RMet you are the most rude person I have seen on this whole site. I understand this is an "advice" community but let's have some compassion, you dont know how someone feels until you are in their shoes. Judge not ~ you wouldn't want someone judging you by your comments would you? Let's stick to the problem at hand! They live far apart, and he doesn't show alot of times, she is limited in funds, how can she change her visitation order to help her out? That is the issue and comments should be geared towards that, not all this other stuff.