I don't know what to do!!

[jagz28]

what a frikkin idiot.

Yep, let her send him a certified letter. Let her publish in a newspaper.

and then let her file for a name change. GUESS WHAT clueless, it's a waste of time. Because those actions must be performed under the auspicies of the court, NOT before.

i gave you the number. now you prove me wrong. give them a call tommoro and see what they say. i already know what there going to say. can i ask what do you for a 40 work week. because i highly doubt it is in the legal field. unless you answer phones a pretend to be a lawer after work beacuse it was your life dream. but realized you could not make it in the courtroom. due to poor antics and lacking people skills. enough on this post call them tommoro and let me know what they say.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

You know, I haven't seen any of your qualifications to even talk much less call me out. Especially since your diatribe is nothing more than repeating what I have already told this poster TWICE.

But if it will shut you up,
GeorgeTown law
Legal analyst for NATO
Legal Analyst for the European Community
Lead Legal Analyst for the EU commission on children and families

Now please let us all know your qualifications to repeat advice that has already been given and pretend you know what you're talking about.

 

[LdiJ]

what a frikkin idiot.

Yep, let her send him a certified letter. Let her publish in a newspaper.

and then let her file for a name change. GUESS WHAT clueless, it's a waste of time. Because those actions must be performed under the auspicies of the court, NOT before.

MG, you're right. I didn't see that. Still, I think you know me well enough to know being disabled is never going to be an excuse with me. Or are the hillbillies getting to you already?

I understand you feeling that being disabled is not an "excuse". However until you have some experience in the world of the truly disabled...you honestly don't have the right to say the kinds of things that you did.

Let me tell you about my brother in law...and let you understand why he is a working, productive member of society.

When he was 20 he was in the military. He was in a car accident that technically left him quadraplegic.....although he does have the use of his arms (its a medical distinction and complicated to explain). Due to the fact that he was in the military...he had access to services that most people don't have. He was housed in a special facility for a year after his accident.

In that facility he was taught to 100% care for himself...taught to drive a car with hand controls...and was given everything that he needed to be independent. The military provided him an education so that he could work in a field that allowed for his disabilities...the military provided a downpayment on his first home...the military provided the hand controls for his car (and still does) and extra money to equip his home so that he could function (and still does). He recieves a healthy pension.

He makes it clear, on a daily basis, that if he had not had the support that he had from the military that there was almost no chance that he could be where he is today.

I also have a cousin who has a child who has cerebal palsy...a child who is bright and wonderful but has a disability...one that will still allow him to have a life...but that will confine him to a wheel chair for the rest of his life. He isn't going to receive the same help and benefits that my brother in law received....but hopefully he will have the benefit of my brother in law as an example....

OK...I am way on my "soapbox" here....the bottom line is that you have NO UNDERSTANDING of what it takes....and you have no right to pass judgement.
You have no right to call this woman a tramp. You have every obligation to apologize.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

sorry ldij, but this little tramp deserves no pity.

Not once until recently did you ever mention a disability so this far in I doubt it exists. And even if it does, it's an excuse, not a reason not to find work.

And if she's disabled to the point of not being able to work, how can she satisfy a boyfriend who she said in her very first post, would adopt her child?

There is just too much about this 'person' that doesn't jive.

DITTO,

How is she taking care of her child? Don't anyone come back and say she can, or I will say..........then she can work.

Millions of people confined to a wheel chair work. Why have a baby if she was so disabled to begin with?

As I stated very early on, she wants to hear what she wants.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

I understand you feeling that being disabled is not an "excuse". However until you have some experience in the world of the truly disabled...you honestly don't have the right to say the kinds of things that you did.
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Well there you go again. Guess what Big L. I've been disabled for 40 years.

I'm not going to argue who's more disabled or which disability is more pitiful. it's irrelevant. I had more respect for people like Chris Reaves than those able-bodied people who refuse to work. he STOOD for something.

And for every disabled person you want to pull out (yes, including relatives) I can show you one who doesn't let their disability affect their humanness.

The fact is, if you're too disabled to work then you're too disabled to sit at a computer and play on the internet.

 

[LdiJ]

DITTO,

How is she taking care of her child? Don't anyone come back and say she can, or I will say..........then she can work.

Millions of people confined to a wheel chair work. Why have a baby if she was so disabled to begin with?

As I stated very early on, she wants to hear what she wants.

You obviously didn't read well....go back and read again....."result of childbirth"...do you remember that phrase in this thread? If you don't, read it again.

ARG...I am losing it here....Most of the time I totally respect all the senior members of this board even when I disagree with them....but this thread is really making me lose it.

If you have not lived this life...a life confined to a wheel chair...or do not have direct experience with people who do live this life...then you have NO RIGHT to judge....because you have NO BASIS for your judgement.

