Can't Paying for a child that's not mine legally

[Humusluvr]

Maybe we can talk to the mother to work out something, hopefully

I would suggest the WE not talk to mom.... you learned your lesson supposedly in the other thread you started where you said you wouldn't overstep....

I'm not sure mom is going to want to let dad off the hook after all that mom has been put through....

 

[stepmom4ever]

Maybe that will happen but if she is going to court, the judge will probably go by state guidelines. Seriously though, if you think about it, why shouldnt dad take care of his responsibilty? The child IS half his. The child is going to need things. Why cant dad work?

He has a history that's why it's hard for him to work.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

He has a history that's why it's hard for him to work.

CAN'T or WON'T?

 

[stepmom4ever]

CAN'T or WON'T?

He can work but because of his past, he won't get a great job. He can work under the table

 

[stepmom4ever]

I would suggest the WE not talk to mom.... you learned your lesson supposedly in the other thread you started where you said you wouldn't overstep....

I'm not sure mom is going to want to let dad off the hook after all that mom has been put through....

I know she won't let dad off the hook, she's still angry with us

 

[Silverplum]

Note to Self:
Disregard this poster. Now, and in the future.

 

[stepmom4ever]

not causing any problems , I know mom is upset eith us and she have a right to. I'm not sure if mom will work with dad on this because of what happened.

 

[StampGirl]

Honestly, if you are so concerned about paying for his child support out of your paycheck, you should have thought about that before you married someone with children.

Personally, I didn't want to be put in that position therefore, I didn't date men who didn't have custody of their children. It wasn't that I wouldn't love their children as my own, its that I didn't want to be financially responsible for someone else's children should something happen. I simply found someone who has custody of his son and the agreement that they have 50/50 and no child support is ordered. I might add too that my soon to be step-son's mom is awesome! We respect each other as mom's and thats what is important.

 

[StampGirl]

not causing any problems , I know mom is upset eith us and she have a right to. I'm not sure if mom will work with dad on this because of what happened.

I wouldn't. My Ex knows that. His Wifey overstepped worse than things you mentioned here and I "stuck it to him". Vindictive, yes. Put her in her rightful place (out in the hallway)... priceless.

 

[Zephyr]

He has a history that's why it's hard for him to work.

I'm guessing significant criminal history?

 

[StampGirl]

I'm guessing significant criminal history?

Which could prevent custody.

 

[jbowman]

Regardless of his history, whether it be criminal, educational, mental, or laziness, he now has a child and it is time to grow up and be responsible. It is so embarrassing to throw out excuses when he is a grown man and has a child. Why should it only be mom's responsibility to financially care for this child? It is even more embarrassing to know you are married to a potential 'deadbeat'. Sorry, but it is true.

 

[stepmom4ever]

I'm guessing significant criminal history?

He's been to jail before, yes.... I can't get into details but he can work. As I said, I know realize the reality of this situation.

 

[StampGirl]

He's been to jail before, yes.... I can't get into details but he can work. As I said, I know realize the reality of this situation.

It is good your learned before you stepped into the courtroom. I commend you for accepting what the reality of this situation is before it was too late.

Stick around these boards. Trust me you will learn a great deal.

 

[stepmom4ever]

Regardless of his history, whether it be criminal, educational, mental, or laziness, he now has a child and it is time to grow up and be responsible. It is so embarrassing to throw out excuses when he is a grown man and has a child. Why should it only be mom's responsibility to financially care for this child? It is even more embarrassing to know you are married to a potential 'deadbeat'. Sorry, but it is true.

He gives her whatever the baby needs. When mom calls and ask him for diapers, socks, clothes, he do it. I know he's not in a good place right now, that's why I wanted to know how this would affect me. I will encourage him to do better, I'm supportive