, WHORE, did you know?

By the way, women AND men lie. This is not breaking news. Idiot.

Maybe you don't get it. She didn't live in AZ. She was in NY where crazy people live. She was there for over 2 years. Now, if I stayed in his home, spent time with his family and friends and no one mentions that he is married, along with the fact he told me he was divorced, WHY would I now he was married? DUHHHH! The question was addressed and it is addressed again.

 

[critterperson]

What is the name of your state? Arizona
My son's father, who is married is taking me to court to get visitation. My son is 1yr and his father has only seen him 29 times during 2004. I have allowed his father to visit him at any time but because I will not let him spend the night my son's father has taken the attitude all or nothing. I have told my son's father that he can take him at anytime except to his home because his wife his violent. His wife has put holes in the walls, which I saw myself, has written nasty letters to my family, has called my previous employer to get information on me, she and my son's father had a physical fight in front of their 5 year old daughter who then called 911, they have shouting matches and she expressed she did not know if she could love my son. I do not feel this is a healthy environment or my son would be safe. His attorney wrote a letter stating that I am interferring in the relationship with my son & his father. His attorney also sent my attorney a letter stating that he is willing to pay child support of $456 a month. My son's father makes $6,600 a month and has only given $250 a month, when he feels like it skipping other months saying he doesn't have it to give. My questions are; Will my son's father be made to pay back child support / retroactive child support? How do I protect my son without it being considered interference in a father son relationship? And isn't my son far too young to spend overnights away from me, his mother, with a man he hardly even knows? I have an attorney but I feel as if he does not care enough. I didn't feel the need to include every detail to my situation because I was looking for answers or help regarding visitation & child support. But here goes... I didn't know he was married. He & his wife were separated at the time, she was in NY for over a year. I am not ignorant and capable of adding. So let me clear something up. 29 times he saw his son, when he decided to drop by at 10:00pm at night on a week night. I had the heart to let him in to take a peak at him while he was sleeping. He has only seen his son 12 times while he was awake and 6 times before 8:00pm. I have encouraged him to visit on Saturdays or after church on Sundays. I'm not keeping him from his son. However I guess weeknights suite him better when he's out cheating on his wife. I understand your stance but would appreciate some advice based on circumstance not criticisim. Thank you.

It is very apparent that you are still hurt and have a lot of anger twords your childs father but take a deep breath and pick up the phone and call an attorney if you don't already have one. If you are lucky wife will not want your child at her house overnight (it happens) and after you start receiving the correct amount of child support do all you can to ensure that dad and child have a good relationship.....you don't want it to look like you are trying to hinder a relationship in some states that is a change of custody issue. If you are concerned about wife. Express your concern not hatred twords wife in court. If you call her names and such the judge will feel that you are acting out of hurt as apposed to actual concern for your childs welfare. If he is showing up at all to see his child consider yourself lucky some people never know their other parent and your child deserves his love as well as yours. Good Luck

P.S Don't let the negative people get you down you are hurting it is obvious the pain often disguises itself as hatred and it will pass in time!! Those without sin may cast the first stone and in my lifetime I have not met one individual that has that right!! Keep your head up and Breathe deep it will pass

 

[macli]

I agree do what you must to protect your child. This is absolutely pitiful what these people are saying. I was somewhat in the same position. I knew my child's father since I was 13 but we never married. He is remarried and his wife does not like our son. She will not bathe, feed or have anything to do with him when is there. My son was 8 months old when his father decided to be in his life. She also said my son would never be a true family member and he was not her stepson in anyway because we were not married. Hello, this is a one year old child and his wife now wants to disown him because I was not married to the father. The child is not to blame for nothing. After I heard this, no way in hell is my son going to their home. Children know when they are wanted and loved, even one year olds and the best thing for this child if you are correct is NOT to be in that home. I agree, do you want them to hurt the child before she acts. Who are these "so called" mothers. Get a clue and you need some anger management classes and leave this young mother alone. I only wish you could be in this situation and see how it feels not knowing if your child will come back harmed or not. Verbal actions can be as harmful as physical. I say go for it and protect your son. I know what your feeling and it is not good. Just for your child to know someone doesn't like them is a bad thing. I do believe a father should see their child but not when the child could be harmed.

Mother of 2 I only wish you knew what your talking about. And, yes, men do lie...he was married, so who cares he did it and she fell for it, it happens daily. The child is the concern, not that the child has a father. I just started viewing and it makes me sick at all the ignorant and hurtful people that respond. Help or get off, we don't need your nasty comments.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

I agree do what you must to protect your child. This is absolutely pitiful what these people are saying. I was somewhat in the same position. I knew my child's father since I was 13 but we never married. He is remarried and his wife does not like our son. She will not bathe, feed or have anything to do with him when is there. My son was 8 months old when his father decided to be in his life. She also said my son would never be a true family member and he was not her stepson in anyway because we were not married. Hello, this is a one year old child and his wife now wants to disown him because I was not married to the father. The child is not to blame for nothing. After I heard this, no way in hell is my son going to their home. Children know when they are wanted and loved, even one year olds and the best thing for this child if you are correct is NOT to be in that home. I agree, do you want them to hurt the child before she acts. Who are these "so called" mothers. Get a clue and you need some anger management classes and leave this young mother alone. I only wish you could be in this situation and see how it feels not knowing if your child will come back harmed or not. Verbal actions can be as harmful as physical. I say go for it and protect your son. I know what your feeling and it is not good. Just for your child to know someone doesn't like them is a bad thing. I do believe a father should see their child but not when the child could be harmed.

Mother of 2 I only wish you knew what your talking about. And, yes, men do lie...he was married, so who cares he did it and she fell for it, it happens daily. The child is the concern, not that the child has a father. I just started viewing and it makes me sick at all the ignorant and hurtful people that respond. Help or get off, we don't need your nasty comments.

Wow, such a diatribe and not even an attempt to answer the poster's ORIGINAL question, which has been answer ad nausem.

So, want to try and answer the legal questions or are you here on this forum to approve of skankiness?