I don't know what to do!!

[Shay-Pari'e]

Pursuant to Ohio Code:

"(A) A person desiring a change of name may file an application in the probate court of the county in which the person resides. The application shall set forth that the applicant has been a bona fide resident of that county for at least one year prior to the filing of the application, the cause for which the change of name is sought, and the requested new name.


Notice of the application shall be given once by publication in a newspaper of general circulation in the county at least thirty days before the hearing on the application. The notice shall set forth the court in which the application was filed, the case number, and the date and time of the hearing.


Upon proof that proper notice was given and that the facts set forth in the application show reasonable and proper cause for changing the name of the applicant, the court may order the change of name.

(B) An application for change of name may be made on behalf of a minor by either of the minor's parents, a legal guardian, or a guardian ad litem. When application is made on behalf of a minor, in addition to the notice and proof required pursuant to division (A) of this section, the consent of both living, legal parents of the minor shall be filed, or notice of the hearing shall be given to the parent or parents not consenting by certified mail, return receipt requested. If there is no known father of the minor, the notice shall be given to the person who the mother of the minor alleges to be the father. If no father is so alleged, or if either parent or the address of either parent is unknown, notice pursuant to division (A) of this section shall be sufficient as to the father or parent.


Also, you should be aware that if you marry and your b/f adopts your child and you later divorce he can petition for custody.

Good luck to you.

You are missing codes in regard to the poster. The father has paid random support.

BB was right on with his advice, and unfortunetly the poster will learn the hard way.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

(QUOTE) and proof required pursuant to division (A) of this section, the consent of both living, legal parents of the minor shall be filed, or notice of the hearing shall be given to the parent or parents not consenting by certified mail, return receipt requested.If there is no known father of the minor, the notice shall be given to the person who the mother of the minor alleges to be the father. If no father is so alleged, or if either parent or the address of either parent is unknown, notice pursuant to division (A) of this section shall be sufficient as to the father or parent. (QUOTE)

You do realize you just proved BB's response, right?

 

[Mbarr]

OP, if you know the father's address, you are required to give him notice of your petition for name change by Certified Mail. If the Certified Mail is returned unclaimed, refused, addressee unknown, or for any reason other than insufficient address, you can then publish.

The Code provides that you have to have dad's consent, or give proper notice. If notice cannot be provided by Certified Mail, then notice can be given by publication.

Child support has nothing to do with the notice requirements for a petition to change name.

 

[Butterflys Momm]

(QUOTE) and proof required pursuant to division (A) of this section, the consent of both living, legal parents of the minor shall be filed, or notice of the hearing shall be given to the parent or parents not consenting by certified mail, return receipt requested.If there is no known father of the minor, the notice shall be given to the person who the mother of the minor alleges to be the father. If no father is so alleged, or if either parent or the address of either parent is unknown, notice pursuant to division (A) of this section shall be sufficient as to the father or parent. (QUOTE)

You do realize you just proved BB's response, right?

Read the last line.......if either parent or the address of either parent is unknow, notice pursuant to division (A) of this section shall be sufficient as to the father or parent" He hasn't paid child support for MONTHS....no one knows where he lives....only thing I've seen that BB has proven is that he's a disgrace to the male gender. I seen in an earlier post that he said something about European bullcrap...Ummm, I hate to be the barrier of bad news, but that is NOT Ohio. Jagz28 has already said I have to contact probate COURT.

And about my disability...Until you come to my house, and see what I do from day to day to take care of my daughter, DO NOT sit there and say that I shouldn't have had a child. I wasn't so "disabled" (as you call it) until childbirth. A toddler doesn't require attention for 8 hours straight. When she is playing by herself or when she just wants to be read to, or sang to, or when she doesn't need something to eat or drink, or help in the bathroom, I am confined to the couch or bed. I cannot sit for long periods of time. I honestly don't believe I have to sit here and explain my disability to ANYONE, because it doesn't have a damn thing to do with anything I have asked. Wish I could be like Christopher Reeves and have the money that he had
BEFORE he got injured and be able to open up a rehabilitation facility and research facility. He has the money to have things made handicapped accessible for him and has money to get things he needs for his disability and has money to build these huge facilities. I'm not lucky enough to be able to have crap handed to me just because I have a lot of money. If you want to send me millions of dollars to make my house handicapped accessible, and pay for me to have all the things I need to be able to work again, and pay for me to start a huge facility or any other business, or to send me back to college, or whatever it may be, then darlin I'd be very greatful and happy to accept it. But seeings how I'm a poor "tramp" (as you call me), I'm stuck with what I have at this point in time. It's not like I LOVE sitting at home all the time not being able to come and go as I please like I used to, or to have to take long breaks during the day and take time out of being able to play with my daughter, or be able to take her here or there on my own, and being on SSI and living off tax payers' dollars. I WANT to be able to work and make my own money and KNOW I don't have to sit here and try to find all the help I can so my daughter doesn't have to go without. But unfortunately at this point in time, I CAN'T. I have never in my life said I can't do something, but right now, I have no other choice but to say it, because I'm not physically and financially able to do the things I want to do. That doesn't make me a tramp, or stupid, or, any less of a mom, or whatever else ya'll have called me since I first posted on this forum. So, with all that said...DO NOT bring my disability, limitations, or whatever you want to call it into it, because it has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with what I have asked information about!!!!!

