Can't Paying for a child that's not mine legally

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

He gives her whatever the baby needs. When mom calls and ask him for diapers, socks, clothes, he do it. I know he's not in a good place right now, that's why I wanted to know how this would affect me. I will encourage him to do better, I'm supportive

All of this are gifts. When the time comes, he will be order to pay support going back to probably the birth. Therefore, you are better off getting a settlement in quicker than later.

 

[stepmom4ever]

All of this are gifts. When the time comes, he will be order to pay support going back to probably the birth. Therefore, you are better off getting a settlement in quicker than later.

Gifts , but this is his child. He already established paternity/visitation

 

[Zephyr]

Gifts , but this is his child. He already established paternity/visitation

ok back to you original question, which I thought I saw answered

they cannot attach YOUR wages
they cannot order you to pay cs

they can order dad to pay cs
if dad doesn't he faces losing licenses, jail, tax intercepts (joint returns) etc...

so it's very important dad get a job NOW
cause if he doesn't
the only way he stays out of trouble is if YOU pay


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[stepmom4ever]

ok back to you original question, which I thought I saw answered

they cannot attach YOUR wages
they cannot order you to pay cs

they can order dad to pay cs
if dad doesn't he faces losing licenses, jail, tax intercepts (joint returns) etc...

so it's very important dad get a job NOW
cause if he doesn't
the only way he stays out of trouble is if YOU pay


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monster.com
usajobs.com
yahoojobs.com

Ok, I will leave this alone. I understand now... Thank you everyone

 

[Ohiogal]

In that case, can the judge impute my income because he doesn't work? How much will he have to pay each month with no income?

HOw much was he earning before he quit? Do you have joint bank accounts? Joint property? If so they can both have liens placed against them for child support. And don't think of closing the joint accounts or transferring joint property -- you will be hit with fraud. You can however put YOUR paycheck into an account that is solely your own.

 

[Ohiogal]

I know kids are expensive and I will do what I can to help. I will try to talk to her to see if we can workout something with her, is that a good idea. I really want to help I just don't want to get stuck the entire time, that's all.

YOU talking to her is a BAD idea. A VERY BAD IDEA. Remember the whole thing of overstepping boundaries -- yep this is doing that. You don't have to pay anything. just be prepared that any bank accounts with his name on, any property with his name on, will be attached to pay any arrearages. That includes joint tax refunds.

 

[wileybunch]

YOU talking to her is a BAD idea. A VERY BAD IDEA. Remember the whole thing of overstepping boundaries -- yep this is doing that. You don't have to pay anything. just be prepared that any bank accounts with his name on, any property with his name on, will be attached to pay any arrearages. That includes joint tax refunds.

Totally agree. And, about the idea that Mom just needs to be spoken to .... No, DAD needs to be spoken to. There is a baby that needs to be provided for! How insensitive would it be for ANYONE to approach a Mom that's still healing from giving birth to ask her to be lenient and pick up the slack for Dad -- who's able bodied and didn't just get done giving birth to his own child!

 

[stepmom4ever]

HOw much was he earning before he quit? Do you have joint bank accounts? Joint property? If so they can both have liens placed against them for child support. And don't think of closing the joint accounts or transferring joint property -- you will be hit with fraud. You can however put YOUR paycheck into an account that is solely your own.

Everything is in my name. The house, car, insurance, account,etc. So does that mean they can't get me?

 

[LdiJ]

Everything is in my name. The house, car, insurance, account,etc. So does that mean they can't get me?

If it has always been that way, then yes, it means that none of the assets can be levied for child support.

However that does not mean that he can't be put through the ringer, lose his license, and maybe even go to jail for non payment of whatever a court has ordered or will order him to pay.

