I don't know what to do!!

[stealth2]

However, even when in the same state, getting only half of the information is sometimes worse. And that is what your friend from the pond gave you. Half of the information. But hey, go ahead and see where it gets you. Good luck.

 

[Butterflys Momm]

I talked to him on the phone and I have all the information now. Just because he didn't post everything on here doesn't mean he doesn't know everything. That's why he told me to get ahold of him so he could tell me everything without people who don't even live in the same state as us acting like they know Ohio laws. He's already been through what I have, so therefore that would also make him have more knowledge about it. And now that I have talked to him, I now have information on where to start with everything....Something none of you could give me because ya'll were too busy judging me and calling names....but that's ok.

 

[legalcuriosity]

THANK YOU brooksponds.com!!!!!!!!!!!! I KNEW that was true! but someone else told me I was lying about that and it was against the law!!!!! It runs in the paper for 6 weeks and if he doesn't respond to it, then it legally goes in my favor. Yes I am in ne Ohio. I know not to expect things to be fast. I've learned that with trying to get information. LOL But thanks for your help!!!!

Well congratulations. You finally had someone tell you what you wanted to hear.

Even though it is not correct advice.

I live in NE Ohio as well and I can tell you that poster is about as clueless as you. Oh, BTW, why isn't this caseworker practicing law anymore? Hmm..? And don't tell me it was to be paid a crappy wage as a caseworker.

And if he doesn't pay, then I still don't know what to do. I will NEED that money to get by with all of my bills.

Ummm...here's an idea. GET A F**KING JOB!!!

It's called "child support" for a reason. It's not supposed to pay all of your bills. Especially when YOU CAN'T EVEN PAY FOR THEM!!!

(Napoleon Dynamite tone "Gosh...Idiot!"

 

[legalcuriosity]

ANYONE can go onto ORC and copy and paste ****. I said basically the same **** earlier, and you told me I was doing something ILLEGAL.

Too bad for you, YOU are the one who didn't bother pulling up the Ohio Revised Code. No wonder why Cleveland was voted one of the dumbest cities.

 

[LdiJ]

Ummm...here's an idea. GET A F**KING JOB!!!

It's called "child support" for a reason. It's not supposed to pay all of your bills. Especially when YOU CAN'T EVEN PAY FOR THEM!!!

(Napoleon Dynamite tone "Gosh...Idiot!"

LC....you are projecting again.....and you have embarrised yourself on this one.

Mom is in a wheel chair...she hasn't been specific about her disability...but its obviously fairly serious. She is also only talking about wanting 200.00 a month in child support...therefore she obviously isn't expecting child support to support her. 200.00 wouldn't support her child...let alone provide anything extra for her. So in this particular case your response falls into the "tacky" catagory.

And before you start spouting off about anything else...I have a brother in law who is confined to a wheel chair....and who is gainfully employed. However he had to go to college in order to get the kind of job that he could do from a wheel chair....and that took time.

 

[Butterflys Momm]

I didn't have to pull up the codes because I already said the same exact crap. And I would get a job if I was physically able to do so, so here's an idea...GET A F**KING LIFE!!!! The child support will go towards my daughter...all of the SSI goes towards the rent, utilities, and food. I'm not allowed to use the SSI for anything other than those things and I have to show proof. But anyways...I'm done explaining myself to anyone. I've got all the information I need to get the ball rolling, and I don't need people to running their mouths about my situation when they don't know everything. I just gave things that are important, and if people would have kept up with the whole thread, they would have seen that in my earlier posts I have said that I AM UNABLE TO WORK DUE TO MEDICAL COMPLICATIONS THAT HAPPENED WHEN I WAS PREGNANT BECAUSE OF MY DISABILITY! So, with that said...Keep your mouth shut until you know wtf is going on!

 

[LdiJ]

I didn't have to pull up the codes because I already said the same exact crap. And I would get a job if I was physically able to do so, so here's an idea...GET A F**KING LIFE!!!! The child support will go towards my daughter...all of the SSI goes towards the rent, utilities, and food. I'm not allowed to use the SSI for anything other than those things and I have to show proof. But anyways...I'm done explaining myself to anyone. I've got all the information I need to get the ball rolling, and I don't need people to running their mouths about my situation when they don't know everything. I just gave things that are important, and if people would have kept up with the whole thread, they would have seen that in my earlier posts I have said that I AM UNABLE TO WORK DUE TO MEDICAL COMPLICATIONS THAT HAPPENED WHEN I WAS PREGNANT BECAUSE OF MY DISABILITY! So, with that said...Keep your mouth shut until you know wtf is going on!

Hon...I apologize for the lack of understanding that you recieved from some people here. I truly do understand your situation as I have a family member who also has a disability that confines him to a wheelchair. I am also well aware that even though my brother in law is able to work....that many people in your situation are not. He also had enormous resources available to him that most people don't have.

However....there may be ways for you to earn at least a little bit of income....maybe even computer based....so don't completely rule that out. Even a little bit could help you out enormously...no matter how much child support you might eventually receive.

The actual legal advice that you recieved is probably better than you realize that it is...so don't completely discount that either.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

sorry ldij, but this little tramp deserves no pity.

Not once until recently did you ever mention a disability so this far in I doubt it exists. And even if it does, it's an excuse, not a reason not to find work.

And if she's disabled to the point of not being able to work, how can she satisfy a boyfriend who she said in her very first post, would adopt her child?

There is just too much about this 'person' that doesn't jive.

 

[jagz28]

LC....you are projecting again.....and you have embarrised yourself on this one.

Mom is in a wheel chair...she hasn't been specific about her disability...but its obviously fairly serious. She is also only talking about wanting 200.00 a month in child support...therefore she obviously isn't expecting child support to support her. 200.00 wouldn't support her child...let alone provide anything extra for her. So in this particular case your response falls into the "tacky" catagory.