 

[jagz28]

lol well that sums it up huh. this forum is the worst legal forum i have ever seen. all i seen on here is hate and discrimination. how sad is it for the people who get there rocks off from this. butterfly i hope you get what you were seeking with your daughters name. and all the rest who had nothing good to say. well no hopes for you

 

[BlondiePB]

Read the last line.......if either parent or the address of either parent is unknow, notice pursuant to division (A) of this section shall be sufficient as to the father or parent" He hasn't paid child support for MONTHS....no one knows where he lives....only thing I've seen that BB has proven is that he's a disgrace to the male gender. I seen in an earlier post that he said something about European bullcrap...Ummm, I hate to be the barrier of bad news, but that is NOT Ohio. Jagz28 has already said I have to contact probate COURT.

And about my disability...Until you come to my house, and see what I do from day to day to take care of my daughter, DO NOT sit there and say that I shouldn't have had a child. I wasn't so "disabled" (as you call it) until childbirth. A toddler doesn't require attention for 8 hours straight. When she is playing by herself or when she just wants to be read to, or sang to, or when she doesn't need something to eat or drink, or help in the bathroom, I am confined to the couch or bed. I cannot sit for long periods of time. I honestly don't believe I have to sit here and explain my disability to ANYONE, because it doesn't have a damn thing to do with anything I have asked. Wish I could be like Christopher Reeves and have the money that he had
BEFORE he got injured and be able to open up a rehabilitation facility and research facility. He has the money to have things made handicapped accessible for him and has money to get things he needs for his disability and has money to build these huge facilities. I'm not lucky enough to be able to have crap handed to me just because I have a lot of money. If you want to send me millions of dollars to make my house handicapped accessible, and pay for me to have all the things I need to be able to work again, and pay for me to start a huge facility or any other business, or to send me back to college, or whatever it may be, then darlin I'd be very greatful and happy to accept it. But seeings how I'm a poor "tramp" (as you call me), I'm stuck with what I have at this point in time. It's not like I LOVE sitting at home all the time not being able to come and go as I please like I used to, or to have to take long breaks during the day and take time out of being able to play with my daughter, or be able to take her here or there on my own, and being on SSI and living off tax payers' dollars. I WANT to be able to work and make my own money and KNOW I don't have to sit here and try to find all the help I can so my daughter doesn't have to go without. But unfortunately at this point in time, I CAN'T. I have never in my life said I can't do something, but right now, I have no other choice but to say it, because I'm not physically and financially able to do the things I want to do. That doesn't make me a tramp, or stupid, or, any less of a mom, or whatever else ya'll have called me since I first posted on this forum. So, with all that said...DO NOT bring my disability, limitations, or whatever you want to call it into it, because it has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with what I have asked information about!!!!!

Because you have posted all of the above, I do have a few things to say. When in college, I met a gal who was disabled and in a wheelchair. She was a single mother, dirt poor like you, and had difficulty making ends meet. That did not stop her from finding the community resources to help her acquire what she needed to put herself through and complete four years of college. That did not stop her from finding assistance to help with devices required to drive, to find devices for her home, etc.

This gal did not want to be treated as disabled and did not act disabled. She even made things better for other disabled students at college. She choose "special education" as her course of studies, which enabled her student loans to be forgiven. That is not why she chose that field of study, though. She has a great teaching job, still will not allow anyone to treat her as being disabled, and married a professional in the education field. That's quite an achievement for a dirt-poor disabled, single mother.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Because you have posted all of the above, I do have a few things to say. When in college, I met a gal who was disabled and in a wheelchair. She was a single mother, dirt poor like you, and had difficulty making ends meet. That did not stop her from finding the community resources to help her acquire what she needed to put herself through and complete four years of college. That did not stop her from finding assistance to help with devices required to drive, to find devices for her home, etc.

This gal did not want to be treated as disabled and did not act disabled. She even made things better for other disabled students at college. She choose "special education" as her course of studies, which enabled her student loans to be forgiven. That is not why she chose that field of study, though. She has a great teaching job, still will not allow anyone to treat her as being disabled, and married a professional in the education field. That's quite an achievement for a dirt-poor disabled, single mother.

I met someone like that too Blondie. He came to see us at the VA hospital when I came back from my 'vacation' in 73.

His name was Max Cleland.

