stepmom&mom
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What is the name of your state? Oklahoma
My stepdaughter came over for her first visit yesterday (yay!) It went exceptionally well. At one point, while the kids were playing, the strap on my stepdaughter's sandal broke, so we decided to take the kids to Wal-Mart and buy her a pair of sandals. No big deal right? While we were there, we stopped and ate at McD's (since it was right there in the store.) Then we went right back to the house and played with the kids until it was time for her to go home. We had a really great time.
When dad took daughter home she immediately started going on about everything she did and how much fun she had and how she got new shoes, etc. Well mom got really mad. She was so infuriated that we went to Wal-Mart without calling and telling her first. Now, I was at home while all of this was happening and I got a call on my phone from mom and did not answer because I had a feeling something was wrong and I wanted to talk to my husband first so that I didn't walk right into something without knowing what happened. He explained the situation to me.
In the meantime, mom is texting me like crazy and calling us, and at first I didn't want to talk to her. I didn't see what the big deal was and I didn't want to fight with her. Finally, my husband decided to call her back (and recorded the conversation I might add.) Basically, she called me a b*&!@# and said I was responsible for what happened and I knew better, blah blah blah. Apparently mom is under the impression that we can't go anywhere without her approval first. At any rate, when my husband was talking to her, she must have said "My daughter" 15 times, instead of "Our daughter" to my husband. Then she said two different times that she wished he would fall off a cliff and die (with her kids in earshot.)
Needless to say, I'm not impressed by this display of verbal abuse, and frankly, I'm tired of dealing with this woman, but as she put it, "I married into this and therefore I have to deal with her." Whatever. So my question is this:
Our court order states that following:
2. Four hours on either a Saturday or Sunday each weekend with choice of day alternating between parents. Non custodial parent may take the child away from the custodial parent’s home, provided that the specific location is made known. This visitation shall continue for a period of four to eight weeks, once again depending upon the age of the child.
I read this to mean that if our visitation will commence at a location other than our home, we are to let the CP know (for example, we take the kids to grandmas or the park or chuckee cheese.) I did not think it meant that if we went to the store or got gas or something, that we need to call her every five minutes. It was an unplanned trip because we had no idea her shoe would break and did not want to send her home with no shoes. Am I being too liberal or is she being too strict?
My stepdaughter came over for her first visit yesterday (yay!) It went exceptionally well. At one point, while the kids were playing, the strap on my stepdaughter's sandal broke, so we decided to take the kids to Wal-Mart and buy her a pair of sandals. No big deal right? While we were there, we stopped and ate at McD's (since it was right there in the store.) Then we went right back to the house and played with the kids until it was time for her to go home. We had a really great time.
When dad took daughter home she immediately started going on about everything she did and how much fun she had and how she got new shoes, etc. Well mom got really mad. She was so infuriated that we went to Wal-Mart without calling and telling her first. Now, I was at home while all of this was happening and I got a call on my phone from mom and did not answer because I had a feeling something was wrong and I wanted to talk to my husband first so that I didn't walk right into something without knowing what happened. He explained the situation to me.
In the meantime, mom is texting me like crazy and calling us, and at first I didn't want to talk to her. I didn't see what the big deal was and I didn't want to fight with her. Finally, my husband decided to call her back (and recorded the conversation I might add.) Basically, she called me a b*&!@# and said I was responsible for what happened and I knew better, blah blah blah. Apparently mom is under the impression that we can't go anywhere without her approval first. At any rate, when my husband was talking to her, she must have said "My daughter" 15 times, instead of "Our daughter" to my husband. Then she said two different times that she wished he would fall off a cliff and die (with her kids in earshot.)
Needless to say, I'm not impressed by this display of verbal abuse, and frankly, I'm tired of dealing with this woman, but as she put it, "I married into this and therefore I have to deal with her." Whatever. So my question is this:
Our court order states that following:
2. Four hours on either a Saturday or Sunday each weekend with choice of day alternating between parents. Non custodial parent may take the child away from the custodial parent’s home, provided that the specific location is made known. This visitation shall continue for a period of four to eight weeks, once again depending upon the age of the child.
I read this to mean that if our visitation will commence at a location other than our home, we are to let the CP know (for example, we take the kids to grandmas or the park or chuckee cheese.) I did not think it meant that if we went to the store or got gas or something, that we need to call her every five minutes. It was an unplanned trip because we had no idea her shoe would break and did not want to send her home with no shoes. Am I being too liberal or is she being too strict?
