Witch

[HomeGuru]

good point. have to ask yourself sometimes "what are some people thinking"? obviously not too much

**A: very cool. Can we adopt this as our FreeAdvice slogan?

 

[stealth2]

The dude's on parole - that means he was convicted of a crime. So he's not exactly pure as the driven snow. But if you want to waste $5k+, go right on ahead.

 

[stephenk]

At 22, why do you even have a serious boyfriend? You should be enjoying your youth and building a career or finishing your education.

Serious relationship time is when you closer to 30 and established in yourself. At that time you would know not to start a relationship with a guy on parole who is having major issues with the mother of his children.

Presently you are just a bank to your boyfriend. Do you seriously expect him to the be the guy you will spend the rest of your life with?

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally posted by stephenk - -

"Hedley Lamarr: I want rustlers, cut throats, murderers, bounty hunters, desperados, mugs, pugs, thugs, nitwits, halfwits, dimwits, vipers, snipers, con men, Indian agents, Mexican bandits, muggers, buggerers, bushwhackers, hornswogglers, horse thieves, bull dykes, train robbers, bank robbers, ass-kickers, shiit-kickers and Methodists!"

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My response:

One of the many incredibly funny lines from "Blazing Saddles"!

Thanks for the laugh, Stephenk!!

IAAL

 

[leech]

if they were ACTUALLY innocent, yes i would do whatever i could to help. he may be innocent of one thing but you said the reason he wouldnt be able to show in the first place was cause hes on parole?how innocent is he in general then?thats all im trying to say

The reason he cant show up is because he was fasley accused of domestic violence, so he is being detained, until his hearing for that. How do I know he was falsey accused, because the day in question was the day I was there and saw everything. BUT in domestic violence at least in California as far as I know. All a woman needs is a victim (herself) a witness (also herself) and a picture, in order to issue a warrant for his arrest. Domestic Violence cases are taken very seriously these days and it is evident that they should be because of all the deaths that have occured. But any crazy person can accuse someone of this, it is just up to the court to decide his innocence.

 

[leech]

The dude's on parole - that means he was convicted of a crime. So he's not exactly pure as the driven snow. But if you want to waste $5k+, go right on ahead.

Well maybe Id rather waste 5K on getting him out rather than keeping an innocent man in prison and have taxpayers waste 5K.

Question? So if someone is out on parole, are you saying they arent worth helping? Apparently in your eyes once someone messes up there is now way of redeeming themselves in societies eyes? So yes hes out on Parole and yes he has joint custody which he fought for for his daughter and yes he STILL continues to pay child support even while sharing joint custody and working 2 jobs to provide for his child. But he is a parolee so forget all that. Im talking nonsense. ; )

 

[dyinginside]

if you already know all the answers why did you post in the first place? im just wondering what your looking for exactly.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

The reason he cant show up is because he was fasley accused of domestic violence, so he is being detained, until his hearing for that. How do I know he was falsey accused, because the day in question was the day I was there and saw everything. BUT in domestic violence at least in California as far as I know. All a woman needs is a victim (herself) a witness (also herself) and a picture, in order to issue a warrant for his arrest. Domestic Violence cases are taken very seriously these days and it is evident that they should be because of all the deaths that have occured. But any crazy person can accuse someone of this, it is just up to the court to decide his innocence.

My response:

Okay, you say you were there. As a witness, let me ask you - - Did you see him even ever-so-slightly touch her with as little as a pointed finger while he was angry?

IAAL

 

[leech]

At 22, why do you even have a serious boyfriend? You should be enjoying your youth and building a career or finishing your education.

Serious relationship time is when you closer to 30 and established in yourself. At that time you would know not to start a relationship with a guy on parole who is having major issues with the mother of his children.

Presently you are just a bank to your boyfriend. Do you seriously expect him to the be the guy you will spend the rest of your life with?

I do have a career and I will still continue my education until the day roses are put on my coffin. I know my education is important but at the same time I am also enjoying my youth. My dad always said that everything after 25 is downhill! And I must have not read the book where it states that at the age of 30 I should look for a serious relationship, maybe it was checked out of the library at that time.

At the time I started dating him, she wasnt crazy. It was only until he started taking myself (the homewrecker) seriously and this is when she had a moment/s of desperation. At this time is when she got a bright idea to change their childs last name that the little girl had for six years. Maybe she didnt want to become a parody of society and have 3 different child from 3 different fathers. At this time she called Child Services with other false allegations. At this time is when she would threaten him and myself. At this time is when she would show up to his townhome and his place of work to either "hurt" him or me. So to say I went into this knowing isnt true, Im better than that.