 

[Butterflys Momm]

Because you have posted all of the above, I do have a few things to say. When in college, I met a gal who was disabled and in a wheelchair. She was a single mother, dirt poor like you, and had difficulty making ends meet. That did not stop her from finding the community resources to help her acquire what she needed to put herself through and complete four years of college. That did not stop her from finding assistance to help with devices required to drive, to find devices for her home, etc.

This gal did not want to be treated as disabled and did not act disabled. She even made things better for other disabled students at college. She choose "special education" as her course of studies, which enabled her student loans to be forgiven. That is not why she chose that field of study, though. She has a great teaching job, still will not allow anyone to treat her as being disabled, and married a professional in the education field. That's quite an achievement for a dirt-poor disabled, single mother.

Well, like I said, I have been trying to find information on how to get stuff straightened out. I have called every number that's in the phonebook to try and find help, but no one will help me or point me in the right direction to do so. I wouldn't be able to go to college right now, because I don't have the money to pay for a babysitter to watch my daughter nor am I physically able to. And I don't mean to sound rude or anything, but the term "disabled" means "not mobile". I'm not a car that don't run anymore, I still live and breathe....so therefore, I'm not disabled. Until I am able to find the resources I need to get my life back on track (inlcuding being physically able to go out and do a job) this is what I have to do. I am confinded to my home, raising my daughter by myself with no help from my family/friends/her father. My boyfriend helps me out as much as he can, but he works his butt off and isn't here that often. It's not that I'm using my disability as an excuse. It's not that at all....but the plain and simple fact is.....I CAN'T at this point in time. It's not MY fault due to childbirth, my limitations got worse than they were before, and I'm not able to be in an upright position for hours at a time, or be in a bumpy car every day, to go to work. I understand that there's help out there somewhere, and I'm sure I'll find the right help one of these days, but even if I were to find it soon, that still won't help me with my medical status and still won't make me be able to work at this point in time.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

I have been on vacation the last few days, and have not taken time to read this entire thread, just enough to get the picture.

Butterflysmom, you are very immature and have an inflated sense of entitlement.

You are on SSI and not SSDI because you can work and chose not to work. Even if you TPR, the state will get any arrearages, not you, and then you won't get any child support from him after TPR. Does the state know you have a boyfriend helping to support you? You are running a scam that is why you have not got the answers to your questions that you wanted. If your case worker was such a good attorney, why are they giving you bad advice and why are they working as a social worker?

Food for thought. Why don't you apply for a rehab program so you can finnnd work you can do what ever your abilities are.

I also question your fitness as a mother if you are too disabled to work yet not disabled enough to qualify for SSDI. If the father saw your child 21 times in the first 6 months and seldom since then, there is a problem with you! Go ahead and rock the boat and see what happens or simply get a job.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

I have been on vacation the last few days, and have not taken time to read this entire thread, just enough to get the picture.

Butterflysmom, you are very immature and have an inflated sense of entitlement.

You are on SSI and not SSDI because you can work and chose not to work. Even if you TPR, the state will get any arrearages, not you, and then you won't get any child support from him after TPR. Does the state know you have a boyfriend helping to support you? You are running a scam that is why you have not got the answers to your questions that you wanted. If your case worker was such a good attorney, why are they giving you bad advice and why are they working as a social worker?

Food for thought. Why don't you apply for a rehab program so you can finnnd work you can do what ever your abilities are.

I also question your fitness as a mother if you are too disabled to work yet not disabled enough to qualify for SSDI. If the father saw your child 21 times in the first 6 months and seldom since then, there is a problem with you! Go ahead and rock the boat and see what happens or simply get a job.

DAMN!!!!

 

[BlondiePB]

Well, like I said, I have been trying to find information on how to get stuff straightened out. I have called every number that's in the phonebook to try and find help, but no one will help me or point me in the right direction to do so. I wouldn't be able to go to college right now, because I don't have the money to pay for a babysitter to watch my daughter nor am I physically able to. And I don't mean to sound rude or anything, but the term "disabled" means "not mobile". I'm not a car that don't run anymore, I still live and breathe....so therefore, I'm not disabled. Until I am able to find the resources I need to get my life back on track (inlcuding being physically able to go out and do a job) this is what I have to do. I am confinded to my home, raising my daughter by myself with no help from my family/friends/her father. My boyfriend helps me out as much as he can, but he works his butt off and isn't here that often. It's not that I'm using my disability as an excuse. It's not that at all....but the plain and simple fact is.....I CAN'T at this point in time. It's not MY fault due to childbirth, my limitations got worse than they were before, and I'm not able to be in an upright position for hours at a time, or be in a bumpy car every day, to go to work. I understand that there's help out there somewhere, and I'm sure I'll find the right help one of these days, but even if I were to find it soon, that still won't help me with my medical status and still won't make me be able to work at this point in time.

