is it enough?

[Lil Miss Smarty Panties]

OK do things your way. Tell your brother to go in front of the judge and tell about her adulterous affair and how she is unfit because of it. I'm sure he has no skeletons that she will bring up. After all, he's the perfect man, husband, and father. Then come back and tell us how he won custody from the skanky whore because she cheated and everything is so wonderful now. The sky is blue and is decorated by a constant rainbow. The birds will chirp happily and there will be peace on earth and all will be right in the world for all time. Life will be wonderful and all cheaters, liars, and adulterers will be thrown into the nearest jail until they repent on their knees before God. I'm sure this will be the outcome.

 

[gobonas99]

Question for you, dummy...is everyone who has a different opinion than yours an idiot, a moron, a fool and a bitch?

For your information, I am a fairly conservative person. I do not believe in divorce unless there are extenuating circumstances (ie DV) or unless every avenue has been pursued (ie counseling). I also do not believe that ANY affair is justified - however, I am also a very empathetic person, so I try to understand why people do the things that they do. (I also do not disparage someone because they are divorced or had an affair.) Just because a husband sells his truck to build her dream house, sends her flowers, tells her she is beautiful, and makes reservations at nice restaurants does NOT mean that he is meeting her needs. While they may be nice gestures, he may have been lacking in other areas. Perhaps he was not fulfilling her needs sexually (while the steriotype is that the man is the one who wants/needs sex more ofter, there are some women who have higher sex drives than their mates - in extreme disparity, this can cause serious problems in a marriage). Maybe he was not being open with her about his emotions. Maybe he put on a good show for you and everyone else, but was emotionally abusive to her when they were alone. The point is that YOU were not a party to their marriage, so YOU can NOT know the full story of what went on. It is a fact that there are THREE sides to EVERY situation - his, hers, and the ACTUAL events.

"If he's such a horrible husband, why in the hell was he willing to have her back after finding out she was f'ing another man???"

My answer to this is that he may have been willing to take her back because he is a dependent person. Perhaps not to the extent that he can't do things by himself. Just one who prefers to have someone he KNOWS along side him. It is common that a dependent person will try to stay close to the people the know - even if their relationship is not a healthy one.

In closing, I stand by what I (and many others) have previously stated, but you insist on denying - infidelity points to the spousal relationship, NOT the parental relationship. It will NOT be the deciding factor in determining custody.

I must also reiterate that YOU were not a party to their marriage, so YOU do not KNOW what occurred. You ONLY know the pieces you have seen and the parts you have been told, which have been colored by that person's point of view.

 

[toodumb1]

He has a job, she doesn't. There's one fact for you. Why doesn't she have a job?? Because she got fired from it, that's why. She is a teacher and was screwing the coach and they both got canned. With her having no income, she cannot provide for this child like she should. And no, my marriage is not "new." I have been married for 10 years and have 2 kids. My marriage is an equal effort. We treat each other with respect and that's what gives us a strong foundation. People like you are the ones who have affairs during your marriage and think it's "okay," either because you don't get caught or because you think your needs aren't "emotionally fulfilled."

You keep harping on the "real world," well, if you are a woman who claims your needs are not emotionally fulilled, then you need to get into the real world. Just because a husband doesn't worship you when you walk in the door doesn't mean you have a right to go screw another man. Why? Because your lover will treat you the same exact way once the newness of the relationship wears off. The whore at center here is the one who needs to get into the real world and realize that her sh** DOES stink and if SHE doesn't worship her husband, why should he worship her? IT HAS TO BE AN EQUAL EFFORT.

 

[toodumb1]

You will all be shocked at the outcome of this, I can assure you. She has numerous skeletons, he doesn't. The whole town will agree with that. Maybe if you lived here, you'd understand. But you don't. She's an arrogant, self-centered slut who thinks she can treat people, including her child and husband, any way she wants and get away with it. Every dog has his day, so we'll see.

I am more amazed at the way you people take the facts and turn them into some "emotionally lacking" reason for her affair.

