Need help and advice on what to do!

[LdiJ]

Why do you give your mother more time with the child than the child's own father?

You WILL BE called upon to answer this very question in Colorado court, Pearl. Better think up a way-good answer. Six weeks (bare minimum) is WAY too long to send the child to Granny's -- when Dad is right here in town, wanting time with his child.

Silver, dad isn't right in town, he lives an hour away. He also tried to forcibly take primary custody of the child at the beginning of the school year, without going to court. He also told the child that the child didn't love him enough, if the child didn't choose to live with him and go to school near his house.

Review Pearl's posting history.

 

[Pearl72]

He still was doing his time, as like Ldig said, my mother was only taking her to school and from school since the father lives an hour away from where we live. Hope that clear that up.

Also, he never went to the emergency hearing... so nothin has been done as of yet, as far as custody changing to him.

 

[escape2paradise]

Why do you give your mother more time with the child than the child's own father?

You WILL BE called upon to answer this very question in Colorado court, Pearl. Better think up a way-good answer. Six weeks (bare minimum) is WAY too long to send the child to Granny's -- when Dad is right here in town, wanting time with his child.

If I remember correctly dad is not right in town, but about an hour away. Dad already makes a huge stink about transportation for every other weekend visitation, I can't imagine that he would be up to transporting the child back and forth for school. In fact looks like once he finally did get the child he took her and enrolled her in his school district. He had already attempted to enroll the child at the beginning of the school year while trying to bully mom into relinquishing custody. I don't blame Pearl for not handing the child over for dad to watch. I'm sure she feared he would try to assume custody and move the child to his school district just as he has attempted and threatened to do for months. Looks like Pearls fears were correct and now she is probably going to have to go to court to get her child back.

Pearl you need to get an attorney like now and file for an emergency hearing! Don't wait, if you do you are just telling the court that their is no big hurry. Your child needs to get back to her school ASAP!

 

[Silverplum]

Silver, dad isn't right in town, he lives an hour away. He also tried to forcibly take primary custody of the child at the beginning of the school year, without going to court. He also told the child that the child didn't love him enough, if the child didn't choose to live with him and go to school near his house.

Review Pearl's posting history.

Ld, I know Pearl's posting history by now. I made that mistake once with her already. You know, and I know, the truth here.

Do let me know when YOU move to COLORADO, Ld, and start gaining experience in COLORADO Courts. It'll be fun to discuss. Then.



*edited to add* Every single last one of you "buys" this nonsense "story."

I don't. Not any more. And I challenge every last parent here to put themselves in the DAD'S shoes of this situation. THINK about it, for Pete's sake.

She's ILL. "Unto death," she wrote a few weeks ago. But she managed to -- without Court -- temporarily transfer custody of the child to Grandma, thus further thwarting Dad's chances to spend some time with HIS daughter.

OWNING the child is far more important to her than SHARING the child. Like it is to most CPs I've ever met. Blech.

 

[DaddyAdvocate]

If an actual PARENT is available to care for the child, why should Dad leave the child with a GRANDparent? I know that I wouldn’t.

As far as the 1 hour away thing goes, under the circumstances Dad did the right thing enrolling the child in a school closer to where the child is living with a PARENT.

And SP rocks

 

[Silverplum]

If an actual PARENT is available to care for the child, why should Dad leave the child with a GRANDparent? I know that I wouldn’t.

As far as the 1 hour away thing goes, under the circumstances Dad did the right thing enrolling the child in a school closer to where the child is living with a PARENT.

By golly, someone who actually views things from a Reality Standpoint! Taking into account more than just the Mom!

Any Mom here would have HYSTERICS over this situation, if it happened to THEM or to another MOM.

Truth is, Pearl just wants what she wants. All we've ever heard is her side of the story. And reasonable people can figure that there are always at least TWO sides to every story.

And SP rocks

Careful, or people will think we're having The Sex!

 

[Ohiogal]

By golly, someone who actually views things from a Reality Standpoint! Taking into account more than just the Mom!

Any Mom here would have HYSTERICS over this situation, if it happened to THEM or to another MOM.

Truth is, Pearl just wants what she wants. All we've ever heard is her side of the story. And reasonable people can figure that there are always at least TWO sides to every story.


Careful, or people will think we're having The Sex!

Silver I agree with you. Something is going on that is NOT being said. Dad has been demonized but it doesn't quite all fit. And we are most definitely NOT having The Sex!

 

[mommyof4]

Careful, or people will think we're having The Sex!

No, I have deduced that your relationship is not to that stage yet. At this point, it is a mild flirtation carried on in passionate messages.

For what it's worth, I agree with everything else you said, as well. Dad may be the biggest racist jerk walking the earth. However, that didn't stop Pearl from conceiving and having a child with the man. Many of her posts are so overly dramatic that it's really hard for me to swallow everything without at least stopping to consider what I am being asked to swallow.

Dad ALWAYS has superior rights to whomever Pearl prefers to assume custody and care of their child until she has a bonafide court order in her hand stating anything different.

 

[DaddyAdvocate]

.... And we are most definitely NOT having The Sex!

If you 2 change your mind, can I watch?