And before you start spouting off about anything else...I have a brother in law who is confined to a wheel chair....and who is gainfully employed. However he had to go to college in order to get the kind of job that he could do from a wheel chair....and that took time.

well said $200 a month wont pay for a child. this seems to be a very hatefull site. i am interested to know how many people on here actually practice law. or have been in the situations these people are asking questions about. butterfly you have to make a reasonable atemp to contact your ex. send him a certified letter or place a ad in a few papers. if he does not return to you. then take that proof that you tried to contact him. therefor they will also place a ad in the daily legal news and local paper(plain dealer) and your childs name can be changed with no hassle if he does not reply to these forms of contact. anyone who wish's to dispute this call cuyahoga county probate court. dont repond to something unless you really know something about the situation. LdiJ is the only one i seen here with a helping hand. that did not judge her in any way. BelizeBreeze and for you shame is all i have to say. you can tell you are nothing more the a want-to-be. someone that claims to know as much as you do. would never treat anyone the way you have treated her. i cannot see anyone in you life likeing nor being proud and looking up to you! say what you will about me no bother here. for i am happy were im at and what i do. for what ever you say has no bearing on how i will sleep tonight.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

And of course you haven't read this entire thread and don't know what the hell you're talking about.

Just inform us please in which court this 'certified letter' is supposed to be filed?

You can do that can't you? Since you think you know what you're talking about...or can you read?

 

[jagz28]

excuse, not a reason not to find work.
And if she's disabled to the point of not being able to work, how can she satisfy a boyfriend who she said in her very first post, would adopt her child?
There is just too much about this 'person' that doesn't jive.

WOW this guys knows all now. you can satisfy someone with your heart. but you would not know that due to most likely no one opened theres up to you. her disability has nothing to do with the name change of her daughter so it should not even be spoken of.

 

[Whyte Noise]

Uhm... BB, in her very first post she stated her physical condition:

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Ohio

I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. I was never married to her dad, and when he found out I was pregnant, he left the picture...then a week before I had her, he came back saying he wanted to be a part of her life, and so he signed the birth certificate and she has his last name...he has only seen her a total of 21 times since she has been born and he hasn't seen her at all since she was 5 months old (May of 2003). He very rarely pays child support, so I'm receiving OWF for her, but that will stop when she's 3 years old. I'm on SSI because I'm in a wheelchair, and don't receive a lot of money, but I can't seem to find any other help for my daughter. I barely make ends meet, and I would really like to get her father's name off the birth certificate and get his rights revoked, so he's not in the picture anymore, but I'm afraid I'd be screwing myself in the long run and put myself further in debt than I am now. I have a boyfriend who says that he'd adopt her, but not for a while. I would like to get her last name changed back to mine before she realizes what a last name is. Would I be able to get him for being "unfit" and does anyone know of any help I'd be able to get for her since I'll be raising her myself? Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated!!!

Thanks.

Disabled doesn't mean dead. We could get into the semantics of the male sexual organ and how IT is able to fucntion properly when said male is paralyzed (Christopher Reeves, as an example) or when it's even dismembered and reattached (John Bobbit). So, the comment about being able to "satisfy" someone isn't even relevant to the discussion. Of course, not everyone thinks with their second head either, some of us keep all of our blood in the top one, and know that sexual satisfaction isn't the be-all and end-all of a relationship.

In any event, she stated in her first post that she was confined to a wheelchair and didn't just bring it up "recently".

 

[jagz28]

Just inform us please in which court this 'certified letter' is supposed to be filed?
QUOTE]
she is to try to contact him. by sending him a certified letter and placing a add in the paper stating she is trying to contact him. if no response from him. it will be alot easier for her to change the last name. if you doubt call 1-330-451-7724 that is one of ohio's probate court. like i said unless you have done this or do it for a living. dont give advice.

 

[LdiJ]

sorry ldij, but this little tramp deserves no pity.

Not once until recently did you ever mention a disability so this far in I doubt it exists. And even if it does, it's an excuse, not a reason not to find work.

And if she's disabled to the point of not being able to work, how can she satisfy a boyfriend who she said in her very first post, would adopt her child?

There is just too much about this 'person' that doesn't jive.

BB....I know you well....so I am actually going to give you a rational response.....when in reality what I really want to do is be the first person fast enough to do to you what you said couldn't be done.

She stated her physical disabilities clearly in her VERY FIRST post on this thread.

My sister married met and married her husband AFTER he was confined to the wheel chair. He cannot "satisfy" things in the traditional sense. My sister is not a martyr or a saint or sexually dysfunctional. She is simply a woman who fell in love with a really great guy who happens to be "challenged" and chose to marry him and build a life together. (oh and they happen to have two children who biologically belong to both of them....but whose conception significantly less than traditional)

You are sadly misguided if you think that such a relationship or marriage can't work. My sister and her husband have been married for 15 years.

You embarrised yourself on this one.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Just inform us please in which court this 'certified letter' is supposed to be filed?
QUOTE]
she is to try to contact him. by sending him a certified letter and placing a add in the paper stating she is trying to contact him. if no response from him. it will be alot easier for her to change the last name. if you doubt call 1-330-451-7724 that is one of ohio's probate court. like i said unless you have done this or do it for a living. dont give advice.

what a frikkin idiot.

Yep, let her send him a certified letter. Let her publish in a newspaper.

and then let her file for a name change. GUESS WHAT clueless, it's a waste of time. Because those actions must be performed under the auspicies of the court, NOT before.

MG, you're right. I didn't see that. Still, I think you know me well enough to know being disabled is never going to be an excuse with me. Or are the hillbillies getting to you already?