This woman came here because she needs the minimal amount of support that the courts have ordered the father of her child to pay....and many have treated her like dirt. She is validly disabled and you have all treated her like she is a welfare fraud/disability fraud case.

Those who did should be ashamed of themselves. Those who did should have the grace to apologize.

This board is wonderful most of the time...and relatively straight on track most of the time...even when its gets overly hard on someone who really doesn't deserve it.

But this time....this time many of you blew it...and blew it badly. If I blew something that badly I would admit it and apologize for it.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

You obviously didn't read well....go back and read again....."result of childbirth"...do you remember that phrase in this thread? If you don't, read it again.

ARG...I am losing it here....Most of the time I totally respect all the senior members of this board even when I disagree with them....but this thread is really making me lose it.

If you have not lived this life...a life confined to a wheel chair...or do not have direct experience with people who do live this life...then you have NO RIGHT to judge....because you have NO BASIS for your judgement.

This woman came here because she needs the minimal amount of support that the courts have ordered the father of her child to pay....and many have treated her like dirt. She is validly disabled and you have all treated her like she is a welfare fraud/disability fraud case.

Those who did should be ashamed of themselves. Those who did should have the grace to apologize.

This board is wonderful most of the time...and relatively straight on track most of the time...even when its gets overly hard on someone who really doesn't deserve it.

But this time....this time many of you blew it...and blew it badly. If I blew something that badly I would admit it and apologize for it.

So LdiJ, you would have this women earn an extra little bit from a job (your words in a previous post) to make up the monies she should be getting from her baby's father? I guess your memory is short ...

Yeah, there is a support order, but even if he does pay a few dollars a month, I don't see it, because I get the OWF. He's supposed to pay $262.00 a month, and I receive $223 from OWF. They told me I'd be better off to take the OWF instead of depending on him to pay. So there's really nothing I can do about him NOT paying since I'm getting the OWF.

so now let's take a look at this martyr as you would portray her:

I checked into this. I can terminate his parental rights.

And about the boyfriend thing....he IS willing to adopt her, but just not at this point in time....like I said in my last post...he's not financially stable enough at this point in time, because of job change, to do so.

How does he not fall under the legal definition of "abandonment"? He hasn't seen her since she was 5 months old, and hasn't paid a single penny in child support for quite a few months. Here in Ohio, that is classified as abandonment. If a parent hasn't been around for 6 weeks without any contact with the costodial parent and child, he's classified as abandoning the child.

It's considered abandonment when he doesn't provide for her (like paying support like he's ordered to do).

I came on here ORIGINALLY to find out how to get her last name switched to mine since he's not in the picture anyway and doesn't want anything to do with her.

And the most telltale post which really shows us what she is about:

I barely make ends meet, and I would really like to get her father's name off the birth certificate and get his rights revoked, so he's not in the picture anymore, but I'm afraid I'd be screwing myself in the long run and put myself further in debt than I am now.

And I also came on here to see if there was anyone who knew of some kind of help I can get for my daughter for when the OWF stops when she turns 3 since he's not paying support, and I don't get much from SSI to support the both of us alone.

The child support will go towards my daughter...all of the SSI goes towards the rent, utilities, and food. I'm not allowed to use the SSI for anything other than those things and I have to show proof.

see a pattern? I do. And THAT is why I will never apologize to this person. In one breath she complains about not getting child support then because child support would be taken by SSI even if he did pay.
And now it's her disability and we should feel sorry for her.

Nope. Not in this life. The fact is, she has been give the correct legal advice and refuses to listen except to hear what she WANTS to hear. So, since I have better things to do (like scratch my ass) you can pat her on the head and listen to her sob story.

She's not worth my time.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

You obviously didn't read well....go back and read again....."result of childbirth"...do you remember that phrase in this thread? If you don't, read it again. I read it. Here it is again in case you need it.

(QUOTE)I'm not eligible for SSD because I haven't worked long enough to get it. I worked part time when I was in high school (at the school I was attending), then went straight to college, and got pregnant while I was in college, and was told I couldn't work the whole time for medical reasons, and I'm not able to work now because of complications that happened during child birth. (QUOTE)



ARG...I am losing it here....Most of the time I totally respect all the senior members of this board even when I disagree with them....but this thread is really making me lose it.

If you have not lived this life...a life confined to a wheel chair...or do not have direct experience with people who do live this life...then you have NO RIGHT to judge....because you have NO BASIS for your judgement. I guess I have a basis to judge then, just like you. Did you think you were the ONLY one with direct experience, huh?

This woman came here because she needs the minimal amount of support that the courts have ordered the father of her child to pay....and many have treated her like dirt. She is validly disabled and you have all treated her like she is a welfare fraud/disability fraud case. What I said was, if she can care for a toddler, she can work.


Those who did should be ashamed of themselves. I'm not ashamed of what I said, sorry. Those who did should have the grace to apologize.