You can make a difference in your own life, even being in a wheelchair. Many colleges do provide child care for those qualified, such as you. You can get a job on campus and go to school at the same time. You can apply for grants. You can apply for scholarships. You can apply for student loans. You can find organizations to help you. You did find this legal advice site, and you can find what you need.

 

[BlondiePB]

I met someone like that too Blondie. He came to see us at the VA hospital when I came back from my 'vacation' in 73.

His name was Max Cleland.

Could be a coincidence, BB, but that name rings a bell. It's amazing what one can do with one's limitations. One has to stop one's own "pity party" first. Inspiration by those who are worse off can be very motivating and can be the fuel for finding another purpose in life, which probably is what was intended anyway.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

I sure home the name is familiar. After being wounded in 1968 in Nam, among other accomplishments, Cleland was the administrator of the United States Veterans Administration under President Jimmy Carter, from 1977 to 1981.

 

[Butterflys Momm]

I have been on vacation the last few days, and have not taken time to read this entire thread, just enough to get the picture.

Butterflysmom, you are very immature and have an inflated sense of entitlement.

You are on SSI and not SSDI because you can work and chose not to work. Even if you TPR, the state will get any arrearages, not you, and then you won't get any child support from him after TPR. Does the state know you have a boyfriend helping to support you? You are running a scam that is why you have not got the answers to your questions that you wanted. If your case worker was such a good attorney, why are they giving you bad advice and why are they working as a social worker?

Food for thought. Why don't you apply for a rehab program so you can finnnd work you can do what ever your abilities are.

I also question your fitness as a mother if you are too disabled to work yet not disabled enough to qualify for SSDI. If the father saw your child 21 times in the first 6 months and seldom since then, there is a problem with you! Go ahead and rock the boat and see what happens or simply get a job.

First....Read the whole thread before ya open your mouth...

Second....I'm on SSI, because I haven't worked long enough to be able to recieve SSDI benefits. SSDI is for people who have worked long enough to recieve benefits from what they paid into it....the only job I had was when I was in high school and it was only part time. I then went straight to college full-time, 6 to 7 days a week depending on the semester....while being in college I got pregnant, and due to the disability I was born with, I was told by my doctor I could not do anything, so I was put on bedrest for the whole 9 months (in the hospital), and then during childbirth, it complicated my disability even more. I have had 6 surgeries to try and fix what went wrong during the childbirth, but nothing has worked as of yet.

Third...I'm allowed to get child support while on SSI. I'm just not allowed to recieve money for myself. The child support is for my daughter, not me. The SSI is for me, not my daughter.

Fourth....My boyfriend does not help to support me. I said he helps me with taking care of my daughter and helping me around the house when he can. He doesn't give me money, so therefore he's not helping to support me.

Fifth...I applied for BVR 2 years ago to have them help me find a job that I can do from home, due to me having to be out of my wheelchair when my daughter doesn't need anything, and they told me they would contact me when they found something for me. They never contacted me so I called them and they said they still don't have anything.

Sixth...As I said before....it's not that I'm not disabled enough to qualify for SSDI....I haven't paid enough money into it to recieve it since I only had a part time job in high school.

Seventh....it's been 21 times in the first 5 months she was born that he seen her and hasn't seen her AT ALL since then (May of 2003). How is that a problem with me? I let him come see her whenever he wanted to see her....day or night...hell, there was even times I would beg him to come and see her and be a part of her life (he didn't even come see her on her first Christmas or Easter, or birthday). It was HIS choice to not come see her anymore or help provide for her, but it will all come back to bite him in the ass when I'm ABLE to get on with my life the way I was able to before the childbirth, if my boyfriend and I don't marry before then and he adopts her, because I'll be taking him for everything he has when the OWF stops. I didn't even file for child support through the courts until after he walked out of her life, because I trusted him enough to help me without getting the courts involved....THAT right there was the ONLY fault I've made (and the fact that I gave her his last name). I should have filed for it as soon as she was born and gave her my last name until he proved he was going to be there as a full-time father.


Eighth.....I WILL get off of SSI and get a job when I am physically able to or when BVR finds a job that I can do from home while I'm still on medical restrictions BY MY DOCTOR. Until then, I'm not going to jepordize my health, and possibly make things worse than they are now and take the chance on not being able to care for my daughter at all ever again. To me, it's more important to take care of my daughter to the best of my ability and be on SSI until I'm physically able to work, than to take the chance on not being able to take care of her by myself ever again. Until you've walked a mile in my shoes, do not judge me, because you do not know me, nor do you know all the details of what happened.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Sorry, nice try, no cigar.

Until you can provide some facts to support your claims to entitlement, my advice remains the same.

Get off your butt and get a job and quit being a leach on society.
I hope that your home is evaluated for your fitness as a parent.