 

[djohnson]

You shouldn't worship anyone but God and no spouse I have ever known is God so your arguments keep getting worse by the moment. Worshipping is not meeting someones needs. Apparently you don't even know how bad you are. I think everything you just said was false because if you had been married for 10 years and had 2 kids you would be smarter than all this unless they are all ignorant also. It happens, it doesn't make it right but you can not judge her period. If she is a teacher then she has the capability of getting another job. You better hope it is still in same area and she doesn't take the child and leave. You have so many other issues and all you can focus on is this affair. It is amazing at your ignorance. Has your husband cheated on you and that is why you are so upset over this? There are deeper secrets and issue at work here than just what you are saying. Are you pushing your brother to do what you should have done (or perhaps it was a parent) but were too weak? Obvious psycho case, please seek counseling for your own good as well as that of your family.

 

[djohnson]

You will all be shocked at the outcome of this, I can assure you. She has numerous skeletons, he doesn't. The whole town will agree with that. Maybe if you lived here, you'd understand. But you don't. She's an arrogant, self-centered slut who thinks she can treat people, including her child and husband, any way she wants and get away with it. Every dog has his day, so we'll see.

I am more amazed at the way you people take the facts and turn them into some "emotionally lacking" reason for her affair.

This is amazing. If she is this bad and the WHOLE TOWN knows it, first why did he marry her? Is his self esteem so low? He couldn't do any better? He is a loser? Why did he stay with her? Why would he want to stay with her? and don't say the child because that is not a reason to stay together and even the bible says that adultery is a reason for divorce. Why would he have a child by someone like this. You just keep making it look worse and worse on him. No one here has said she would win. We only answered your original question. Go back and read it. The answer is no.

 

[toodumb1]

Man, you really are clueless. I NEVER said husbands and wives were supposed to worship each other. I said the wife thinks everyone, especially the husband, SHOULD worship her.

And no, I have no underlying problems. Like I said, I'm pissed that innocent victims are the ones who suffer. I can't stand for people to work so hard on a marriage, only to see it being destroyed by a whore. Maybe I'm bitter because my marriage is so great and I think everyone should make an effort to work on theirs. Is that so wrong of me to feel that way?

She won't be taking the child and leaving. That's already in writing and approved by the judge in the temporary agreement.

I am done with this forum. There is no point sitting here and arguing with liberals who think cheating, lying, and stealing is justifiable. You are a bunch of physchopaths who think people should just be able to go out and do anything they desire and no punishment should be given. Go f*** yourselves and learn the law before you go giving advice on it. Websites like this should be illegal.

 

[toodumb1]

Her true colors didn't show until AFTER she had the kid. Sad, but true.

 

[enjay]

Goodbye toodumb. You will be missed.

 

[stealth2]

I am done with this forum. There is no point sitting here and arguing with liberals who think cheating, lying, and stealing is justifiable. You are a bunch of physchopaths who think people should just be able to go out and do anything they desire and no punishment should be given. Go f*** yourselves and learn the law before you go giving advice on it. Websites like this should be illegal.

How many times have you said this? LOL You'll be back 'cause you really are 2dumb.

 

[djohnson]

toodumb does all the cussing and its toodunb against the numbers and we are the pychopaths? Yeah, right. Maybe reality will come in one day. I think her personal issues are in play here and its very obvious. I'm glad it's gone and hope to not return with more ignorance. Good Bye, So Long, Happy to see you go.

 

[karma1]

Will the whole town show up...

You will all be shocked at the outcome of this, I can assure you. She has numerous skeletons, he doesn't. The whole town will agree with that. Maybe if you lived here, you'd understand. But you don't. She's an arrogant, self-centered slut who thinks she can treat people, including her child and husband, any way she wants and get away with it. Every dog has his day, so we'll see.

I am more amazed at the way you people take the facts and turn them into some "emotionally lacking" reason for her affair.

in court? please tell us when that might be and where, kay~sounds like a modern day linching to me....
(keep hearing that "Greace" song now..."Tell me more, tell me more...")