And about me being a bank, I beg to differ. Like I said before his family and I would be chipping in for the 5K. If he ever in his life had the nerve to even aske me or imply something about the 5K I would know I was a bank. This is all of my freewill. ANd I dont know who I will be spending the rest of my life with, but neither do married couples right?

 

[leech]

if you already know all the answers why did you post in the first place? im just wondering what your looking for exactly.

I dont know all the answers. I wouldnt be here going back and forth wasting my time if I did. This is what I originally wrote.

How do I go about this? Do i need to get a letter notarized explaining the situation. Would they extend the hearing? Post Pone it til hes out? Or will she win because he is UNABLE to show up? Any info would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

I know that the ONLY option is to get a lawyer, but then these people started asking and commenting about how utterly "stupid" I am to "waste" my money on this lowlife. So I wrote back to explain. But I do know that if I need to know something my only REAL option is to get speak to a lawyer or get a consultation.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

Wow, this chick has ALL the answers!

Then, I can only conclude from all of this, and your reasons for wanting to be with, and defend, a felon-on-parole is because you must be incredibly ugly, and no one else will have you.

IAAL

 

[leech]

My response:

Okay, you say you were there. As a witness, let me ask you - - Did you see him even ever-so-slightly touch her with as little as a pointed finger while he was angry?

IAAL

No because thats the thing, he didnt touch her NOR was he near her. There are 7 letters, notarized from 7 neighbors who say he was not even yelling at her. He was trying to clam her down and she was the aggresor. A judge who lives in his townhome complex wrote that her every other word was the F word and he was trying to calm her down. May I send these letters to you just for advice. My email is leech_71@yahoo.com or lbanales@smcorp.com if so. But no he didnt touch her at all, he was staying away from her because she was trying to pepperspray him and their little girl was present.

I wrote my friend who recently got hired at a firm, this is what she wrote me back.

If she claims, the bruise came from the August 21 incident, his friends need to testify that he never touched her, and it better be true. Because if he even barely pushed her on PURPOSE, they consider that domestic violence nowadays. However, simply detaining her or "reasonable" self defense is not abuse. But that's what a trial is for.

 

[leech]

My response:

Wow, this chick has ALL the answers!

Then, I can only conclude from all of this, and your reasons for wanting to be with, and defend, a felon-on-parole is because you must be incredibly ugly, and no one else will have you.

IAAL

I am incredibly ugly, I weigh 8475 lbs and I even have stretchmarks on my face. Oh god why. =/

 

[stephenk]

notarized letters are useless. The witnesses will need to be present at his trial in order to be questioned. Let your boyfriends's attorney know who these witnesses are and let the prosecutor know who they are so investigators can speak with them.

was a police report prepared? Are the witnesses noted on the police report?

Has your boyfriend also been charged with a parole violation becuase of the DV charge that is pending? If no, it will be coming as soon as his parole officer finds out what is happening.

 

[leech]

notarized letters are useless. The witnesses will need to be present at his trial in order to be questioned. Let your boyfriends's attorney know who these witnesses are and let the prosecutor know who they are so investigators can speak with them.

was a police report prepared? Are the witnesses noted on the police report?

Has your boyfriend also been charged with a parole violation becuase of the DV charge that is pending? If no, it will be coming as soon as his parole officer finds out what is happening.

You know what, Im sorry I didnt really make myself clear (no sarcasm) He was accused of domestic violence but the DA never picked it up so it is being held as a Violation of Parole, nothing more, nothing less. She did make a police report a week after she claims he "held her." We went the next day to make a report but he didnt have any physical evidence on him soooo the only thing the officer actually did was suggest he get a restraining order. Which he didnt because he didnt want his daughter to have to experience that. He should have, but he didnt. The police did not make a report because he said, and I quote, "Do you know how many incidents similar to this we get a day? Do you know how many reports we would be making if we did one for everyone." So she made a police report because she had a bruise. She then went to his Parole Officer and his PO made a separate report. The police report and the report the PO has do not concur with one another. In one report she is saying that she went to his residence and he had known gang members there so she got upset and then he held her for a minute and yelled at her. In the PO's report she is saying she went to his friends house. Shes very inconsisnt. Think this matters AT ALL?

There will be 4 witnesses present at the time he goes against the board. Myself, his friend, and 2 neighbors. The notarized letters wont make a difference.....thank you for your input. Oh and he isnt going to trial though, just up against the board, so there wont be an attorney representing him. When they went to do the first screening (plea bargain) he waived his second screening and gave the commissioner the addresses, names and numbers of witnesses to supena. Thank you again.