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[tammied]

What is the name of your state? MS

I've recently moved here from AL. My son lives with his daddy there. We have a divorce decree, it doesn't state that our son cannot leave the state with me during our visitation. Our son needs to get to my fiance better. I live only 3 hours away so this is just a drive. NO PLANES! I am behind on my CS and my X is refusing to allow my visitation as court ordered. Can he do this legally? Can he stop me from taking him to my home, even if it is in another state?

 

[usmcfamily]

He can certainly try - he can file for a modification of the order because of the change of circumstance (the move) .........but it is unlikely that since your HOME is in the other state that the court would permanently bar you from taking him there provided you are able/willing to provide the transportation.
Why are you behind on your support? Be aware that pushing the issue for visitation may well trigger your ex to push the issue of visitation - technically/legally the two are separate issues but pursuing one often causes the pursuit of the other so be ready to answer to why you haven't paid your support as ordered.......

 

[tammied]

im behind on this becuase when we seperated he cuased me to lose my job. kindof hard to pay for something when you cant support yourself.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

im behind on this becuase when we seperated he cuased me to lose my job. kindof hard to pay for something when you cant support yourself.

My response:

That's not an excuse.

When the judge gets hold of you, and says, "How many Fast Food restaurant applications have you filled out?" and you say, "None, your Honor", then that's when the judge is going to find you in contempt of court and throw your little "trailer trash" ass in jail for a few days!

IAAL

 

[tammied]

actually i have worked in conveinent stores and fast food. i have paid what i could however i did not send it through the state. i have no receipts and i can't prove that i paid him anything.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

actually i have worked in conveinent stores and fast food. i have paid what i could however i did not send it through the state. i have no receipts and i can't prove that i paid him anything.

My response:

So, you're admitting that you're completely stupid, and can't even follow SIMPLE instructions; i.e., you shall send all payments to the State.

Did you EVEN graduate from high school? Did the drugs burn your brain THAT much?

You know, "Idiot Brains", there's a child out there. It's YOUR child. What have you done TODAY to send the money you owe? Did you know that your child needs FOOD? Did you know that your child needs CLOTHING?

What the HELL is WRONG WITH YOU?

IAAL

 

[tammied]

we had a verble agreement that he would not press support until i got on my feet. NO i am not stupid and i have a college degree. nobody said that common sence comes with the book smarts.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

we had a verble agreement that he would not press support until i got on my feet. NO i am not stupid and i have a college degree. nobody said that common sence comes with the book smarts.

My response:

Yeah, right. A degree in "Trailer Trash-ology". You're not even good at making "excuses". Is it really any wonder why your ex-husband can't stand you? Your brain is drug-fried.

I'll ask you again - -

"You know, "Idiot Brains", there's a child out there. It's YOUR child. What have you done TODAY to send the money you owe? Did you know that your child needs FOOD? Did you know that your child needs CLOTHING?

What the HELL is WRONG WITH YOU?"

IAAL

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My further response:

Just as I thought - - you can't answer the questions. I've got you pegged. What a laugh - - you can't take care of yourself, but you want to change custody so you can have your child with you. What a laugh that is - - right? Why, so your kid can live the "lavish life" like you? Or, do you think a growing child can survive on T.V. Dinners?

Geez, you must be taking "stupid pills."

IAAL

 

[tammied]

i did not come here to be berated by someone who doesn't even know me. i am at the point where i can take care of my son. I AM NOT TRAILER TRASH, as you claim. you don't know what i've been through. furhtermore, i dn't ned an opinion from a person who has to berate others because he feels bad or is insecure about himself. i don't need you to answer my questions, its obvious to me that you have a very LOW self-esteem. until you have something constructive to say SHUT-UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

i did not come here to be berated by someone who doesn't even know me. i am at the point where i can take care of my son. I AM NOT TRAILER TRASH, as you claim. you don't know what i've been through. furhtermore, i dn't ned an opinion from a person who has to berate others because he feels bad or is insecure about himself. i don't need you to answer my questions, its obvious to me that you have a very LOW self-esteem. until you have something constructive to say SHUT-UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My response:

Yes, you DO need someone to berate you!

You're a "Deadbeat mother" - - plain and simple You owe child support. If you you're "at a point" financially to take care of yourself (which I don't believe), then start paying your child support - - as you're supposed to be doing, AND to the State! You're obviously not "emotionally" ready to take care of your child, because you still owe back child support - - which tells me that you're an "emotional cripple".

Yes, my dear - - you ARE "trailer trash", and obviously, you do take "stupid pills" - - you freakin' druggie!

(and you want us to believe that your ex cheated you out of custody - - lady, you must think I fell off the turnip truck today. You're a druggie and that's why you lost custody - - custody doesn't work that way unless you're an alcoholic or a druggie)

IAAL

 

[DChristian112]

Original Poster:

You know, my ex believes he was cheated out of custody as well. I never agreed with that. He lives at home with his parents, spends his money on booze and casinos, and oh yeah, his new flavor of the month, and he feels he is financially stable to have joint custody. A judge actually told him "Unless you can prove the mother unfit, or she agrees to it, you have no reason to receive ANY custody".
He is not a druggie, just a boozer.
Maybe one day, when I start cocaine, and hit the bottle every 20 minutes, I will allow him joint custody, until such time, he was not cheated, nor were you.

I am not saying you do drugs, drink, whatever, but judges rule on this type of thing because they are looking out for the best interest of the child. It was your choice to move to another state to be with your fiancé', and it was your choice to fall behind on cs payments. It was also your choice to not save any money prior to the move so you have something to keep you financially stable.
You are the one who moved, and now you are whining because you feel you were cheated? No, it happened for a reason.

Get your self together, keep working at McD's, Holiday, wherever you are working, pay the STATE cs, cause only an idiot would assume a verbal agreement is as good as oak.

Good Luck and God's Blessings!

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

And, you'll notice that never once, not once, during this entire thread, did this person say that she is CURRENTLY working, or out filling out applications, or sending out resume's.

With all this opportunity to say, she never once said a thing about it - - except to say, "actually i have worked in convenient stores and fast food." That's in the PAST!

And, you'll notice that she never answered my question, "What have you done TODAY to send the money you owe?"

You know, DChristian, I never would have bet on it, but this "sorry excuse for a woman" - - this drug addict, this boozer - - is actually worse than another writer who comes to these boards. And, you know who I'm referring to, don't you?

IAAL

 

[Rochelle]

My husband worked for one of the biggest companies in MS, and his c/s was based on that salary. Well, the company hit the skids and he got axed. Guess what? The c/s was still due every month. Until recently, he's worked 2 part-time jobs, which paid the c/s and we have struggled along on my salary. You do what you have to do. It's tough as hell, but at least his little girl can never say her daddy didn't help her mother take care of her. Now, fortunately, he's gotten a great full-time job, and things won't be so hard for us.

Verbal agreements don't mean a damn. You better get your ass working and get that c/s paid. There's no excuse for not taking care of your kid.

 

[DChristian112]

You know, DChristian, I never would have bet on it, but this "sorry excuse for a woman" - - this drug addict, this boozer - - is actually worse than another writer who comes to these boards. And, you know who I'm referring to, don't you?

I do, indeed. It is too sad that there is one worse then another...