boyfriend's ex saying I cannot go to pick up child for visitation

[dannic9647]

The point that I am trying to make is this...
The children are her boyfriends and his Ex's.. NOT HERS.. why do somwthing that you know pisses the ex off?? If the ex doesnt want her there, then stay away...WHY add fuel to the fire??
These people are parents and supposed to be adults... start acting like them....
My ex knows if he shows up here with his GF to get the kids, it is only going to cause a fight so he doesnt do it.. It is respect for the other person..Take a tape recorder or a cam corder, just stop adding fuel to the fire...

 

[CMSC]

The point that I am trying to make is this...
The children are her boyfriends and his Ex's.. NOT HERS.. why do somwthing that you know pisses the ex off?? If the ex doesnt want her there, then stay away...WHY add fuel to the fire??
These people are parents and supposed to be adults... start acting like them....
My ex knows if he shows up here with his GF to get the kids, it is only going to cause a fight so he doesnt do it.. It is respect for the other person..Take a tape recorder or a cam corder, just stop adding fuel to the fire...

Oh crap! They all should act like adults! If you can't turn over your children to your ex and his girlfriend without bickering then you need to grow up.


Poster, check the laws in your state before your boyfriend does any recording of any kind. Have him call mom and see if she will meet him in public.

I have seen too many "dirty" exchanges when people go by themselves, it is best to take someone period.

Not all cops will go, many say it is a family court issue and not a criminal matter so they don't want to get involved. You need to ask the county department first.

 

[haiku]

here is the deal, mom and dad are not MARRIED anymore, everyone needs to get over themselves and move on.

Dad should be able to bring anyone HE wants to the pickup, and mom should get OVER it and hand over the kid.

Same goes if she comes to pick up the kid, and brings along Tom, Dick or Harry, dad shouldn't care either!

Why should dad make the girlfriend stay home on the EX wifes whim? That is not a healthy relationship for them if dad still lets his ex call all his shots.

Oh and have the cops come? how healthy for the kids!!!!

hand over the kids and shut the door how difficult is that?

as boxcar said, in most states ANYONE can be designated, life happens....

the proper solution here I think at this point is for the poster to go for the ride and enjoy a cup of coffee at the local dunkin donuts while the pick up happens, and then call the ex's bluff take it to court and have it all done publicly (at the dunkin donuts!).

 

[bugaboo]

This is a classic case of EX WIFE being a BITCH and trying to DICTATE what EX HUSBAND can and cannot do...It's crap. I don't know who these women think they are..."if he brings her to my house, he knows it'll just start a fight" Grow the hell up. The ONLY person "starting" the fight would be the VENGFUL ex wife.

 

[Lil Miss Smarty Panties]

PREACH ON SISTER!!

I'm fullfilling one of my new years resolutions tonight LOL

*pours another glass*

 

[dannic9647]

I am not being vengeful... I am not being a bitch..
It is RESPECT for the other person.... I know that after all of our years together. there are still feelings on all sides... and I would never ever dis repsect him that way as he realizes now that he shouldnt either..
And why do you have to have a GF or BF with you to be a parent??

Tell him to start acting like a parent and get the kids on his own... What is he teaching his children?? That someone needs to hand hold all the time?? That you cant stand up on your own??

 

[haiku]

Huh?

pass me a glass.....

 

[Lil Miss Smarty Panties]

I could go on and on about this subject but I don't think tonight is a good night for me to try this.


Here Haiku, meet my friend Captain Morgan

 

[haiku]

A pleasure to drink eeer MEET you sir!!!

I cannot guarantee the drink will keep me quiet...............

 

[dannic9647]

And I do have to say this...
she is the "GIRLFRIEND" not a wife.... who is to say that there wont be a new one next week?? Or the week after that?? What is that saying to the kids??
Maybe if she were a step mom she would have more leverage.. but as a girlfriend I think she needs to stop trying to muddy the waters...

 

[nailtech]

Personally I think guys bring their girlfriends to show the Ex that they have moved on.. No other motive at all!!!

then you wrote:
The point that I am trying to make is this...
The children are her boyfriends and his Ex's.. NOT HERS.. why do somwthing that you know pisses the ex off?? If the ex doesnt want her there, then stay away...WHY add fuel to the fire??

especially pointing out:
These people are parents and supposed to be adults... start acting like them....
**************************************************
and then you wrote:
My ex knows if he shows up here with his GF to get the kids, it is only going to cause a fight so he doesnt do it.. It is respect for the other person..Take a tape recorder or a cam corder, just stop adding fuel to the fire...
**************************************************
and then:
And I do have to say this...
she is the "GIRLFRIEND" not a wife.... who is to say that there wont be a new one next week?? Or the week after that?? What is that saying to the kids??
Maybe if she were a step mom she would have more leverage.. but as a girlfriend I think she needs to stop trying to muddy the waters...
***************************************************
your telling someone to grow up, but you would be pissed off about the same thing???
****************************************************
I think your the one who needs to grow up..
you and the ex are divorced if he shows up with another girl just to show you he's moved on, so be it,...... obviously he has, and you need to also...... so grow up...
if he wants to bring another person with him being another woman or what ever he's there to pick up his kids, the papers say you have to turn them over, so turn them over no matter who's with him.... if you don’t want someone on your property that just shows immaturity on the persons *itching part... if he has to drop her off at the street and drive through the driveway then so be it, but the ex should not have a say so in whether he comes "Alone" or not...
it's not necessarily respect, it's because he's tired of the *itching, and most likely the reason he DIVORCED you....

I need some more midol, or a drink......
or both........ maybe a Hysterectomy...GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Muddy water, there is no water.......

 

[dannic9647]

First of all, you dont know MY situation, so please dont preach about it... I am NOT divorced, there are no papers that say ANYTHING and he hasnt paid ONE DIME of support since he left...
Yet I am supposed to sit back and say that it is ok that he brings his flavor of the week to get the kids??? HELL NO!! And he respects that....
and no, you are wrong again... I am the one that is divorcing him.. and it had nothing to do with my bitching....BELIEVE ME....

 

[nailtech]

you said:
My ex knows if he shows up here with his GF to get the kids, it is only going to cause a fight so he doesnt do it.. It is respect for the other person..

You said EX..... I didnt. I only quoted you.... and so did others...

and it doesn't mean diddly if he's paid a dime on support, there still HIS kids...

I was only quoting you tongue and cheek, and as far as the *itching,... you have done enough of that on here to show your ways... so sit back and enjoy the RIDE..... if you like...

and so you beat him to the draw, what drove him there I only wonder???

 

[dannic9647]

I said Ex because in my mind he is an ex.. HOWEVER legally we are still married...

 

[CMSC]

And I do have to say this...
she is the "GIRLFRIEND" not a wife.... who is to say that there wont be a new one next week?? Or the week after that?? What is that saying to the kids??
Maybe if she were a step mom she would have more leverage.. but as a girlfriend I think she needs to stop trying to muddy the waters...

she is still the same person whether she is married to him or not. She is either a good person who doesn't want to see accusations thrown at him when he picks up the kids or she is a vengeful person who wants to say, "haha I have him now". Being married doesn't change any of those factors. At all. You seem to be the one who has a problem, maybe some jealousy? I would not be bothered with my ex bringing his woman to get the kids (if he could visit them) because I am secure in myself, whatever makes him happy, so be it. I am not going to get into it with her or get pissy at her.