If you are faced with a husband in jail unless a purge amount is paid, what are you going to do? If you are faced with never being able to face married life with your husband's income/credit being able to contribute towards your family's way of life, what are you going to do? If your children can't get student loans for college because their father has defaulted on CS and has a horrible credit score what are you going to do? If you can't take a family dream vacation to Europe because your husband can't get a passport what are you going to do? If your husband's social security retirement benefits are being garnished due to unpaid child support from many years in the past what are you going to do?

The point I am making is that is simply not as simple as whether or not you have to pay for his child support. Its what will your combined FAMILY have to eventually pay if he doesn't support his other children?

If you make a good income and can support yourself, him, and any children that come along from your marriage, great,...but at a minimum you should be pushing him out the door to be earning enough to at least support his other children. That would be in the best interest of YOUR marriage.

 

[Bloopy]

If you are faced with a husband in jail unless a purge amount is paid, what are you going to do? If you are faced with never being able to face married life with your husband's income/credit being able to contribute towards your family's way of life, what are you going to do? If your children can't get student loans for college because their father has defaulted on CS and has a horrible credit score what are you going to do? If you can't take a family dream vacation to Europe because your husband can't get a passport what are you going to do? If your husband's social security retirement benefits are being garnished due to unpaid child support from many years in the past what are you going to do?

Excellent post

 

[wileybunch]

Excellent post

Sure is.
And, a non legal opinion .... what IS he contributing to the success and progress of your family? If all these things are truly in your name, all the money and assets are yours, you are providing for your child AND the child he had with another woman, etc. ... that's a lot for you to be handling. Do you really need to be towing the line for so much? You don't have to answer me, but maybe you should want better than to have an adult child on your hands.

 

[IndyDad1on1]

What is the name of your state? GA

I know I posted an ugly post about the mother of my step-son recently. I received some harsh, yet sound advice regarding my legal stand in this fight. However, we received an email from the mother saying that she will petition the court for child support (we know the baby is his). Although I have no legal stand to this issue , will I have to pay my husband's child support if he is currently not working? We share accounts and right now I support the home, temporarly.

Everything is in my name. The house, car, insurance, account,etc. So does that mean they can't get me?

Two of your post contradict each other. Not sure which statement is true here.

 

[stepmom4ever]

Two of your post contradict each other. Not sure which statement is true here.

Well his name is on the account with me being priority of the account

 

[stepmom4ever]

If it has always been that way, then yes, it means that none of the assets can be levied for child support.

However that does not mean that he can't be put through the ringer, lose his license, and maybe even go to jail for non payment of whatever a court has ordered or will order him to pay.

If you are faced with a husband in jail unless a purge amount is paid, what are you going to do? If you are faced with never being able to face married life with your husband's income/credit being able to contribute towards your family's way of life, what are you going to do? If your children can't get student loans for college because their father has defaulted on CS and has a horrible credit score what are you going to do? If you can't take a family dream vacation to Europe because your husband can't get a passport what are you going to do? If your husband's social security retirement benefits are being garnished due to unpaid child support from many years in the past what are you going to do?

The point I am making is that is simply not as simple as whether or not you have to pay for his child support. Its what will your combined FAMILY have to eventually pay if he doesn't support his other children?

If you make a good income and can support yourself, him, and any children that come along from your marriage, great,...but at a minimum you should be pushing him out the door to be earning enough to at least support his other children. That would be in the best interest of YOUR marriage.

Are you saying being married to him will affect me, my furture children him in the long run? I married him for better or worse, I guess the worse came before the better.

 

[ConcerndStepmom]

What is the name of your state? GA

I know I posted an ugly post about the mother of my step-son recently. I received some harsh, yet sound advice regarding my legal stand in this fight. However, we received an email from the mother saying that she will petition the court for child support (we know the baby is his). Although I have no legal stand to this issue , will I have to pay my husband's child support if he is currently not working? We share accounts and right now I support the home, temporarly.

Bolded part what acconuts do WE share.. anything in those shared account can be seized for CS
Indy Dad beat me to the draw ..