boyfriend's ex saying I cannot go to pick up child for visitation

[stealth2]

Is this ridiculous or what?!!?

It certainly borders on it. If nothing else - I would never argue with the ex about something like that for one very simple reason - NO WAY in freakin' hell would I ever let him think that he'd found a button to push. And it's funny, you know.... Neither I nor our kids were all that thrilled with the flavors being around all the time. But I found that the more polite I was, the better it all went. I had several tell me what a wonderful job I was doing raising these kids. But perhaps even better - our kids learned how to handle adverse situations with both grace and class.

 

[nailtech]

AMEN momma tiger!!!!


that was My point....
Dannic, was being totally contradictory... telling people to grow up and then saying her husband knew better than to piss her off by bring another woman to her house......

 

[lajuan]

I had to same problem but it was arranged in court that only dad or grandmother could pick up and drop off. Step mom and I have had problem for years way before she and dad got married. The judge said it would lessen the tension if she didn't come.

 

[dannic9647]

THANK YOU LAJUAN!!!!!!

It is a bad situation for all parties involed, especially the kids.. why make a bad situation worse?? Look at the kids, better yet, TALK to the kids!!!

And as far as growing up goes?? Maybe his GF needs to grow up and get custody of her own kids before she starts takling about taking mine.....

 

[KCMR]

"But perhaps even better - our kids learned how to handle adverse situations with both grace and class."

The less uncomfortable you make it for the children the better. Once upon a time, I had three flavors in two weeks. I didn't even give it recognition...because that was exactly why he did it. Did it bother me? maybe..for 5 minutes before I realized it wasn't bothering my son, so why would I let it bother me?

My ex always did have the responsibility to call the flavors his friends. He is a great dad, even though he hasn't always been the most responsible with his relationships.

This 'she's not allowed in my driveway' junk reminds me of a horrid Jerry Springer episode.

 

[haiku]

It certainly borders on it. If nothing else - I would never argue with the ex about something like that for one very simple reason - NO WAY in freakin' hell would I ever let him think that he'd found a button to push. And it's funny, you know.... Neither I nor our kids were all that thrilled with the flavors being around all the time. But I found that the more polite I was, the better it all went. I had several tell me what a wonderful job I was doing raising these kids. But perhaps even better - our kids learned how to handle adverse situations with both grace and class.

it's all about figuring out what the difference between big and little stuff is.....
you GO momma_tiger!

 

[stealth2]

THANK YOU LAJUAN!!!!!!

It is a bad situation for all parties involed, especially the kids.. why make a bad situation worse?? Look at the kids, better yet, TALK to the kids!!!

And as far as growing up goes?? Maybe his GF needs to grow up and get custody of her own kids before she starts takling about taking mine.....

So..... why did you start fights? And if she started - why did you engage?

 

[haiku]

THANK YOU LAJUAN!!!!!!

It is a bad situation for all parties involed, especially the kids.. why make a bad situation worse?? Look at the kids, better yet, TALK to the kids!!!

And as far as growing up goes?? Maybe his GF needs to grow up and get custody of her own kids before she starts takling about taking mine.....

GEEZ Dannic take it to your OWN thread already.......

 

[dannic9647]

Once upon a time, I had three flavors in two weeks. I didn't even give it recognition...because that was exactly why he did it.


And while he is pushing your buttons with this, what is it teaching your son??? No wonder why no one respects monogamy anymore... Because as children we are teaching them that this is a way of life...

 

[KCMR]

THANK YOU LAJUAN!!!!!!

It is a bad situation for all parties involed, especially the kids.. why make a bad situation worse?? Look at the kids, better yet, TALK to the kids!!!

And as far as growing up goes?? Maybe his GF needs to grow up and get custody of her own kids before she starts takling about taking mine.....

**shakes her head***
you are a lost cause... I hope your children aren't too far gone.

 

[KCMR]

Once upon a time, I had three flavors in two weeks. I didn't even give it recognition...because that was exactly why he did it.


And while he is pushing your buttons with this, what is it teaching your son??? No wonder why no one respects monogamy anymore... Because as children we are teaching them that this is a way of life...

Look I'm not going to get into my situation. My ex is happily dating one girl right now for the last two years.

If you want to continue posting about your jerry springer life go on but why don't you take it to your own thread?

 

[dannic9647]

How dare any of you judge someone else simply by what is written on a computer screen. I hope that all of your children are being taught that what works for one person may not work for everyone else...and there is a thing in the world called compromise and everyone has an opinion....
Never in my life have I met a more pompous, narrow minded group of women
I am teaching my children family values... respect, truth, monogamy, love..

you are a lost cause... I hope your children aren't too far gone.
ANd as far as that comment goes, I hope yours arent thinking they are perfect like you do.. that way when reality sets in they wont be shocked....

 

[stealth2]

and there is a thing in the world called compromise and everyone has an opinion....

I am teaching my children family values... respect, truth, monogamy, love..

Yes, exactly.... So.... I'm still curious why you'd either start a fight or engage... couldn't you teach your children much more valuable lessons?

 

[KCMR]

How dare any of you judge someone else simply by what is written on a computer screen. I hope that all of your children are being taught that what works for one person may not work for everyone else...and there is a thing in the world called compromise and everyone has an opinion....
Never in my life have I met a more pompous, narrow minded group of women
I am teaching my children family values... respect, truth, monogamy, love..

you are a lost cause... I hope your children aren't too far gone.
ANd as far as that comment goes, I hope yours arent thinking they are perfect like you do.. that way when reality sets in they wont be shocked....

Your right I should be teaching my child to hate my ex's girlfriend...and that would make things easier on him. I should be teaching him monogamy at 6. That's right...my bad. I teach him respect by showing others respect and that includes his father and his fathers girlfriend. IMHO you need to stop worrying about what your needs are and start thinking about your childrens.

 

[dannic9647]

I didnt engage in a fight with her... SHE is the one that stood in my yard ranting like a lunatic. I simply put my kids in the house and shut the door...

The next time she came, my daughter asked her father to come in real quick and fix something on her bike.. som,ething that I had tried to fix but couldnt. He did. And the whole 10 minutes that he was in the house she was calling my phone, his phone and yelling out the car window...I simply shut the door....THEN when my husband was leaving and kissing the kids good bye she sat there beeping the horn....
so no, I did not engage in anything...
And as far as teaching your child about monogamy at age 6, yes, let him see what it is supposed to be like at an early age.. where do you think the foundation for their future is laid??