 

[Silverplum]

Silver I agree with you. Something is going on that is NOT being said. Dad has been demonized but it doesn't quite all fit.

Thank you, OG. And thank you, too, Mommyof4.

You know that some people will say and do anything to WIN. And sometimes, winning means getting RID OF the other parent. I see that here.

There is NO WAY it's going to be acceptable in court that Granny takes care of the child for a minimum of SIX WEEKS, when her FATHER wants her and is willing/able to take care of her. Even IF Mom doesn't LIKE him any more.

And it shouldn't be acceptable HERE, either. It's merely sexism, nothing more.

An hour away isn't jack-squat here. I don't know where advisors live that they cannot imagine an HOUR. Golly, been to a CITY lately?

And we are most definitely NOT having The Sex!

Distance, babe.


OMG, I am just KIDDING!!!

 

[CourtClerk]

*edited to add* Every single last one of you "buys" this nonsense "story."

Hey... I called BS on this and this story a while ago....

 

[mommyof4]

In light of the most recent brush with death and Pearl's decision that she had the right to designate her mother as the primary care taker in her absence, I found this particular thread to be enlightening.


https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-...-custody-if-custodial-parent-dies-363460.html

What is the name of your state? Colorado

Me and my ex are trying to work things out for the sake of our daughter. I was just wondering, he wants to put in wording in the agreement that in the event of my death that he shall retain full custody, and full legal custody. Doesn't that automatically happen if one parent dies the child goes to live with the other parent? I guess my mother is causing issues, and has stated that if anything happens to me, that she would get custody over my ex? He just wants to be assured this doesn't happen. My mother has been known to meddle and get in the middle of things because she doesn't want me to resolve things with my ex when it come to our daughter. Long story there... Please advise. Thanks.

I'm not sure why I bothered to take the time to search through all 5 pages of questions Pearl has asked over the years, but all I can say is good LORD, woman. Aren't you tired of all of this drama?

 

[Silverplum]

Hey... I called BS on this and this story a while ago....

Dangit, that's what happens when I use the words, "ALL," and, "ALWAYS," and, "NEVER."



Superlatives always come back to bite me in the butt! Sincerely sorry, CC, and any others I "all"ed in my response.

 

[ErinGoBragh]

Dangit, that's what happens when I use the words, "ALL," and, "ALWAYS," and, "NEVER."



Superlatives always come back to bite me in the butt! Sincerely sorry, CC, and any others I "all"ed in my response.

I've thought for a while Pearl isn't being forthright, but said nothing until now since my mouth (or in this case fingers) can get me into trouble on occasion.

You don't go from thinking you're at the point of death due to illness/ med reaction/ whatever to bouncing back and being great within a period of a few weeks. It just doesn't happen.

And why WAS the child with G'ma the whole time??? An hour away is NOT that far. Especially after Pearl makes it to be like her mom is PITA.

I'm calling BS on this one and also agreeing that we are by no means getting all of the details.

 

[Kimmyf1965]

Count your blessings!!!

You know I was in the hospital and nearly died after having my 3rd child. My current husband called my x and told him he needed to keep my other son for 1 extra night. My X flat out refused!!! 3 years later my son passed away from MD. My X was the biggest jerk you've ever seen at the hospital & the funeral. Keep in mind he didn't pay one dime toward the cost!! But you know what because of my x's behavior guess who got to here those presious words from her son before he passed!! That's right my son's last words were to me and they were "I love you Mama!!" I'll go to my grave knowing that he spoke those words to me and not to his Dad. I also know that my son knows everything now. He know his dad didn't do anything to help me when he died. He knows that his daddy took his sisters flowers from the funeral home just to be an A@@. He is her daddy too but she doesn't have anything to do with him because of what he did at her brothers funeral. And one of these days he will pay for what he's done. Maybe it will be when he dies alone with no daughter, no son, no wife, no family. His own mother doesn't even talk to him anymore. I wanted so bad at that time to sue him for 1/2 of the funeral expenses but it took one of these mothers or fathers from here that made me change my mind. I decided to let it go. Silverplum, LDI or Ohio Gal one of the regulars gave me that advice. I know now that I had every right to half of the cost but you know what I don't need it and I don't have to face that bast@@@ ever again!!! Treasure every moment that you have with your children be thankful that their here. I miss my son more than anyone could ever imagine but I know how much he loved me because he told me!! He always knew that I wanted what was best for him. My son was 16 and weighed about 48lbs when he died. I fought for a feeding tube while my X told my son not to do it. I won the battle but my son's little body just couldn't handle the surgery because he had lost even more weight while I battled his dad to have the surgery. Yes, I blame his dad and that part will never go away but I flat out refuse to let him get the better of me. I refuse to give him the satifaction of knowing me anymore.
Sorry I just had to vent. It's really not legal advice but I had to add my 2 cents. LDI, OhioGal, Silverplum whomever it was that gave me the advice that time and the many times I came here before with questions, I thank you!!! There was one more person I think Stealth? You all helped me more than you will ever know. Your kind words meant a lot and so did your wealth of knowledge even if I did take it bad sometimes!!