This board is wonderful most of the time...and relatively straight on track most of the time...even when its gets overly hard on someone who really doesn't deserve it.

But this time....this time many of you blew it...and blew it badly. If I blew something that badly I would admit it and apologize for it.

Ok, thanks for letting us know.

 

[LdiJ]

Well there you go again. Guess what Big L. I've been disabled for 40 years.

I'm not going to argue who's more disabled or which disability is more pitiful. it's irrelevant. I had more respect for people like Chris Reaves than those able-bodied people who refuse to work. he STOOD for something.

And for every disabled person you want to pull out (yes, including relatives) I can show you one who doesn't let their disability affect their humanness.

The fact is, if you're too disabled to work then you're too disabled to sit at a computer and play on the internet.

You are damned straight that Chris Reeves stood for something....but he also had the financial resources to move beyond his disability....so does my brother in law...so maybe did you....so DOESN'T my cousin's child.

Yes....I do believe that she may have the opportunity to earn some income...I would continue to encourage her to try...to try to find a way...but calling her a "tramp"...that is beyond low.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

...but calling her a "tramp"...that is beyond low.

oh well

 

[Butterflys Momm]

So LdiJ, you would have this women earn an extra little bit from a job (your words in a previous post) to make up the monies she should be getting from her baby's father? I guess your memory is short ...



so now let's take a look at this martyr as you would portray her:













And the most telltale post which really shows us what she is about:






see a pattern? I do. And THAT is why I will never apologize to this person. In one breath she complains about not getting child support then because child support would be taken by SSI even if he did pay.
And now it's her disability and we should feel sorry for her.

Nope. Not in this life. The fact is, she has been give the correct legal advice and refuses to listen except to hear what she WANTS to hear. So, since I have better things to do (like scratch my ass) you can pat her on the head and listen to her sob story.

She's not worth my time.

For one I NEVER said the child support would get taken away by SSI....I said that SSI would take any other form of money I got....like if I'm ever able to work again. they would take THAT money. they won't take money that is for my child. the ssi is just for me. and evidently I AM worth your time or you wouldn't be running your mouth about this crap forever now.

 

[LdiJ]

oh well

Sad...I thought better.

 

[Mbarr]

Pursuant to Ohio Code:

"(A) A person desiring a change of name may file an application in the probate court of the county in which the person resides. The application shall set forth that the applicant has been a bona fide resident of that county for at least one year prior to the filing of the application, the cause for which the change of name is sought, and the requested new name.


Notice of the application shall be given once by publication in a newspaper of general circulation in the county at least thirty days before the hearing on the application. The notice shall set forth the court in which the application was filed, the case number, and the date and time of the hearing.


Upon proof that proper notice was given and that the facts set forth in the application show reasonable and proper cause for changing the name of the applicant, the court may order the change of name.

(B) An application for change of name may be made on behalf of a minor by either of the minor's parents, a legal guardian, or a guardian ad litem. When application is made on behalf of a minor, in addition to the notice and proof required pursuant to division (A) of this section, the consent of both living, legal parents of the minor shall be filed, or notice of the hearing shall be given to the parent or parents not consenting by certified mail, return receipt requested. If there is no known father of the minor, the notice shall be given to the person who the mother of the minor alleges to be the father. If no father is so alleged, or if either parent or the address of either parent is unknown, notice pursuant to division (A) of this section shall be sufficient as to the father or parent.


Also, you should be aware that if you marry and your b/f adopts your child and you later divorce he can petition for custody.

Good luck to you.

 

[jagz28]

all i really have to say is aplause to ldij. at least more then one person on here is human what can you say. some must of really hurt bb in the past and that is why they are so bitter. well bb you get further showing love and compasion. and if you have none that is fine just say nothing at all. it will make you a better person in the long run. but at your age im sure you know all. well the one who thinks he knows all is the one who is a fool. so when you have to answer to your maker one day. i hope the TRAMP (that is what you called her right)dont have to help on his choice. there is a saying never step on someones toes today. because it might be the a$$ you have to kiss tommoro. im sorry but a real man would say he was sorry and end it. let see if you are a real man or not. it takes more of a man to admit when he is wrong then when he is right.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

(QUOTE)all i really have to say is aplause to ldij. at least more then one person on here is human what can you say. some must of really hurt bb in the past and that is why they are so bitter. well bb you get further showing love and compasion. and if you have none that is fine just say nothing at all. it will make you a better person in the long run. but at your age im sure you know all. well the one who thinks he knows all is the one who is a fool. so when you have to answer to your maker one day. i hope the TRAMP (that is what you called her right)dont have to help on his choice. there is a saying never step on someones toes today. because it might be the a$$ you have to kiss tommoro. im sorry but a real man would say he was sorry and end it. let see if you are a real man or not. it takes more of a man to admit when he is wrong then when he is right. (QUOTE).

Who could possibly take you seriously with this post? Did you pass 3rd grade?