Family trip

[CJane]

It depends on how much you really like Disney.

How much YOU like Disney, or how much the KIDS like Disney? Cuz ya know, it's supposed to be about the KIDS.

I'm with Ldi and ecmst - I don't think Mom is going to get dinged by any judge on the planet for not allowing a trip to Disney with the grandparents out of state when the weather is NOT conducive to travel/being outdoors in the middle of divorce proceedings.

Any other "denials" of visitation are a separate issue and I don't think that S4E is denying Dad time with the child. I also think that Dad is probably not at all interested in time with the child, except when his parents want it.

I know, I know... READ HER HISTORY... but ya know what? She's a poster with a legit question about an individual situation. A judge isn't going to read her history either.

 

[stepmom4ever]

The weather is expected to be very cold and rainy for a while. Personally, **I** wouldn't want to be there.

The thing is that they have equal rights to the child. Neither parent's right can be trampled here. So, by allowing out-of-state visitation would trample mom's rights. From the way it was made to sound, it was more important for dad to have rights than mom.

How often have the in-laws had visits with the child?

the grandparents see his other more often than our daughter because the mother of his other child allows it..I'm protective of my dauhter

 

[Just Blue]

the grandparents see his other more often than our daughter because the mother of his other child allows it..I'm protective of my dauhter

I just bet you are....

 

[stepmom4ever]

OP, look.

You have indicated elsewhere that you just don't want Dad to have the same parental rights as you and that you'd prefer for him to have supervised visitation only. If I recall correctly the reasons you gave are, as a rule, not enough to warrant supervised visitation. So with that in mind...

For exactly how long would kiddo be gone?

she will be gone for a week

 

[stepmom4ever]

I just bet you are....

IT'S MY FIRST CHILD...WHY WOULDN'T I BE? the grandparents live out of state and the mother of his other child and me live here in georgia where the father live... she allow her son to go with them....my daughter is too young for that..

 

[gr8rn]

How much YOU like Disney, or how much the KIDS like Disney? Cuz ya know, it's supposed to be about the KIDS.

I'm with Ldi and ecmst - I don't think Mom is going to get dinged by any judge on the planet for not allowing a trip to Disney with the grandparents out of state when the weather is NOT conducive to travel/being outdoors in the middle of divorce proceedings.

Any other "denials" of visitation are a separate issue and I don't think that S4E is denying Dad time with the child. I also think that Dad is probably not at all interested in time with the child, except when his parents want it.

I know, I know... READ HER HISTORY... but ya know what? She's a poster with a legit question about an individual situation. A judge isn't going to read her history either.

Agree totally. But S4E, what we all should be discussing with you is that you should be filing for a custody agreement like, now. What you are doing, denying the grandparents this trip, may or may not hurt you, but You should not be waiting till the divorce for a custody agreement. This should be done right now. Divorces can take some time to reach an agrement. The issue of custody/visitation is very important and should not wait.

 

[Just Blue]

IT'S MY FIRST CHILD...WHY WOULDN'T I BE? the grandparents live out of state and the mother of his other child and me live here in georgia where the father live... she allow her son to go with them....my daughter is too young for that..

Really? Your child is too young to go on a trip with her GP's? Were the GP unfit to care for your child BEFORE the separation? Was Dad's judgment bad BEFORE your separation?

According to your posts here...He was just great and the other woman was a jerk.
What has changed?

 

[Artemis_ofthe_Hunt]

Really? Your child is too young to go on a trip with her GP's? Were the GP unfit to care for your child BEFORE the separation? Was Dad's judgment bad BEFORE your separation?

According to your posts here...He was just great and the other woman was a jerk.
What has changed?

Wait... I am not recalling all of the details, but didn't you, Blue predict this months ago?

 

[Proserpina]

she will be gone for a week

OK, could you remind me...is Dad going WITH them, or not? Is this just grandparents and kiddo?

How often ARE they seeing the child?

(You didn't exactly answer that one - "not as much as his other child" isn't an answer, y'know?)

 

[LdiJ]

Really? Your child is too young to go on a trip with her GP's? Were the GP unfit to care for your child BEFORE the separation? Was Dad's judgment bad BEFORE your separation?

According to your posts here...He was just great and the other woman was a jerk.
What has changed?

When my daughter was 16 months old she sure as heck wouldn't have gone on a week long trip with grandparents. Whether they were my ex's parents OR mine. However, neither my ex's parents nor mine would have ever DREAMED of asking to take my 16 month old out of state for a week either.

The grandparents also live out of state therefore its not particularly likely that they provided much care for the child either.

 

[Just Blue]

Wait... I am not recalling all of the details, but didn't you, Blue predict this months ago?

Probably. It was pretty predicable.

 

[LdiJ]

OK, could you remind me...is Dad going WITH them, or not? Is this just grandparents and kiddo?

How often ARE they seeing the child?

(You didn't exactly answer that one - "not as much as his other child" isn't an answer, y'know?)

Dad is not going with them.

 

[stepmom4ever]

OK, could you remind me...is Dad going WITH them, or not? Is this just grandparents and kiddo?

How often ARE they seeing the child?

(You didn't exactly answer that one - "not as much as his other child" isn't an answer, y'know?)

the grandparents see thier other grandchild more..they do more trips with him..he's 2 years old and he's been all over with the grandparents. They only see my daughter when they come into town to see my husband. My husband's other child's mother dont mind and could care less, but i do..she's my daughter and I dont want her gone that long at such a young age... his other child was traveling with the grandparents since he was 6 months old....NOT MY CHILD!! BTW the grandparents always include the other child on thier visits, my daughter dont really know them like that..i think she should spend some time with her grandparetns alone first , then maybe she can go with them in the future.

 

[Just Blue]

the grandparents see thier other grandchild more..they do more trips with him..he's 2 years old and he's been all over with the grandparents. They only see my daughter when they come into town to see my husband. My husband's other child's mother dont mind and could care less, but i do..she's my daughter and I dont want her gone that long at such a young age... his other child was traveling with the grandparents since he was 6 months old....NOT MY CHILD!! BTW the grandparents always include the other child on thier visits, my daughter dont really know them like that..i think she should spend some time with her grandparetns alone first , then maybe she can go with them in the future.

As I said. Pretty predictable.

 

[Artemis_ofthe_Hunt]

As I said. Pretty predictable.

agreed and typical... le sigh