boyfriend's ex saying I cannot go to pick up child for visitation

[KCMR]

A better relationship with her?? Someone who threatens on a daily basis to take my kids form me?? Someone who has called DHS on 4 different occassions and filed false allegations against me?? Someone who thought it was funny on a night that my child had a105 fever and was in the ER, NOT to let me speak to his father to tell him what was going on?? Someone who has made a total ass out of herself in my yard and IN FRONT OF THE KIDS?? and someone who my children have expressed more then once that they do NOT want around???
Sure, I want her as a friend....
What I was saying is this... ASK THE KIDS WHAT THEY WANT... LET THEM FEEL LIKE THEY HAVE SOME CONTROL in this awful situation...
And I am not being a bitchy ex wife, I am looking out for myself and my kids...

And to clarify, I never said that the person I was dating would not be a good candidate to be around my kids... I was simply saying that he and I felt that it was not time yet for the kids to meet him. What if he is gone next week?? I am not the kind of mom that feels her kids should be brought around every person I date.... SOrry if you disagree.. JMHO... they dont need to think that dating a new person every week or every month for that matter is reality.. because it isnt...

right because you are teaching the children to be monogamous even though you are everything but monogomous.

Look I am not trying to badger you.

I will say it again, I'm not saying she has to be your best friend. I'm sure she is the piece of crap you are describing.... but if you are ignoring her how can she tell you she is going to take your kids away? (on a daily basis like you said) **rolls her eyes**

If you give her ZERO attention when she shows up IN THE CAR don't you think that is better than making an ass of yourself?

 

[Lil Miss Smarty Panties]

does anyone remember what the original question was? LOL

Danni, if this woman is as bad as you say, why not apply the advice that IAAL gave on the first page of this thread?

 

[stealth2]

And to clarify, I never said that the person I was dating would not be a good candidate to be around my kids... I was simply saying that he and I felt that it was not time yet for the kids to meet him. What if he is gone next week?? I am not the kind of mom that feels her kids should be brought around every person I date.... SOrry if you disagree.. JMHO... they dont need to think that dating a new person every week or every month for that matter is reality.. because it isnt...

Nor do they need to think that it's okay for their still married mother to date. JMO.

 

[KCMR]

does anyone remember what the original question was? LOL

Danni, if this woman is as bad as you say, why not apply the advice that IAAL gave on the first page of this thread?

Where did the original poster go anyway?

 

[Lil Miss Smarty Panties]

probably hunched in a corner rocking frantically wondering why she ever asked advice from us in the first place

 

[nailtech]

I have to ask this....because my soon to be ex does the same thing with his girlfriend..
WHY NOT LET HIM GO BY HIMSELF......DAMN they are their kids.. Tell him to grow a set and deeal wih it!!!
Personally I think guys bring their girlfriends to show the Ex that they have moved on.. No other motive at all!!!

after her first posts, it went down hill from there....

the skies opened up and the rain poured down....
(mudslides are nasty)



I did notice IAAL kinda stayed out of this after his first post,... hehehehehe... wonder why??

 

[dannic9647]

Nor do they need to think that it's okay for their still married mother to date. JMO.

PRECISELY!!! That is why my children have not met my BF... nor do they even know about him.. he calls my cell, not the house and I dont bring him around....

 

[stealth2]

Nor do they need to think that it's okay for their still married mother to date. JMO.

PRECISELY!!! That is why my children have not met my BF... nor do they even know about him.. he calls my cell, not the house and I dont bring him around....

So if they don't *know* you're dating, adultery is okay? Interesting concept.

 

[annefan]

There goes that narrow minded thinking....
all I was saying was the GF has NO SAY SO in the raising of the kids...that is all she is.. a GF....AND check into some of the recent court cases, GF's have literally been told to mind their own business

Ahh yes...I was that illustrious girlfriend once. Bio mom was so insecure about me that she had put into their court order that 'there shall be no third party involvement (that be me!) regarding the children'. Wonder of all wonders, eventually the girlfriend became the wife.
When we married, I wondered, does this mean I can't cook for them? I can't drive them in my car? I can't take care of them when they get sick in the middle of the night when at my home? Then the sickness hit, the child was violently ill, crying for Mom and when we called her, she refused to come and pick up the child before "HER" weekend was up! I suppose you could already guess what language was removed from that court order through a modification!
So...a word of wisdom to any bio moms out there who want to shut third parties out of the picture, be careful what you wish for...it could bite you in the posterior later.

Ciao.

 

[KCMR]

probably hunched in a corner rocking frantically wondering why she ever asked advice from us in the first place

LMAO...very funny.

 

[megmoncada]

I always went with my boyfriend(now husband) to pick up his daughter, I even picked her up by myself or dropped off what the case might be. I think that it is up to her if you can pick up but ahe can't tell him that you can't be with him

 

[lajuan]

If there is a problem between the two women than it wouldn't be advisable for her to come on the Ex's property. Wouldn't that only add fuel to the fire by her coming.

 

[CRYROSE1]

by dannic
Nor do they need to think that it's okay for their still married mother to date. JMO.

PRECISELY!!! That is why my children have not met my BF... nor do they even know about him.. he calls my cell, not the house and I dont bring him around....

so you are teaching your kids to hide things and in a way you are teaching them to lie also.

you want them to grow up knowing right from wrong then don't lie to you kids.

 

[dannic9647]

Lajuan and Missouri gal...
That is what I am trying to get across..
Why add fuel to the fire?? Why do something over and over again when someone has told you not to....

 

[KCMR]

dannic

you know what? you need to learn when to let go...you need to let go of this topic...you need to let go of your ex...and you need to let go of your hatred.

Once you do all of that you'll be much better off.

GET OVER IT. If she continues to cause problems then take the matter to court and TRY to have the order modified. OTHERWISE SHUT UP!

~~~whew~~~